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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 10:27 pm
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 10:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 11:08 pm
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Everyone comes out when they are ready. If you aren't ready, then you're not. No one can tell you otherwise.
As for the question, well if I knew my parents already knew, I probably would have felt much easier about talking to them about it. After i came out i tried asking them if they knew and my mom said she suspected but was never sure.
my brother, on the other hand, found my porn collection on my computer 5 years earlier, and for reasons that i still don't understand, kept my secret that entire time without telling anyone, even myself...
Like you, my parents had previously told me on multiple occasions that they would not care if one of their kids turned out to be gay. It just didnt matter to them. Hell my parents had a gay friend of theirs marry them, on a boat... because apparently that was a rebellious thing to do back in the day... go figure...
but even knowing that they would accept me for me no matter what, coming out was still one of the hardest, most frightening things ive ever done. there was still that tiny voice in the back of my head telling me that they might stop loving me for being different.
and even now, slightly over a year later, every time someone new learns about my orientation there's still that tiny fear that they might react badly...
I'm still pretty new to being open so im not sure if that fear ever really goes away. but despite that I no longer hide who i am any more and that has taken a huge weight off my shoulders. I dont go advertising myself as gay, but I never lie about it if it ever comes up. Though my friends seem to enjoy pointing out to everyone that I'm the gay one... haha you guys are hilarious... oi I need some gay friends...
There are times when I wish i had come out sooner instead of wasting all that energy on trying to maintain my 'Cover'. but i came out when i was ready and thats all any of us can do.
If you think you mom is ready and you think you are ready then you should talk to her. she sounds like an accepting person so you should count yourself very lucky. I know i'm grateful that my family still accepts and supports me. there are plenty of families out there that dont react quite as well.
as for your church, well It's none of their damn business! if you tell your mom, you can also ask her to keep it just between the two of you if you want. Your church doesn't need to know. and they certainly don't need to heal you when you are NOT broken.
Anyway this has been my experience... I hope this is helpful for you. and good luck!
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 11:22 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 4:34 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 10:00 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 10:42 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 12:37 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 3:22 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 8:54 pm
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 12:15 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 11:06 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 2:51 pm
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TorpidoKoi Taeryyn My mother knows I'm gay, but we've never talked about it. I've never said, "I'm gay", and I don't think she's ever verbally acknowledged the fact, but she's known I've dated guys since I was 16. I'm fine with that. Sexuality isn't something that's really discussed in my family. She's met guys I've dated, and she doesn't treat me any differently than my siblings, so it's a non-issue. Not all families are like mine, and I know that for some people, it's important for them to tell their families about stuff like this. *shrug* So I think it just depends on the individual. I wish the world was like your family. There should be no need to explain it. It should just be. Something you can shrug off and move on with.
I have no complaints about my situation with my family, but I feel I should clarify a bit. Although she hasn't said anything to me, my mother does not approve of me being gay. razz She believes it's morally wrong, and that there is something wrong with me. My father felt the same way, and was not the least bit shy about it, but he wasn't really a part of my life even before he passed away, so it wasn't really an issue.
But yes, I do wish that everyone was able to shrug it off, even if it isn't something they agree with.
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 4:19 pm
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2011 10:19 pm
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