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PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 7:23 am
I've been bisexual for about a year now, i'm a teenager, and I just don't know what to do. Should I tell my family? Or should I keep it to myself?
 
PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 12:58 pm
Well, first you'll need to consider how your parents will respond and their overall acceptance of LGBT individuals.
In the past, have they said anything negative about people that are LGBT?
Also, you need to consider the environment you live in.
Would having others know jeopardize your safety/security?
Some parents will go as far as to disown their own child.
But it may change their feelings towards you.

Furthermore, are you comfortable coming out?
If not, you don't need to force it out of yourself.
Do it when you're ready.
Though, when you do, you don't need to make a big deal out of it.
It would elicit others to react poorly... but also it ISN'T a big deal.  

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 5:08 pm
I tried telling my mom.
Even though she's religious and conservative.
What was I thinking? In any case, she didn't believe me. I'd think it depends on who. Are they like my mom? Or are they more allowing? Try a conversation about views on homosexuality, and see what they say.  
PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 7:10 pm
I'd say don't put yourself into a position where if your parents should undoubtedly act in a negative manner to your coming out that your safety or well being would be compromised.

Gauge where your parents acceptance levels are at and if you feel that they would be understanding enough then feel free to divulge your self-impression to them.
 

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 10, 2013 10:33 pm
I honestly like keeping secrets. So no one irl knows I'm bi.  
PostPosted: Fri Jan 11, 2013 5:38 am
im 24 and didnt tell my dad until this year.

you need to take into consideration how your family will react and if there is a reason you need to tell them right now.

keep in mind that coming out is not a race. do if when you feel the time is right and not a moment sooner. just make 100% sure you are ready in case it doesnt go well  

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PostPosted: Fri Jan 11, 2013 8:16 am
you don't really need to tell them until you bring home a same sex partner.  
PostPosted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 4:02 pm
If you tell them, you have to prepare for their inevitable responses. Depending on your family they can be different but remember that no matter what, you're you. heart
 

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PostPosted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 4:20 pm
be prepared to be have your sexuality be considered a phase  
PostPosted: Tue Feb 12, 2013 11:06 pm
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I've been bisexual for about a year now, i'm a teenager, and I just don't know what to do. Should I tell my family? Or should I keep it to myself?

What's your family like? are they anything like the bible thumping sunday zombies i grew up with? lol  

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 13, 2013 8:57 am
The only thing I can say that others haven't, is either come out or don't.

What I mean is when I was dealing with coming out, I got it in my head that if I were straight I wouldn't need to sit my parents down and tell them I liked boys. So why would I need to sit them down to say that I liked boys and then some? I thought I was being progressive, but really I was being a coward. My parents deserved a straight-forward conversation, not just me being like "oh btw I have a crush on this girl" in the middle of a bunch of insanity around said girl. Instead of making it a casual situation and easier to deal with, I made it much harder on them.

So whatever decision you make, just be firm in it.  
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