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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 12:24 pm
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I've been trying to figure this out, and while I feel right with God, I'm still confused.
My fiance and I had premarital sex almost a year ago. We've also done so a few times since then. We never could figure out why we decided this, and after the first time, we talked to God and got only positive feelings. Ever since we started going out, a year before that (we'll say May 2004), we had made plans to get married. We still do plan to get married, but the date is set off about a year and a half from now, because we don't have our own places yet (he lives with his parents, I live with my grandma). Since we've had sex, we feel closer than we have ever been. There are no thoughts of cheating, breaking up, etc. I am 19, and he is 18. He'll be 19 in about a month and a half.
My question is this: if a couple has sex before they are officially married, yet stays together, could they, by the act of sex, be considered married?
Consider this, the few things I have found:
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Matthew 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, 5 And said, FOR THIS CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE: AND THEY TWAIN SHALL BE ONE FLESH? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Ephesians 5:31 FOR THIS CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL BE JOINED UNTO HIS WIFE, AND THEY TWO SHALL BE ONE FLESH.
Our marriage traditions today are based on an elaborate ceremony, with friends and the entire family present (in most cases) to witness the bonding of the man and woman in holy matrimony. However, I don't believe the Bible mentions such ceremonies. If it does, they aren't common place. What I see most commonly, is when a man chooses a woman for a wife, it says he "knows her" or "goes unto her", and they are married thereafter.
Could what me and my fiance did be considered the same thing? I am probably wrong about some things, and if so, please point them out. As I said, I feel right with God, and so does he, but I still am not sure. I would like to know what everyone else thinks of this.
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 12:33 pm
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no, ur not because when you have sex, your souls are united, but in technicallity, your not. i could be wrong, but i'm quite sure that your not. sex is a wonderful gift god has given us (says my pastor, i wouldn know -.-) but it isn meant for pure pleasure, just between a married couple in love. only if married is it holy, r w/e it was he said, sumthing along those lines, lol, sorry if this isn much help, i tried ^^
(i had exams today, please dun ridicule me, i'm TIRED!!...and i have to study for the last 4 tomorrow and the next day... crying )
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 12:40 pm
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thrashmetaljunkie no, ur not because when you have sex, your souls are united, but in technicallity, your not. i could be wrong, but i'm quite sure that your not. sex is a wonderful gift god has given us (says my pastor, i wouldn know -.-) but it isn meant for pure pleasure, just between a married couple in love. only if married is it holy, r w/e it was he said, sumthing along those lines, lol, sorry if this isn much help, i tried ^^ (i had exams today, please dun ridicule me, i'm TIRED!!...and i have to study for the last 4 tomorrow and the next day... crying )
It's ok. Good luck on your tests. smile
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Posted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 3:26 am
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Posted: Sat Jun 10, 2006 11:29 am
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Posted: Sat Jun 10, 2006 11:58 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2006 8:32 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 21, 2006 10:58 pm
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 3:44 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 5:21 am
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pewterkat I've been trying to figure this out, and while I feel right with God, I'm still confused. My fiance and I had premarital sex almost a year ago. We've also done so a few times since then. We never could figure out why we decided this, and after the first time, we talked to God and got only positive feelings. Ever since we started going out, a year before that (we'll say May 2004), we had made plans to get married. We still do plan to get married, but the date is set off about a year and a half from now, because we don't have our own places yet (he lives with his parents, I live with my grandma). Since we've had sex, we feel closer than we have ever been. There are no thoughts of cheating, breaking up, etc. I am 19, and he is 18. He'll be 19 in about a month and a half. My question is this: if a couple has sex before they are officially married, yet stays together, could they, by the act of sex, be considered married? Consider this, the few things I have found: Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Matthew 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, 5 And said, FOR THIS CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE: AND THEY TWAIN SHALL BE ONE FLESH? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.Ephesians 5:31 FOR THIS CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL BE JOINED UNTO HIS WIFE, AND THEY TWO SHALL BE ONE FLESH. Our marriage traditions today are based on an elaborate ceremony, with friends and the entire family present (in most cases) to witness the bonding of the man and woman in holy matrimony. However, I don't believe the Bible mentions such ceremonies. If it does, they aren't common place. What I see most commonly, is when a man chooses a woman for a wife, it says he "knows her" or "goes unto her", and they are married thereafter. Could what me and my fiance did be considered the same thing? I am probably wrong about some things, and if so, please point them out. As I said, I feel right with God, and so does he, but I still am not sure. I would like to know what everyone else thinks of this.
Ten commandments. No commiting adultery. Adultery = sex without marriage. :/ You may be conforted by people who try to comfort you and say it's A-okay, but it's not in God's book. You can't have comfort by people who tell you what you committed is okay, but you can find comfort by asking for God's mercy once again, and leave it alone (it's in the past and God doesn't nag) and don't have sex like that again. Don't go by what you feel because the Bible clearly says to be sober of your feelings, your feelings are from the flesh, and the flesh will fail you.
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Posted: Fri Jul 07, 2006 8:24 pm
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Posted: Mon Jul 10, 2006 9:04 pm
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zz1000zz MimiInWonderland Ten commandments. No commiting adultery. Adultery = sex without marriage. :/ You may be conforted by people who try to comfort you and say it's A-okay, but it's not in God's book. You can't have comfort by people who tell you what you committed is okay, but you can find comfort by asking for God's mercy once again, and leave it alone (it's in the past and God doesn't nag) and don't have sex like that again. Don't go by what you feel because the Bible clearly says to be sober of your feelings, your feelings are from the flesh, and the flesh will fail you. Adultery includes having sex while married, with anyone save your spouse. Despite this, people in the old testament had sex outside marriage, and there was no condemnation. You know, Abram and Hagar. The father of the people of God had sex with a slave and that is okay. But heaven forbid two people in love have sex.
Abram had sex with Hagar because his wife wanted Abram to have a child and she sent Hagar unto him for said purpose. I'm not so sure that's considered adultery. stare Who knows...could be.
Anyway, just random outburst there, sorry to get off topic. sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 12:13 pm
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somebodys_PeNgUIN zz1000zz MimiInWonderland Ten commandments. No commiting adultery. Adultery = sex without marriage. :/ You may be conforted by people who try to comfort you and say it's A-okay, but it's not in God's book. You can't have comfort by people who tell you what you committed is okay, but you can find comfort by asking for God's mercy once again, and leave it alone (it's in the past and God doesn't nag) and don't have sex like that again. Don't go by what you feel because the Bible clearly says to be sober of your feelings, your feelings are from the flesh, and the flesh will fail you. Adultery includes having sex while married, with anyone save your spouse. Despite this, people in the old testament had sex outside marriage, and there was no condemnation. You know, Abram and Hagar. The father of the people of God had sex with a slave and that is okay. But heaven forbid two people in love have sex. Abram had sex with Hagar because his wife wanted Abram to have a child and she sent Hagar unto him for said purpose. I'm not so sure that's considered adultery. stare Who knows...could be. Anyway, just random outburst there, sorry to get off topic. sweatdrop
Oh yeah, if your wife is cool with it, you can have sex with anyone you want.
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