Online Relationships?

[Jellen-chan]

I'm sure there's a thread on them, but I'm lazy.
So, the other day I met a guy in zOMG, and we've been hanging out and stuff, but he says he likes me, but I don't know what to do.. I talked to a friend that I trust a lot, and he said that I should tell him we should just be friends, because I don't know, he could be an old *****, a loser in his mom's basement.. He could be in a relationship, a porno addict, or "he" could be a pregnant woman. He seems pretty legit, but.. Well, on top of that, I just don't think online relationships end up very well. Any advice is helpful (unless it's not xP), and I'd love feedback.  

[xXZanza]

Hmmm,tell him you like but,if he wants to date you,ask him to show you a pic of him! Easy  

[Jellen-chan]

xPrince of Rosesx

Hmmm,tell him you like but,if he wants to date you,ask him to show you a pic of him! Easy

Not so much, I've already thought of that. Anyone could easily go onto Google images and find a picture of a cute young male.  

[Atrum_Anima]

I would say just take it slow and get to know him (if you like him so far). Once you've been talking with him for a long while, if you feel comfortable, invite him to come and meet you somewhere (. . . somewhere public, sporting mace and a fully-charged cell phone). Otherwise, tell him to take a hike.

I can't really offer my opinion on online relationships in general. That's not my forte. But to me, something along the lines of Skype might be a good idea (yet again, when you've known him for a while) to keep in touch and be able to see him often.  

[Jellen-chan]

Atrum_Anima

I would say just take it slow and get to know him (if you like him so far). Once you've been talking with him for a long while, if you feel comfortable, invite him to come and meet you somewhere (. . . somewhere public, sporting mace and a fully-charged cell phone). Otherwise, tell him to take a hike.

I can't really offer my opinion on online relationships in general. That's not my forte. But to me, something along the lines of Skype might be a good idea (yet again, when you've known him for a while) to keep in touch and be able to see him often.

Good idea, thanks!  

[airforce_freak6678]

Little Red-chan

xPrince of Rosesx

Hmmm,tell him you like but,if he wants to date you,ask him to show you a pic of him! Easy

Not so much, I've already thought of that. Anyone could easily go onto Google images and find a picture of a cute young male.

Have him hold something written in the picture or something of the sort.  

[Gordums]

Personally, I feel like you should secure your friendship with him. Just be friends but do keep in mind that some of your personal information shouldn't be shared with him. Try to see him on webcam or something - verify his identity. Also, I'd say don;t meet him until you know for sure that it;s safe, and make sure to bring some friends with you and meet in a public setting if you ever do meet him.

 

[English_Git]

Well like everyone else said, secure a stable friendship and don't get hasty... If he's going to fast and wants your number already, tell him you want to take it one step at a time and other then that.
Don't give him any information on you unless your EXTREMELY, and I mean EXTREMELY positive it's safe to.
And to top it all off, make sure your happy with it.
Internet, By Letter, By phone (basically long distance) or even a regular relationship, they're all real relationships. (i mean unless if it was one of those cyber *****....)
Just have fun with it and be yourself! heart
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[Jellen-chan]

^ . ^ Thanks, guys. I'm gonna just try takin' it slow xP Mom's been nagging for years about,"Blah blah, internet saftey, no giving out private info, blah blah.." (Hasn't every mother? xD) Haha, so I'll kep it in mind. o u o  

[unratedhorror]

Be careful though. Depending on how far away you
are, you might get lonely. I had an online relationship
for 6 months. Toward the end of it, I started to feel
less and less for him and more and more for someone
I went to school with. It could happen either way. Or
you might never know.

If you're easily paranoid, you'll probably always be thinking
about whether or not he is being faithful or not.

And a BTW, my online ex and I still talk and it's been
almost 4 years.

 

[finfageek]

I had 4 online "relationships" before I figured it was dumb and pointless. Save yourself the heartache.  

[Jellen-chan]

glytch3d

Be careful though. Depending on how far away you
are, you might get lonely. I had an online relationship
for 6 months. Toward the end of it, I started to feel
less and less for him and more and more for someone
I went to school with. It could happen either way. Or
you might never know.

If you're easily paranoid, you'll probably always be thinking
about whether or not he is being faithful or not.

And a BTW, my online ex and I still talk and it's been
almost 4 years.

Bingo. I am very easily paranoid.. xD Well, reassuring, certainly, about the still- talking thing. C: Thanks.  

[Matasoga]

Um... Why hasn't anyone proposed webcam, yet? That was kind of the end of the whole are-you-who-you-say-you-are? debate. It'd pretty hard to fake a webcam feed.  

[--Untoten Kase--]

All I need is one star in the sky...

If you want my HONEST opinion, I think online relationships are a waste of time, love, and whatever else is put into them... Actually, there are some online daters who are truthful... BUT, 95.9% of them are just desperate and can't get anyone in real life..

Webcam could work... but that doesn't mean the guy doesn't already have a girlfriend or wife... O_e

Also, what if you find someone in real life that you like a WHOLE lot? or the other way around... What will you do then? At least you know for a fact they they're real, and they might be way more worth your time..

And another thing, what if they're dating like 6 or so other girls online?

I think you should just stay friends... Besides, you hardly know the guy...

...Wish for you every night.

 

[Shanna66]

i met my fiance online. he only lived an hour away though. i personally wouldnt do it if there was no chance of me seeing the person in real life