What exactly is wrong with sex at a young age?

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Nyxelestia

I was just wondering:

There's all this concern about having sex at young ages.

(I'm not talking about extremes like 10-12) but for some reason, people are shocked at the ages people lose their Virginity, like 15 or 13.

If someone's consenting and practicing safe sex, then what's what's the problem?

I'm going to be honest and say that yes, I'm 14. AND I'll admit that I, personally, am not ready for sex. But I know plenty of people my age who aren't Virgins. They were consenting, they were safe, and none of them are 'emotionally traumatized'.

What's the problem? I want to know. I'm open to any argument.

(P.S. - I DON'T, however, want to hear anything about no sex before marriage, ESPECIALLY not backed-up with the Bible. I'm an Atheist.)

EDIT:

All right, please remember this: one of my key parts is that IF the teenagers having sex use protection, when what's wrong with it? If that's your only defense, then you're not answering the question. This discussion wasn't about teenagers not practicing safe sex. YES, I know some teenagers don't practice safe sex. They're not the ones I'm talking about. I'm talking about the ones that DO practice safe sex.

EDIT #2

Miss Nella

At any rate I think there to many risks, maturity issues, and health issues to make having sex at 13 a good idea. Many of these have already been mentioned and it seems to me that most of the people agreeing with the op are either 13 and want to have sex or they are utterly indifferent if some 13 year old they don't know goes and contracts genital warts (which condoms don't protect against).

All right, seriously, that's not the problem I was asking about.

What I mean is that why do people have such a problem morally? I know there are physical risks. Quite frankly, that's going to happen to ANYONE who has sex, regardless of age.

What I mean is that why is it people have a problem with younger teens having sex, even when they ARE physically, emotionally, and psychologically stable.

I know that there are physical risks, but that's really not the question I'm asking.

Because condoms break. Many girls your age (not all of them) may think they are ready for it, but are not. Many are just doing it for the wrong reasons, because they are not ready, such as attention. Because sex is something special that should be shared with someone you know yuo love, and at the age of 15 you may think you love someone that much, but it may also only last a month, because of horomones. Because if you do happen to get knocked up (possible, even ifyou practice safe sex) I believe abortion is wrong. Because you shouldn't be worried about that kind of stuff that early in life. Because if you loose it that early, you will be known as a slut, which is never fun, unless yuo want every horny guy in school after you. Because pap exams aren't fun, you shouldn't have to go through them so soon (btw, tell your friends you are having sex to get them done, there should be somewhere near you that gives them for free, like a teen sexual help clinic or something).

I can go on. Shall I?

No.

Sex can be just sex.
Having sex once doesn't equal slut.

Thanks.

[lucky mojo]

xXxCarnivalCreationxXx

I lost my virginity at 15.
In a relationship, to the boy I loved and still love.
We used a condom, now I'm on birth control pills.
He lost his to me as well.


I think nothing is wrong with it, as long as you are safe, and ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into it by a partner or a friend though. The main reason that people are against it is due to the Bible telling them it's sinful. Which is pathetic, you need to make your own decision and not hang on every word from a book. =/

(I'm an atheist as well)

Show your parents the BF and tell them that you are ready to have sex and you will be really careful.Theres nothing wrong with that.

[xXxCarnivalCreationxXx]

lucky mojo

What is wrong with doing teen/kid things?Is sex a typical teen/kid thing?

There's nothing wrong with that, no one ever said there was.
I still go to the movies, go shopping, play video games, etc with my boyfriend, we just have sex too. It's just another way to be closer, and it feels good too, and there's nothing wrong with that.

And it's safe so, what's the problem?

[lucky mojo]

lucky mojo

xXxCarnivalCreationxXx

I lost my virginity at 15.
In a relationship, to the boy I loved and still love.
We used a condom, now I'm on birth control pills.
He lost his to me as well.


