Master/slave Dom/sub conversations

Do you live D/s as a lifestyle or as strictly bedroom addition?

I'm in it for the long haul! 24/7!	16.7%	[ 2 ]
I don't see how it's even possible to do it outside the bedroom...	25.0%	[ 3 ]
It's who I am, and I'm me 24/7	33.3%	[ 4 ]
I really just like the thought of livening up my sex life	0.0%	[ 0 ]
Neither, this whole thing seems silly. Why would anyone want to give up control!	0.0%	[ 0 ]
~hip thrust and a little shimmy~ (Pole whore)	25.0%	[ 3 ]
Total Votes:			[ 12 ]

[Slasher Girl]

~waves~ Sorry guys, I have to get. Normally I would stay longer, but I really need to get this medicine to my friend. I'll be back as soon as I finish dinner. ~just now notices the post that started the beer comment!~ Eeep! ~looks around for a beer opener and gets the top off before holding it out to Kaos~ I'm sorry that took so long. ~casts her eyes down to her feet~

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

I somehow get the idea, that D/S has to be introduced to you early, to get important for your life.. oO'

Well, kaos.. that sounds great.. but youll agree if I say life isnt perfect.. ^^
my bf often gets angry because things dont go as he wants them to.. a hastily opened bottle that spills water onto the floor would be enough to get him furious, so he yells at me because he needs someone to yell at.. I know he doenst mean it personally, but after some times Im either very very pissed, or I yell back which then makes him depressed.. now image what happened if one of us was dom.. x_X;
as long as its only a session you can forget such things and only play roles, but what if it gets personal?
I mean, yes, a dom has a responsibility and if s/he doesnt act according to it s/he shouldnt be dom, but people arent perfect, so, do you have codewords for such things too? o0'

and, no, we never used signals and such things before.. I know if I really hurt him (he doesnt, which is why I wont let him be dom >>" ), so we didnt need them so far..
and sessions arent planned, too.. its somehow spontaneous.. o0'

[SinObsidian]

Yes alot of people enjoy going out and getting drunk. However that does not make them a 'drunk'... A drunk is someone that mentally and physically needs to stay intoxicated at all times, they're a very serious alcoholic. The majority of people, once they get past their teens and start to act like adults, are pretty responsible about their drinking and most adults will very rarely go out, just to get drunk. As I've already stated in earlier posts, I was beaten severely, molested, raped, mentally and emotionally abused. Most of the physical was done by my father, do you know what it's like to have a 6'2 280lbs MAN beat the ever living crap out of his own 4 year old son who then gets left alone in a corner unconscious and bleeding? I was treated like an animal, if you saw any of the coverage from Michael Vicks little kennel club you'll get an idea of what I mean. The mental and emotional came from my mother and step-dad, the only people I should have been able to turn to for safety, do you know what it's like to speak your opinion to a sober person, have them pin you to your own bed by your throat and then punch you repeatedly in the face? The sexual abuse came from outside the family, various males and females that were friends of the family. "Point taken?"

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

btw, Kaos, may I ask how old you are? o.o

[SinObsidian]

*takes the beer and pets Slasher* It's ok darlin. I'll be 26 end of July Sklave. And I will agree that life isn't perfect. It sounds to me as if your boyfriend may actually be very submissive, with an immature streak. Questions, when he gets angry with you because things don't go his way, is he really yelling at your, or does it sound more like he's being a spoiled brat? When you yell at him, are you really sure he's depressed? Or is he putting on a show? If you won't let him be the Dominant because he wouldn't know if her really hurt you, while you do recognize this, show you to be the Dominant party in the realtionship.

[yogurt flavored tampon]

Demon Lord Kaos

Yes alot of people enjoy going out and getting drunk. However that does not make them a 'drunk'... A drunk is someone that mentally and physically needs to stay intoxicated at all times, they're a very serious alcoholic. The majority of people, once they get past their teens and start to act like adults, are pretty responsible about their drinking and most adults will very rarely go out, just to get drunk. As I've already stated in earlier posts, I was beaten severely, molested, raped, mentally and emotionally abused. Most of the physical was done by my father, do you know what it's like to have a 6'2 280lbs MAN beat the ever living crap out of his own 4 year old son who then gets left alone in a corner unconscious and bleeding? I was treated like an animal, if you saw any of the coverage from Michael Vicks little kennel club you'll get an idea of what I mean. The mental and emotional came from my mother and step-dad, the only people I should have been able to turn to for safety, do you know what it's like to speak your opinion to a sober person, have them pin you to your own bed by your throat and then punch you repeatedly in the face? The sexual abuse came from outside the family, various males and females that were friends of the family. "Point taken?"

