What exactly is wrong with sex at a young age?

[Desher_Sekhmet]

kingofkings852....please stop flooding this topic with your pointless illiterate attempts at conversation. Its a bit depressing.

Anyway....just because the body is physically ready doesn't mean a person is mentally ready to make the choices required for smart and safe sex. And using a condom? I'm sorry but throwing condoms and pills doesn't educate a person about the risks of sex nor does it prepare them emotionally for the unpleasant realities.

Sex changes a relationship...and young kids already have flighty enough romantic relationships. Why complicate it by adding sex into the mix? At those ages they need to learn about their own emotions and having healthy relationships without adding sex into it. To a lot of young people love and sex are the same thing....and that just isn't the case.

[Caljiah]

Demokritos

Really? The first I've heard of this. o_O

Oh yes. I've known some undesirable women who've done such things. These are some of the things I'm definitely going to be telling my son about. I don't want him getting caught up in something unpleasant.

I've even had friends who have done those sorts of things. Granted they were never close friends. Certainly I didn't stick around much longer after they pulled that crap.

[Demokritos]

Desher_Sekhmet

kingofkings852....please stop flooding this topic with your pointless illiterate attempts at conversation. Its a bit depressing.

Anyway....just because the body is physically ready doesn't mean a person is mentally ready to make the choices required for smart and safe sex. And using a condom? I'm sorry but throwing condoms and pills doesn't educate a person about the risks of sex nor does it prepare them emotionally for the unpleasant realities.

Sex changes a relationship...and young kids already have flighty enough romantic relationships. Why complicate it by adding sex into the mix? At those ages they need to learn about their own emotions and having healthy relationships without adding sex into it. To a lot of young people love and sex are the same thing....and that just isn't the case.

I agree completely. High school drama is just about the worst kind of drama that there is. One week you see this girl hooked up with this one guy; they talk, they date, they kiss, they disagree, they fight, then breakup. This all happens usually within a week, then she goes out with some other guy.

[Clockwork Time Lord]

My personal way to not have sex at my age, treat every sexual encounter as if the other will get pregnant.

Do not have sex unless you are physically, emotionally, and financially prepared.

[Demokritos]

Caljiah

Demokritos

Really? The first I've heard of this. o_O

Oh yes. I've known some undesirable women who've done such things. These are some of the things I'm definitely going to be telling my son about. I don't want him getting caught up in something unpleasant.

I've even had friends who have done those sorts of things. Granted they were never close friends. Certainly I didn't stick around much longer after they pulled that crap.

Kudos to you, then.

[Caljiah]

Desher_Sekhmet

kingofkings852....please stop flooding this topic with your pointless illiterate attempts at conversation. Its a bit depressing.

Anyway....just because the body is physically ready doesn't mean a person is mentally ready to make the choices required for smart and safe sex. And using a condom? I'm sorry but throwing condoms and pills doesn't educate a person about the risks of sex nor does it prepare them emotionally for the unpleasant realities.

Sex changes a relationship...and young kids already have flighty enough romantic relationships. Why complicate it by adding sex into the mix? At those ages they need to learn about their own emotions and having healthy relationships without adding sex into it. To a lot of young people love and sex are the same thing....and that just isn't the case.

You are so right! I hope I didn't come off to the contrary. I do believe I mentioned that only children who are physically and mentally ready for sex should have sex. I believe education is key.

However I also think that for those children who are mature enough and intelligent enough to make those decisions on their own, there should be laws allowing them to. I think its oppressive for adults to make all the decisions for children.

Thats not to say I think children should be able to make all of their own decisions. Thats where punishment comes in. If a bad choice is made, children should know there are consequences.

Any crazy person has the free will to go and murder someone. But that doesn't mean they will get away with it.

As such, any crazy child has the free will to go out and have sex with someone. You can't stop them just by telling them not to do it.

[AquaGlycerin]

I had sex when I was 15!!
And I had sex with a GIRL! xd

[Caljiah]

das RoRo

I had sex when I was 15!!
And I had sex with a GIRL! xd

Wewt! Go Yew!

ehehehe <3

Seriously thats an interesting thing to bring up too ^.^ I'm pretty sure I mentioned homosexuality (that applies to both men and women)

Is it alright for underage homosexual or bisexual children to have sex just because there are fewer consequences? (mainly: no possibility of conception)

Honestly I think the same rules apply. If they are mentally and physically ready for it, then there shouldn't be a problem.

