Wow, you're so gay...

[Inyeri the Frozen]

So this has been bothering me for a while.
When I was walking from the union at my college with my roommate and his friends and there was a double rainbow in the sky.
I looked up and it was the most beautiful thing I have seen in a while since being up at college and then I said, "Wow, look at that rainbow. It is so beautiful."
My roommate's friends I had been walking with (Two of them) each said one after the other. "Wow, you're so gay..." "Yea, don't be such a f*****t."
It literally made me almost start crying and my roommate told them both to stfu.

So anyway.
I just don't understand why this would even happen.
Because it was a rainbow?
Or because I thought it was beautiful?

What do you guys think about this?
**Edit: Thank you everyone so much for all of your words, it really helped me a lot.  

[Shanna66]

no offense to you or anything, but if someone says your so gay becasue you think a rainbow looks pretty and it makes you start crying i think you may need to grow tougher skin.

what that person said was mean and they shouldnt have said that, but that was a very tame situation

once again, i mean no offense to you and im not trying to be mean. but if such a tame situation upsets you that much how will you get on in the real world if your friend isnt there all the time?  

[She Promised You Cookies]

I have to agree with Shanna66. They're idiots to think that a natural occurance is gay.

However, I think it is fair if you feel that a rainbow connects to something that has happened to you or so on. For example, when my step-aunt died, I was incredibly depressed. Mainly because I didn't get a chance to know her very well, and I had no idea she was sick. My mother, when she went to see her for the last time, just said she was going to see her, and she didn't say she was sick. If she did, I would've went, and tried to catch up. And on the day she died, a rainbow appeared in the sky, letting us know that she was no longer suffering, and that if there was a heaven, she would be asking God to send the rainbow out and let us know she was okay.

With that sort of thing, yes, I think it is fair to cry over it. But if it's just a general regard of a rainbow, then you should just laugh at their stupidity. Don't give them your tears.  

[-kakashiandyaoi-]

Well if ou are chistian isnt a rainbow the symbol of gods promise to never flood the earth again 0-o  

[Gordums]

Don't let their hate speech upset you - they speak from an ignorant and priviliged point of view.
But also, don't let them get awya with it. You need to stand up and tlel them their language is offensive and inappropriate.

I am assuming these people are heterosexual and if they are, they sit from a priviliged view where they are allowed to flaunt their sexuality without being marginalized. If they have an issue with your sexuality or gender or their own, they they need to work on it.

 

[Sin Error]

So??? YOU ARE GAY.
My boyfriend and my friends tell me soemtimes "dude, that is so gay."
and I reply "Yeah I know hahahaha" or "But I am gay LOL"
but don't let them disrespect you, if they call you a f*****t to offend you, maybe it's time you start standing up to them.  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

Shanna66

no offense to you or anything, but if someone says your so gay becasue you think a rainbow looks pretty and it makes you start crying i think you may need to grow tougher skin.

what that person said was mean and they shouldnt have said that, but that was a very tame situation

once again, i mean no offense to you and im not trying to be mean. but if such a tame situation upsets you that much how will you get on in the real world if your friend isnt there all the time?

No, yea I understand and believe me I have toughened myself as much as I can. It wasn't the "Wow, you are so gay." part, but I cannot handle the word f*****t. It never fails to rip me down.  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

She Promised You Cookies

I have to agree with Shanna66. They're idiots to think that a natural occurance is gay.

However, I think it is fair if you feel that a rainbow connects to something that has happened to you or so on. For example, when my step-aunt died, I was incredibly depressed. Mainly because I didn't get a chance to know her very well, and I had no idea she was sick. My mother, when she went to see her for the last time, just said she was going to see her, and she didn't say she was sick. If she did, I would've went, and tried to catch up. And on the day she died, a rainbow appeared in the sky, letting us know that she was no longer suffering, and that if there was a heaven, she would be asking God to send the rainbow out and let us know she was okay.

With that sort of thing, yes, I think it is fair to cry over it. But if it's just a general regard of a rainbow, then you should just laugh at their stupidity. Don't give them your tears.

Thanks, your comment helped me quite a bit.
It's different to cry when you are sad, but if someone is to cause that pain, you shouldn't allow it to get to you, because then they have all the control over you?  

