Pain sucks

[wolf_with_a_dragon]

Remember how a few months ago I finally got together with my crush and I was super happy? Well, now I'm kind of depressed. We broke up a little over a month ago. Well, she dumped me a little over a month ago. But that's not what has me super depressed. What has me super depressed is that she's married to her douchebag ex. Turns out she'd been married to him the whole time. She claims that she didn't know she was married. I want to believe her, but I have my doubts. What's worse is that he's an a** that treated her badly, almost hit her once(only because she dodged in time), and tried to disown his own kids several times while she was with me. And she's still with him! She basically left me and got back together with that scum! It's got me super depressed, my self esteem has hit an all time low, it's basically non existent. And when I tried to bring it up to her, about how it affected me and how much I hate her husband, she told me to stop talking bad about him or we couldn't be friends anymore. I feel like I was played, hell I was. I just don't know who played me...

Sorry for bringing this up. Sorry for troubling you by having you read this, just in a lot of pain right now and need someone to vent to. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to break down now... Again.  

[Kor Saiyajinkami]

Damn that sucks. I totally want to say something that will be helpful, but I don't know exactly what I should say because I don't want to say the wrong thing and make you feel worse.  

[wolf_with_a_dragon]

Kor Saiyajinkami

Damn that sucks. I totally want to say something that will be helpful, but I don't know exactly what I should say because I don't want to say the wrong thing and make you feel worse.

Don't worry about it man. I'll get over it...eventually...I hope. Again, I just really needed to vent, so I came here. But thanks for caring, actually means quite a bit.  

[Zphal]

*Hugs* You're right, that's messed. Especially since you're such a good guy. She doesn't realize what she's turning away. I'm sorry things didn't work out between the two of you. sad You have a big heart, wolf.  

[Hiddochi wolf]

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. neutral Everything Z said is right; she doesn't know what she's losing by doing this to you. How the heck do you NOT know you're married? Like damn.

Sounds like she's a glutton for punishment when it comes to that ex/husband of hers. It's messed up, but there's nothing you can really do for her. She has to realize for herself what isn't okay when it comes to relationships, and she has to want to get out of a bad situation. You can't blame yourself for any of it, wolf, because it's not your fault.  

[wolf_with_a_dragon]

Zphal

*Hugs* You're right, that's messed. Especially since you're such a good guy. She doesn't realize what she's turning away. I'm sorry things didn't work out between the two of you. sad You have a big heart, wolf.

*hugs back* Thanks Z. I appreciate the support. And it sucks it didnt work out. I really cared about her, still do, and i was hoping that maybe she would find somebody better if she decided she didn't want to be with me. But finding out she was married to him and that she was going to stay with him, that dealt a massive blow to me. Made me question why she was willing to put so much effort into being with him and not me. Made me wonder what was wrong with me, you know. Completely destroyed what little self esteem I had.  

[wolf_with_a_dragon]

Hiddochi wolf

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. neutral Everything Z said is right; she doesn't know what she's losing by doing this to you. How the heck do you NOT know you're married? Like damn.

Sounds like she's a glutton for punishment when it comes to that ex/husband of hers. It's messed up, but there's nothing you can really do for her. She has to realize for herself what isn't okay when it comes to relationships, and she has to want to get out of a bad situation. You can't blame yourself for any of it, wolf, because it's not your fault.

Yeah, I can't figure out she wouldn't know she's married.

Yeah, I know it's not my fault. I know there's nothing I could have done to make her see how he's no good and change her mind. I did everything I could to help her see that he's just a giant mistake. But it doesn't make me feel much better. I still feel like I failed, you know? Like, I know there's nothing I could have done and there's nothing I can do now, but I still feel like I did something wrong. I don't know. But thanks for the support and taking the time to try and help. It really means a lot to me.