my problem

[jeffrulz2]

ok im 20 years old and bisexual. i just got married 3 days ago to my soulmate and we are happily expecting a baby in 6 months. but the problem is the man ive had a crush on for the past6 years told me he really likes me and wud like to go out with me. now ive liked him for so long but the problem is i wudnt do anything to hurt my wife tonna but she told me i cud date a guy and shed b ok with it completely. he roblem is i really dont know wat to do i love tonna with all my heart and soul and will do literally anything for her i realy like this guy.

if any of you can help id appricate it  

[Thirteenth_Floor]

oo, quite a problem. one of the things we dream of happening at the wrong time gonk

well, let's look at context. was your wife serious when she stated it or is there even the faintest possibility that she's hoping you'll choose the right thing. it's always a hard problem.

going on the assumption that she's serious, it seems like she may be proposing an open relationship, which is always a bit of a tricky kind, but may give you a chance to even briefly explore your feelings with him. life is never fun when you have a regret for not taking this opportunity to see what might not have been. so i say, that if your wife is truly okay with it, go for it. but make it clear with him that you do have a wife who is okay with it (if he doesn't already know).

 

[Shadow Ra Warrior]

sans-coeur13

oo, quite a problem. one of the things we dream of happening at the wrong time gonk

well, let's look at context. was your wife serious when she stated it or is there even the faintest possibility that she's hoping you'll choose the right thing. it's always a hard problem.

going on the assumption that she's serious, it seems like she may be proposing an open relationship, which is always a bit of a tricky kind, but may give you a chance to even briefly explore your feelings with him. life is never fun when you have a regret for not taking this opportunity to see what might not have been. so i say, that if your wife is truly okay with it, go for it. but make it clear with him that you do have a wife who is okay with it (if he doesn't already know).

I don't know; as stated it can be tricky. I think that you should stay with your partner; you're married and expecting children soon. You should just let him go; don't know about a friendship since you two are love buddies.  

[ForeverDreamWithinADream]

Personally if I were you, I wouldn't do anything more than maybe see a movie with him or go to some coffee place as friends but I don't think it would be a good idea to do anything like making out, etc.... You just got married, which is a commitment, having a baby and said you love your wife.

Unless you are both open about it and have an open marriage, which is really tricky and can lead to jealously, chances are even if said it was o.k., she could still feel hurt and you might end up regretting it, especially this early on in your marriage.

It's really your choice and something you should talk to your wife about first before going anywhere with him. Communication it the key to a successful marriage.  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

1. Jeff Onii-chan, is that freaking u?

2. If it is, congratz on getting married!

3. I agree with the Uchiha. You got married. Marriage is a sacred thing and a huge commitment. Your not suppose to be with other people.  

[jeffrulz2]

ii dont wanna do an open relationship with her basically b swingersa but i really like the guy we made out once before and had intercourse. i really just dont know if i shud say yes to a date or not bcuz ive liked him for so long but i spent the last of my bank account on my wifes wedding ring 5g on it abd only 1g on mine. i love her so much but its difficult bcuz ihave strong feelings for him my wife told me if i do anything with him serious she wud b very upset with me and im confused she knows i really like him. just its a whole difficult situation. i really dont wanna hurt her bcuz shs about 2 - months along  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

jeffrulz2

ii dont wanna do an open relationship with her basically b swingersa but i really like the guy we made out once before and had intercourse. i really just dont know if i shud say yes to a date or not bcuz ive liked him for so long but i spent the last of my bank account on my wifes wedding ring 5g on it abd only 1g on mine. i love her so much but its difficult bcuz ihave strong feelings for him my wife told me if i do anything with him serious she wud b very upset with me and im confused she knows i really like him. just its a whole difficult situation. i really dont wanna hurt her bcuz shs about 2 - months along

Jeff, if you really had such strong feelings for him, you maybe shouldn't have gotten married then.  

[jeffrulz2]

shes my soul mate we met 12 years ago before she moved dated for an entire year and we finally got back together after 11 years. thats true love she is my whole world and she was my first kiss cuddle first real gf and first person i ever loved. but with him tho its hard hes uh alot older then me hes 35 yeas old and when we did have fun i was 14-15 so yea cuda been considered rape but i gave consent i cared about him still do he left me tho  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

jeffrulz2

shes my soul mate we met 12 years ago before she moved dated for an entire year and we finally got back together after 11 years. thats true love she is my whole world and she was my first kiss cuddle first real gf and first person i ever loved. but with him tho its hard hes uh alot older then me hes 35 yeas old and when we did have fun i was 14-15 so yea cuda been considered rape but i gave consent i cared about him still do he left me tho

hun if she's your soulmate, you wouldnt feel this way about him.  

[jeffrulz2]

mika lemme tell u something. everyone in this world has 2 soulmates one is the opposite sex and one is the same sex. ive liked him for 6 almost 7 years and i care about him like i care about her. she is everything to me but when he left me i was destroyed and hurt like all hell. he knows im married but he wants to try and win me back so im really confused and she knows about him and me from when i was younger  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

jeffrulz2

mika lemme tell u something. everyone in this world has 2 soulmates one is the opposite sex and one is the same sex. ive liked him for 6 almost 7 years and i care about him like i care about her. she is everything to me but when he left me i was destroyed and hurt like all hell. he knows im married but he wants to try and win me back so im really confused and she knows about him and me from when i was younger

Jeff u only have one soulmate, your other HALF. u have 2 ears, 2 eyes, 2 hands, and 2 hearts but someone else has it. u dont have 3 of anything  

[jeffrulz2]

nvm mika its very complicated and everything but im still stuck bcuz i love him but im married t tonna  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

jeffrulz2

nvm mika its very complicated and everything but im still stuck bcuz i love him but im married t tonna

well sorry for being a dumb lil kid  

[jeffrulz2]

ohere u go again putting urself don. stop that that doesnt even help my problem i need real advice :'(  

[TheLostAngel-Mika]

jeffrulz2

ohere u go again putting urself don. stop that that doesnt even help my problem i need real advice :'(

marriage consuling?