I think nothing is wrong with it, as long as you are safe, and ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into it by a partner or a friend though. The main reason that people are against it is due to the Bible telling them it's sinful. Which is pathetic, you need to make your own decision and not hang on every word from a book. =/

(I'm an atheist as well)

Show your parents the BF and tell them that you are ready to have sex and you will be really careful.Theres nothing wrong with that.

[xXxCarnivalCreationxXx]

lucky mojo

xXxCarnivalCreationxXx

I lost my virginity at 15.
In a relationship, to the boy I loved and still love.
We used a condom, now I'm on birth control pills.
He lost his to me as well.


I think nothing is wrong with it, as long as you are safe, and ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into it by a partner or a friend though. The main reason that people are against it is due to the Bible telling them it's sinful. Which is pathetic, you need to make your own decision and not hang on every word from a book. =/

(I'm an atheist as well)

Show your parents the BF and tell them that you are ready to have sex and you will be really careful.Theres nothing wrong with that.

I already did. How else would I get birth control? xD

[Lord Setar]

lucky mojo

xXxCarnivalCreationxXx

I lost my virginity at 15.
In a relationship, to the boy I loved and still love.
We used a condom, now I'm on birth control pills.
He lost his to me as well.


I think nothing is wrong with it, as long as you are safe, and ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into it by a partner or a friend though. The main reason that people are against it is due to the Bible telling them it's sinful. Which is pathetic, you need to make your own decision and not hang on every word from a book. =/

(I'm an atheist as well)

Show your parents the BF and tell them that you are ready to have sex and you will be really careful.Theres nothing wrong with that.

Yeah, if my parents were super religious and would possibly disown me for wanting to have sex before marriage, I'd absolutely love to do that.

[Adalome]

lucky mojo

Kenta Mizusaka

lucky mojo

lucky mojo

Kenta Mizusaka

Hell, I'm 15 right now, and where I live, it's legal to have sex when you're 14 with anyone that can legally have sex; or if you're 12-14, when your partner is less than 2 years older than you. (That's right, CANADA, WOOT!!) I had sex last year when I was 14, and I'll tell you this much: I loved it. I wasn't scarred by it or anything. In fact, I take it as a great experience, even after the person I had sex with is now my ex-girlfriend (and she has the same opinion of it as me, so it's not like there's a difference between genders in my case), and believe me: we were careful. I used condoms, she took the Pill, and neither of us had an STD; we were good. As long as the teenager's careful, is educated about sex, and knows what can happen and takes the right precautions to make sure that there isn't pregnancy nor other complications, I say what's the big deal. It's human nature, and it's wonderful.

Do your parents know that?You are a kid at that age man.I know you are not not a little kid.You are a teenager but regardless,you are still a kid.Have respect for your parents and yourself.Dont have sex so young.At least wait until sixteen because the pleasure is just there for a moment and when you finish having sex,its gone.Waiting isnt too bad.Are you going to die if you wait?!

My parents know about it, don't worry. They raised me to have sex when I feel that I'm ready, but to ALWAYS have sex safely, no matter what, and guess what: I did. And as for people having sex, it applies for ANYONE that after the sex, the pleasure's gone. That's just common sense, and it's not like I'm pressuring anyone to have it. I'm just saying that I have, and that I'm proud that I have, and there should be no shame in having had sex: it's a wonderful experience, and it really expands your mind to a new level.

Oh ok xd Then thats fine.

May I ask how old you are?

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lucky mojo

Cuddling is an altenative.You still havent answered my question.Why would you want to put yourself into the problems of sex so young?

And your alternative doesn't match up to the real thing. If I want to go play a video game and someone offers me to go wash their car, yeah, it's an alternative, but it sure as hell isn't the same thing.

Because they can? What sort of question is this? Why do people put themselves into the problems of driving, university, heck, having friends so young? Because we can, and we want to and the person feels like personally they are ready to handle the situation and we believe there is a positive outcome in all of this.

