Background: My boyfriend and I are friends with a couple. The other couple are more experienced in relationships than us, and are a lot louder generally, whereas my boyfriend and I are more quiet.
Now, this other couple constantly keep asking my boyfriend and I personal questions about our relationship, such as directly asking us how far we've gone, whether we love each other etc... I'm normally fine with people asking questions, but there's a line that they keep crossing with the questioning. We normally give them the silent treatment, which gets the message across, but it's been going on for nearly 2 months now.
Earlier this evening, they were asking even more personal questions, and I told my boyfriend this. Long story short, we typed out a mini-essay about how it was pissing us off, and how we'd appreciate it if they would stop with the questioning. We thought we'd done it politely, in a non-conflict manner. However, the other couple obviously found it insulting that we couldn't take a "joke", and that the questions were "only meant in jest". stare
We replied, telling them that we didn't appreciate it, and that it's not obvious that it's meant as a joke. That's when the conversation burst out into a full-blown arguement, which was the last thing that we wanted, featuring some personal attacks from both sides. After the convo had finished, they want us to wipe the slate clean. We agreed, but said that we would like them to bear the fact that the constant questioning is rather insulting to us.
We don't want to lose their friendship, but after this happened, we think that they're both avoiding us. We're not entirely sure whether it was because that we'd had enough, and that we told them as much, or because of them bringing personal attacks into the arguement, but we don't think we've gotten anywhere, apart from putting our friendship at risk... sad
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