What exactly is wrong with sex at a young age?

[Myythren]

MetalTaco

Myythren

At the age of 13 or 14, the teen brain is not done growing. Part that affects your ability to make good and lasting decisions. As you get older, things improve.

http://www.edinformatics.com/news/teenage_brains.htm

So an older teen has a more developed brain that they can use to make better life choices, like those surrounding sex, than a younger teen.

Think about this though, nobodies brain stops growing until the age of 25. As people get older, they might make smarter decisions but there is no guarantee. And I do know that there are some teenagers who do have better decision making skills then most adult's do.

Lol. No. But on average a 16 year old will make better choices than a 12 year old. So it would make sense to make the age of consent older rather than younger. Personally, I think if we plan on giving (or allowing them to have) them car keys at 16, might as well permit sex at that age as well. I think you need similar maturity. Although I don't know who picked 16 as the age for driving, but thats a whole other thing.

At the same time, I think salutary rape laws need to be done carefully, and have plenty of exemptions. No 16 year old should go to jail for sleeping with his 14 year old girlfriend when she consented (and was not tricked or whatever).

[Slayer Jeans]

Ebony_Anne

Teenagers want to have sex because their hormones are raging. They don't stop to think about what having sex actually means. There are many dangers with it.

1. IT'S AGAINST THE LAW
2. AIDS
3. STDs
4. Pregnancy

No teenager ever thinks about those things. They are just caught up in the moment and the fact it feels soo good etc.

erm you really didnt read what she wrote did you..she said concenting to safe sex! meaning no AIDs,STDs or teenage pregnancy >_<

as for sex at a young age..I for one think it is wrong, but that just my opinon 13 is just to young for sex! because they haven't just yet hit puberty..some kids do it to feel older, some do it because they have the chance, me i never even thought about sex when i was 13 lol I lost my virginity this year biggrin so yar..

[wishingdreamer]

Well, when you're a teen, I figured that it's a time to put what's important first, set the priorities straight. Isn't family, education and health most important? I think that education would rank higher that making love. Being not a virgin won't help us get through life, education would help. Family too, should be considered, do the parent's know and all? Their opinion matter too, I know that it sounds cliche but they know best except if they REALLY don't care. Health, well, there are some who get messed up in the head after having sex, thinking that they can live on each other but they are YOUNG, they don't have jobs or a future yet.

[Steampunk Patashu]

Myythren

MetalTaco

Myythren

At the age of 13 or 14, the teen brain is not done growing. Part that affects your ability to make good and lasting decisions. As you get older, things improve.

http://www.edinformatics.com/news/teenage_brains.htm

So an older teen has a more developed brain that they can use to make better life choices, like those surrounding sex, than a younger teen.

Think about this though, nobodies brain stops growing until the age of 25. As people get older, they might make smarter decisions but there is no guarantee. And I do know that there are some teenagers who do have better decision making skills then most adult's do.

Lol. No. But on average a 16 year old will make better choices than a 12 year old. So it would make sense to make the age of consent older rather than younger. Personally, I think if we plan on giving (or allowing them to have) them car keys at 16, might as well permit sex at that age as well. I think you need similar maturity. Although I don't know who picked 16 as the age for driving, but thats a whole other thing.

At the same time, I think salutary rape laws need to be done carefully, and have plenty of exemptions. No 16 year old should go to jail for sleeping with his 14 year old girlfriend when she consented (and was not tricked or whatever).

1. By your logic, no one should be allowed to have sex, because no one EVER stops learning new things and attaining better judgement. And if you can't draw the line anywhere, why draw it at all?
2. Sex is not at all like driving. Being a bad driver can cause an accident, but being a bad sexer won't kill a soul.
EDIT: Perhaps it might be better to phrase it this way: You can consent to sex, but you can't consent to being crashed into and dieing/suffering grevious injuries.
As long as sex education is done early and often, encouraging contraception and safe sex, what's the harm of some teens doing it?

[Steampunk Patashu]

wishingdreamer

Well, when you're a teen, I figured that it's a time to put what's important first, set the priorities straight. Isn't family, education and health most important? I think that education would rank higher that making love. Being not a virgin won't help us get through life, education would help. Family too, should be considered, do the parent's know and all? Their opinion matter too, I know that it sounds cliche but they know best except if they REALLY don't care. Health, well, there are some who get messed up in the head after having sex, thinking that they can live on each other but they are YOUNG, they don't have jobs or a future yet.

So, we shouldn't ever have sex, because there's always something more important.

[foxracingbk71]

Nyxelestia

I was just wondering:

There's all this concern about having sex at young ages.

(I'm not talking about extremes like 10-12) but for some reason, people are shocked at the ages people lose their Virginity, like 15 or 13.

If someone's consenting and practicing safe sex, then what's what's the problem?

I'm going to be honest and say that yes, I'm 14. AND I'll admit that I, personally, am not ready for sex. But I know plenty of people my age who aren't Virgins. They were consenting, they were safe, and none of them are 'emotionally traumatized'.

What's the problem? I want to know. I'm open to any argument.

(P.S. - I DON'T, however, want to hear anything about no sex before marriage, ESPECIALLY not backed-up with the Bible. I'm an Atheist.)

Becuase the age of consent is 18 for a reason. Safe is an unsafe thing. Sex causes kids. Is ANY 13 year old ready to be a mother? You've got to be pretty stupid to think that you're ready to have sex if you're only 13 years old. You don't know s**t about life yet. It's better to stay back and learn things the easy way. There's nothing wrong with that.