I am sorry for your problems. I did not mean point taken as in a constest of who has a worse life because I am actually trying to stop thinking negative. I mean't, that we could end the subject, knowing that beer can be a cruel thing. && I put drunk/gets drunk to refer to both. I do not know what a 6'2 280lb feels like, but when you are almost a foot shorter then your dad, he weights atleast twice the ammount you do, I think it could come close. Now I PLEASE hope you get the picture, I'm not trying to out smart you or make you look dumb. Although, I come off that way. >.>

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

immature is the right word for it.. he's highly intelligent, but not really not suited for daily life in society.. he's actually a year older than you (Im 22), but mostly acts (and feels) like about 12..
when things go wrong he's mostly yelling at himself for not making things right, therefore very frustrated.. generally, by the way.. you cant tell the world you never grew up since you were twelve when they want you to finish college and get a job.. thats getting him depressed..
well, but that doesnt really fit the thread.. ^^'

mh, we're kinda equal in relationship, or, better, wer share the important tasks.. but as long as I dont see the other one taking the situation under control I will do it and play the dominant part.. although what I really want would be giving up the responsibility to someone whos better at it.. so, you could call me switch I think.. o0

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Demon Lord Kaos

*takes the beer and pets Slasher* It's ok darlin. I'll be 26 end of July Sklave. And I will agree that life isn't perfect. It sounds to me as if your boyfriend may actually be very submissive, with an immature streak. Questions, when he gets angry with you because things don't go his way, is he really yelling at your, or does it sound more like he's being a spoiled brat? When you yell at him, are you really sure he's depressed? Or is he putting on a show? If you won't let him be the Dominant because he wouldn't know if her really hurt you, while you do recognize this, show you to be the Dominant party in the realtionship.

Just putting an input in (not to almost start another fight) But, slaves can also detect when they hurt their master.

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

iWHYC

Just putting an input in (not to almost start another fight) But, slave can also detect when they hurt their master.

they can.
but since the master is the one with the paddle/candle/needle I'd prefer it the other way round.. ^^'
(they should both know, though, especially when it comes to non-physical things..)

[yogurt flavored tampon]

LassMichDeinSklaveSein

iWHYC

Just putting an input in (not to almost start another fight) But, slave can also detect when they hurt their master.

they can.
but since the master is the one with the paddle/candle/needle I'd prefer it the other way round.. ^^'
(they should both know, though, especially when it comes to non-physical things..)

Some people handle emotional pain better then physically. You REALLY have to know your partner, and also realize that some people are sadistic/enjoy sadistic acts(there is a word for this, but I'm drawing a blank). That would mostly pertain to BDSM though, which is simpular, and involves s&M relationships. Basically, if you have sessions atleast 3 times a week or live together, you should have a bond that is far enough to know just about every quality of that person. For a slave, its going to be how to pleasure your master, when to do it, and how far your master lets you go with control. Some masters don't let them sit until told, some don't care when you come onto them sexually. For masters, its when to draw the REAL line with your control, power, and have respect for the slave that has basically given their life to you. Although, most people already know this.

[Raiden Youkai]

"Since when in hell has this thread been created?
I think i like it. >;D"
<3~

[Slasher Girl]

~rubs her stomach and sits back down on the couch~ Sorry that took so long! She didn't end up showing until much later, but now she will be able to at least get one night of sleep with all of that.

Hello, Raiden and welcome to our D/s Support Group. If you have any questions please feel free to ask ^-^.

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

iWHYC

Some people handle emotional pain better then physically. You REALLY have to know your partner, and also realize that some people are sadistic/enjoy sadistic acts(there is a word for this, but I'm drawing a blank). That would mostly pertain to BDSM though, which is simpular, and involves s&M relationships. Basically, if you have sessions atleast 3 times a week or live together, you should have a bond that is far enough to know just about every quality of that person. For a slave, its going to be how to pleasure your master, when to do it, and how far your master lets you go with control. Some masters don't let them sit until told, some don't care when you come onto them sexually. For masters, its when to draw the REAL line with your control, power, and have respect for the slave that has basically given their life to you. Although, most people already know this.

again, it would be like that in a perfect world.. in real life, theres just too much to consider to make it all right.. I know my bf for three years now, and there are still things I dont know about what he likes and dislikes, so big mistakes are still happen now and then.. ^^
but, yes, generally, you're totally right.. XD ^^

[LassMichDeinSklaveSein]

Raiden_Youkai

"Since when in hell has this thread been created?
I think i like it. >;D"
<3~

hi there.. ^^
nice avi <3

[yogurt flavored tampon]

LassMichDeinSklaveSein

iWHYC

Some people handle emotional pain better then physically. You REALLY have to know your partner, and also realize that some people are sadistic/enjoy sadistic acts(there is a word for this, but I'm drawing a blank). That would mostly pertain to BDSM though, which is simpular, and involves s&M relationships. Basically, if you have sessions atleast 3 times a week or live together, you should have a bond that is far enough to know just about every quality of that person. For a slave, its going to be how to pleasure your master, when to do it, and how far your master lets you go with control. Some masters don't let them sit until told, some don't care when you come onto them sexually. For masters, its when to draw the REAL line with your control, power, and have respect for the slave that has basically given their life to you. Although, most people already know this.

again, it would be like that in a perfect world.. in real life, theres just too much to consider to make it all right.. I know my bf for three years now, and there are still things I dont know about what he likes and dislikes, so big mistakes are still happen now and then.. ^^
but, yes, generally, you're totally right.. XD ^^

Then I am just lucky. I have had two or three masters, I've never lived with them because of age differences though, I am still very young, but the relationship went well. (one of being a boyfriend, so I know how that feels also. xD)