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[Narcoleptic Tree Nut]

Sooo I finally decided to start dating. And I did. It was a double date and we all hung out at the mall and hit up all the toy stores and it was so much fun. Buuut then we saw a movie and he wanted to hold hands and get snuggly and I tried but just oshosuedyt. And that was the second date. On the third date he wanted to kiss (duh) but it just felt... creepy... idk. I thought maybe I just wasn't ready but it's hard for me to imagine kissing guys (and... other stuff). It just seems icky to me. I didn't even like being alone with him, I just wanted us to stay a group but the other two wanted to be together and he wanted privacy but ugh. I've talked to family about the possibility of me being gay but they want me to keep an open mind and experiment with boys first but the whole idea just puts me off. I want to try dating girls now that I've dated a guy but I don't even know where to start. :I You'd think the school I go to would be full of at least bi girls but I seriously can't tell... And what if I strike up a relationship with a girl and then I figure out I'm straight? I don't want to hurt anyone. But if I think that way I'll never date anyone ever. xP

Buuuuh guys what do. I guess I'm just getting all this off my chest but if there's any advice throw it my way 'cause I'm all kinds of angsty and confused right now. gonk  

[marzipancakes]

You're in high school so whether you start a relationship with a guy or a girl, you or them are going to end up changing their minds and someone's going to get hurt. SO DON'T WORRY ABOUT THAT.  

[captain buttcheeks]

you may just be really picky. i'm the same way, it's really difficult for me to warm up to the idea of kissing any guy unless i think he's attractive right off the bat. like last time i hooked up with a dude, all i could think about while kissing him was "omg gross omg gross WHEN WILL THIS END UGGHH GROOOOSS"

i wish i could do stuff with girls but i'm really really really shy D: but uh. you're just starting to figure yourself out here so give it a little time and wiggle room. don't worry about playing the field to see what you like, that's what everyone does in college anyway.  

[breedney]

captain buttcheeks

i wish i could do stuff with girls

pardon

anyway
don't worry about not knowing who you wanna date and stuff. experiment with both! like mary said. high school. things change.
and it's better not to kiss a guy if you're not like, ready and okay with it. don't rush into things, it'll all be okay <3  

[Tenacious Travis]

touch a few wangs, dive into a few vagoos. test the waters. see how s**t feels brah.  

[Narcoleptic Tree Nut]

I started college last year. gonk But, yeah you guys are right. I'm almost 19, that's still pretty young. Idk why I feel like I need to rush into dating and stuff. I don't have to "catch-up" with anyone, people go at different speeds. I guess I'm just getting impatient. xD

YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME. I feel a lot better about everything now, thank you. <3  

[Keito-san]

What's up. ;D

Hahaha, dude, experiment away. There's never a rush to make up your mind. If you find something you like, stick to it, and don't let others judge you for not knowing what you want -- you're new to the game. Good luck, Harley!  

[skulI rabbit]

Pretty much experiment. Think about how you feel with vaginas versus penises. lmao. Kissing really isn't a big deal with any gender imo. But i just cannot imagine touching tits and vageen. Just try going on a few dates with girls. put yourself out there somehow tell them your situation maybe they'll understand.  

[Narcoleptic Tree Nut]

Keito-san

What's up. ;D

 

[Keito-san]

Narcoleptic Tree Nut

Keito-san

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[Narcoleptic Tree Nut]

Keito-san

Narcoleptic Tree Nut

Keito-san

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[Keito-san]

Narcoleptic Tree Nut

Keito-san

Narcoleptic Tree Nut

Keito-san

What's up. ;D

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[noramine]

1. I'd date you.

2. What everyone else said about take it at your own pace/experiment, etc.

3. I think a big part of it is intuitive. Once you find a person that you really dig, either gender (if you do at all, maybe you're on the asexual scale, maybe you're not, who knows), you can suss out what about them is what turns you on about them. Then if it works, great, and if it doesn't, learn from that. Learn what you like and don't like, and the next time you're hot for someone, totally try to suss out what it is that attracted you to them as well. Maybe not dating at all, but expanding the amount and type of people that you interact with, would also help you figure out what qualities you like.

Have you ever fantasized about any celebrities or characters in books? What attracted you to them? What genders were they? Could you picture yourself kissing and holding hands with any of them? Maybe keep a "relationship" journal to work on figuring this out.

4. Your family is awesome.