[foxracingbk71]

Steampunk Patashu

1. By your logic, no one should be allowed to have sex, because no one EVER stops learning new things and attaining better judgement. And if you can't draw the line anywhere, why draw it at all?
2. Sex is not at all like driving. Being a bad driver can cause an accident, but being a bad sexer won't kill a soul.
EDIT: Perhaps it might be better to phrase it this way: You can consent to sex, but you can't consent to being crashed into and dieing/suffering grevious injuries.
As long as sex education is done early and often, encouraging contraception and safe sex, what's the harm of some teens doing it?

It's called a metaphor you ******** idiot. At least argue with something constructive. I want my 3 minutes of reading back!

[Steampunk Patashu]

foxracingbk71

Steampunk Patashu

1. By your logic, no one should be allowed to have sex, because no one EVER stops learning new things and attaining better judgement. And if you can't draw the line anywhere, why draw it at all?
2. Sex is not at all like driving. Being a bad driver can cause an accident, but being a bad sexer won't kill a soul.
EDIT: Perhaps it might be better to phrase it this way: You can consent to sex, but you can't consent to being crashed into and dieing/suffering grevious injuries.
As long as sex education is done early and often, encouraging contraception and safe sex, what's the harm of some teens doing it?

It's called a metaphor you ******** idiot. At least argue with something constructive. I want my 3 minutes of reading back!

Uhh, come again?

[Steampunk Patashu]

foxracingbk71

Nyxelestia

I was just wondering:

There's all this concern about having sex at young ages.

(I'm not talking about extremes like 10-12) but for some reason, people are shocked at the ages people lose their Virginity, like 15 or 13.

If someone's consenting and practicing safe sex, then what's what's the problem?

I'm going to be honest and say that yes, I'm 14. AND I'll admit that I, personally, am not ready for sex. But I know plenty of people my age who aren't Virgins. They were consenting, they were safe, and none of them are 'emotionally traumatized'.

What's the problem? I want to know. I'm open to any argument.

(P.S. - I DON'T, however, want to hear anything about no sex before marriage, ESPECIALLY not backed-up with the Bible. I'm an Atheist.)

Becuase the age of consent is 18 for a reason. Safe is an unsafe thing. Sex causes kids.

Kids should be taught about sex and most of all safe sex from primary school onward.
Contraception stops babies. Abortion stops babies. Birth control stops babies.

Quote:

Is ANY 13 year old ready to be a mother?

Here's the cinch: You can have sex without risking pregnancy. Ever heard of a condom?

[Coyote Angel]

Sex is wrong at a young age becuase:

-Nobody is ready to be a parent at 13
-Even if safe, nobody is prepared for the emotional obsessions (love) it can represent
-Inappropriate content before the age of consent
-Decision making lacks in maturity at young ages, even all teens
-Also depends on how old the other member is, you might be illegal
-Age of consent is 18
-It is a gateway to higher, sometimes more dangerous temptations (more sex, more, even rape eventually)

The biggest thing I'm trying to point out, besides the physical aspects of having sex as a child, is the dangers that it can cause mentally for those that THINK they're prepared for it. Nobody thinks when it happens, and you know that. When a girl/guy is about to go all the way, what exactly are you thinking about? I sure hope it's not Bacon & Eggs for breakfast.. especially for someone on their first time.

People at a young age that have sex, develop a misunderstanding for the meaning of love as they grow up.

[Coyote Angel]

Steampunk Patashu

Kids should be taught about sex and most of all safe sex from primary school onward.
Contraception stops babies. Abortion stops babies. Birth control stops babies.

Wait.. so killing babies makes it okay to have sex as much as we want? Please don't turn this into an abortion debate. If you notice, his points weren't JUST revolving around physical dangers of premature and underage sex.

[Chromatic Blur]

Nyxelestia

I was just wondering:

There's all this concern about having sex at young ages.

(I'm not talking about extremes like 10-12) but for some reason, people are shocked at the ages people lose their Virginity, like 15 or 13.

If someone's consenting and practicing safe sex, then what's what's the problem?

I'm going to be honest and say that yes, I'm 14. AND I'll admit that I, personally, am not ready for sex. But I know plenty of people my age who aren't Virgins. They were consenting, they were safe, and none of them are 'emotionally traumatized'.

What's the problem? I want to know. I'm open to any argument.

(P.S. - I DON'T, however, want to hear anything about no sex before marriage, ESPECIALLY not backed-up with the Bible. I'm an Atheist.)

That last part of the post ruins the whole thing.

If you don't want to hear something, don't post at all.

People like you are the reason Atheists get bad names and bad records.

(I only just noticed that every teenager out there is an Atheist, I call angst.)

[Coyote Angel]

Steampunk Patashu

Quote:

Is ANY 13 year old ready to be a mother?

Here's the cinch: You can have sex without risking pregnancy. Ever heard of a condom?

I really don't mean to pick on you piece by piece, but those DO break often, fall off, and even leak. Most condoms (oh god I feel like the dad from American Pie) are not suitable (size.. sorry) for young kids that haven't fully developed their bodies to their maximum growth.

[Coyote Angel]

Chromatic Blur

That last part of the post ruins the whole thing.

If you don't want to hear something, don't post at all.

People like you are the reason Atheists get bad names and bad records.

(I only just noticed that every teenager out there is an Atheist, I call angst.)

Haha, good one Chromatic Blur. It's true though, not only do teens nowadays disbelieve the common beliefs, but they also lack the moral value that those belief withhold in them. That's another reason why Minors should not endure underage sex.