[Pandageddon]

My mommy said sex is so

mething they do in Ohio. o.O

[Desher_Sekhmet]

Caljiah

das RoRo

I had sex when I was 15!!
And I had sex with a GIRL! xd

Wewt! Go Yew!

ehehehe <3

Seriously thats an interesting thing to bring up too ^.^ I'm pretty sure I mentioned homosexuality (that applies to both men and women)

Is it alright for underage homosexual or bisexual children to have sex just because there are fewer consequences? (mainly: no possibility of conception)

Honestly I think the same rules apply. If they are mentally and physically ready for it, then there shouldn't be a problem.

Same rules apply....though I still believe young children shouldn't be having any sex rolleyes

[King Gibraltar]

Let me say, first, that I am significantly older than you. Second, I lost my virginity when I was barely 12. Third, I stopped counting the number of sex partners I'd had at 300. Yes, I am straight, have always been a legally productive member of society, no I'm not a drug addict, and no I have no permanent diseases from my promiscuity.

Here is the only reason why you would want to have multiple sex partners before you settle down and be monogamous (married): when you finally hook up with that one person you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt if they really are 'the best' in terms of sexual performance. And don't think that if you've begun having sex before you're 18 that you'll NEVER have sex with more than one person. You will. It's too powerful and tempting not to use it to play around.

Here are some of the reasons you don't want to have sex before you're legally an adult OR multiple sex partners: (random order) You create a PERMANENT bond with the person whether you achieve pregnancy or not. (think about this carefully - you've dated people in the past whom you now consider psychotic, stalkers, losers, etc. without the bond of sex you can actually forget about them EVER) You cannot, regardless of current protective products, avoid the possible infections of: Body lice (external pubic 'crabs')(treatable - 1 week or so), skin mites (burrowing insects that live under your skin)(treatable - up to 12 weeks for effective extermination), genital warts(can contribute to cervical cancer and sterility in women)(treatable), herpes (similar to cold sores except genital), hepatitis (blood disease if either of you has braces and the other possibly brushes their teeth too hard you can contract this from kissing)(permanent - life threatening - symptoms treatable), meningitis (inflamatory infection of the spinal cord and fluid surrounding the brain)(life threatening - treatable through hospitalization). None of these are sexual-orientation discriminating!

That's just the SHORT list of LIKELY consequences. Most are treatable but disgusting and ALL ARE RAMPANT IN ALL SOCIAL - ECONOMIC LEVELS. That means it doesn't matter how clean, well-dressed and rich your "friend" might be, they could easily have one or more of these little gifts for you (OR YOU FOR THEM) and might not even realize it.

Did I know all these things when I was sleeping with anyone that would stand still long enough? Well, yeah, I took the class just like everyone else but I was just SURE I was discriminating enough to ONLY EVER date people who had the money and personal hygiene I too had. Uhhhh, it doesn't matter because when you have sex with someone you are actually having sex with them AND EVERYONE ELSE THEY HAVE EVER BEEN WITH. Think about that - have they ever been with anyone you would consider nasty? EVER? Are you SURE you know that? Is it worth your life if they've fibbed even a little, or forgotten? I caught a few unwanted gifts here and there but it wasn't until the doctor needed to start giving me courses of antibiotics that I realized I'd been at the buffet long enough.

It's not worth it. When you meet the person you can TRUST after you're old enough to vote you'll both be grateful that you have the same level of experience and you can experiment together instead of one of you being the sleazy teacher, know what I mean? And if you're with someone now you'll BOTH be grateful you waited. REALLY you will.

[King Gibraltar]

Myythren

At the age of 13 or 14, the teen brain is not done growing. Part that affects your ability to make good and lasting decisions. As you get older, things improve.

http://www.edinformatics.com/news/teenage_brains.htm

So an older teen has a more developed brain that they can use to make better life choices, like those surrounding sex, than a younger teen.

By law, you cannot 'consent' to something that you do not fully comprehend. Consider ALL the ramifications and you will be smart enough to find a non-penetrative, body-fluid-exchanging way to satisfy whatever urges you feel need to be satisfied.

[karly721]

i think it all about the person, people mature at diffrent ages, if someone is ready to do that with somone they love then that is there choice

[jayjaykaka]

Is touching each other in your private places called sex?
Is getting on top of each other with your clothes on is called sex?
Is rubbing your v****a on another person's leg called sex?
When is a good age to have sex?
If you are thinking about what sex will be like at a young age, is that a bad thing?
If you are thinking about how sex will feel like ,and in your dreams you actually feel what it is like: and you see the man you are doing it with. Is that bad or good?