[Hentai-tentacle-monster]

Lord Setar

lucky mojo

xXxCarnivalCreationxXx

I lost my virginity at 15.
In a relationship, to the boy I loved and still love.
We used a condom, now I'm on birth control pills.
He lost his to me as well.


I think nothing is wrong with it, as long as you are safe, and ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into it by a partner or a friend though. The main reason that people are against it is due to the Bible telling them it's sinful. Which is pathetic, you need to make your own decision and not hang on every word from a book. =/

(I'm an atheist as well)

Show your parents the BF and tell them that you are ready to have sex and you will be really careful.Theres nothing wrong with that.

Yeah, if my parents were super religious and would possibly disown me for wanting to have sex before marriage, I'd absolutely love to do that.

STFU UR PARENTS KNOW BEST

[Lord Setar]

caitipeach

Because it is against the law, and a lot of young people are not ready for something like sex or would not be safe about it, so pregnancy might occur, and it's not just the teen, it's the teen's parents that have to deal with this as well, if they get pregnent, the parents would have to deal with it along with STD's and AIDS.

Close in age exemptions destroy your law argument.

Furthermore, I would attribute the "young people not being ready for it" to the attitude that seems to prevail in society - sex is a bad thing to talk about. If they were properly educated, knew their options and knew what contraceptives were, I don't think that would be a problem. However, if all their parents said was "SAVE YOURSELF FOR MARRIAGE" then we have a large problem.

[lucky mojo]

I guess its ok if a 10 year old has sex.Seriously,if you really love a person(really)there is nothing wrong with it.Do it for the right reasons.But teens shouldnt make it a habit to keep having sex because thats an adult thing.

[Adalome]

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Cassalind

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lucky mojo

There are many problems you can encounter while having sex.Why do you want to face it so young?PS:If your parents say its ok,then its ok.

Hey, at least you'd be better prepared if it happens again in the future.

But seriously, these problems are all the same regardless of age. If you truly don't want problems, then it should be no sex at all for your entire life. Just postponing it to when you're an adult changes nothing.

I have to disagree. I think you will be better prepared at a higher maturity level. A 20 year old would deal with it better than, say, a 13 year old. Just because of their mentality.

Yes, but is this a reason to not have sex and to put an age on it? The same could also be said about 30 years old being more prepared, mentaly and monetary, then 20 years old.

The thing is, where to draw the limit on postponing?

It's everyone's own choice, and i support that. But (if you saw my other post by Cassalind, sorry I switched avvys) I believe the maturity level at a young age is just too low. There was a long post about why and how much it means and all of that, I don't know if you saw it, but I don't want to repeat it. I'm not saying there should be a law, I'm just saying what makes sense logically. In my mind, at least, some ages are just too young.

[Lord Setar]

lucky mojo

I guess its ok if a 10 year old has sex.Seriously,if you really love a person(really)there is nothing wrong with it.Do it for the right reasons.But teens shouldnt make it a habit to keep having sex because thats an adult thing.

What makes sex for adults only? Who or what defines this? What gives them the authority to do this? Can you prove it?

[Phalio]

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Phalio

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lucky mojo

There are many problems you can encounter while having sex.Why do you want to face it so young?PS:If your parents say its ok,then its ok.

Hey, at least you'd be better prepared if it happens again in the future.

But seriously, these problems are all the same regardless of age. If you truly don't want problems, then it should be no sex at all for your entire life. Just postponing it to when you're an adult changes nothing.

No, because as an adult you are hopefully somewhat financially stable and assuredly (if sane) under your own personal jurisdiction.

True, but once again, 'hopefully' is the word.

Okay, I can't think of any reasonably intelligent adult I know who doesn't have a legal or illegal form of financial income.

But we're really talking about the girls here aren't we, because realistically it's going to be their burden if a pregnancy happens.

And the bible morality crap is just ridiculous, because morals, dignity and respect stand alone without religion as a backbone.

Being an athiest or a devote Christian is irrelevant to me.