[Shanna66]

Inyeri the Frozen

Shanna66

no offense to you or anything, but if someone says your so gay becasue you think a rainbow looks pretty and it makes you start crying i think you may need to grow tougher skin.

what that person said was mean and they shouldnt have said that, but that was a very tame situation

once again, i mean no offense to you and im not trying to be mean. but if such a tame situation upsets you that much how will you get on in the real world if your friend isnt there all the time?

No, yea I understand and believe me I have toughened myself as much as I can. It wasn't the "Wow, you are so gay." part, but I cannot handle the word f*****t. It never fails to rip me down.

that i can understand. the work dyke used to upset me quite a bit. took me a couple years and some self hatred but finally got over it for the most part.  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

Gordums

Don't let their hate speech upset you - they speak from an ignorant and priviliged point of view.
But also, don't let them get awya with it. You need to stand up and tlel them their language is offensive and inappropriate.

I am assuming these people are heterosexual and if they are, they sit from a priviliged view where they are allowed to flaunt their sexuality without being marginalized. If they have an issue with your sexuality or gender or their own, they they need to work on it.

Okay, but how do I stand up to them? Or rather if I do and they get pissed and want to fight me or something, do I continue to fight back?
Also, I think one of them is in the closet. I try to be nice to him as often as I can, he acts normal when we are alone, but when he's around others he feels the need to point out how he thinks some guy sitting across the room looks like he's gay.  

[PeachPunk]

Aw, you seem like a sensitive guy. If I were in your situation, I would be just as offended. If you were in a situation where they wanted a reaction from you, such as expecting you to say "But I'm not gay! I'm not a f*****t! How could you say such a thing?", you should have just said "So...? I am gay...." I think their laughing would have stopped then.  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

Shanna66

Inyeri the Frozen

Shanna66

no offense to you or anything, but if someone says your so gay becasue you think a rainbow looks pretty and it makes you start crying i think you may need to grow tougher skin.

what that person said was mean and they shouldnt have said that, but that was a very tame situation

once again, i mean no offense to you and im not trying to be mean. but if such a tame situation upsets you that much how will you get on in the real world if your friend isnt there all the time?

No, yea I understand and believe me I have toughened myself as much as I can. It wasn't the "Wow, you are so gay." part, but I cannot handle the word f*****t. It never fails to rip me down.

that i can understand. the work dyke used to upset me quite a bit. took me a couple years and some self hatred but finally got over it for the most part.

How did you get over it? I know that words only have power if you give them power and words are just that, words. But, I just can't seem to make it harmless to me.  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

-kakashiandyaoi-

Well if ou are chistian isnt a rainbow the symbol of gods promise to never flood the earth again 0-o

Well I'm not Christian, but that is good to know. XD  

[Inyeri the Frozen]

Sunshine Peach-Heart

Aw, you seem like a sensitive guy. If I were in your situation, I would be just as offended. If you were in a situation where they wanted a reaction from you, such as expecting you to say "But I'm not gay! I'm not a f*****t! How could you say such a thing?", you should have just said "So...? I am gay...." I think their laughing would have stopped then.

Lol yea, I'm kinda sensitive to certain things ninja . I was never one to try and shock someone. I tried it once in high school because I was really pissed off that day. We were in chorus and he was going on about the word gay (Which in context just meant the word happy) and I said, "Yea this song is gay? SO AM I." and then he was just like 'D: Whoa! Wasn't expecting that.'  

[Gordums]

Inyeri the Frozen

Gordums

Don't let their hate speech upset you - they speak from an ignorant and priviliged point of view.
But also, don't let them get awya with it. You need to stand up and tlel them their language is offensive and inappropriate.

I am assuming these people are heterosexual and if they are, they sit from a priviliged view where they are allowed to flaunt their sexuality without being marginalized. If they have an issue with your sexuality or gender or their own, they they need to work on it.

Okay, but how do I stand up to them? Or rather if I do and they get pissed and want to fight me or something, do I continue to fight back?
Also, I think one of them is in the closet. I try to be nice to him as often as I can, he acts normal when we are alone, but when he's around others he feels the need to point out how he thinks some guy sitting across the room looks like he's gay.

Just talk to them in a friendly manner, and express that you're not trying to belittle them or personally attack them, but just some of the things they say or do are offensive. Talk to them you would another person or friend.
IF you're in college, they won't start a fight. If they do get aggressive, simply tell them you're not looking to fight, you're just letting them know their actions are hateful.
Even if he is in the closet, that's no excuse for him to do that. It actually makes it harder for him to be accepted. You can say to him to not judge other people when they are gay because that perosn may be strugglign with their sexuality or something.