© Robin Wood 1997
Alright, I'm Wiccan. Nothing wrong with that, is there? Well, when you go to a high school in the southeast, there can be issues. I'll sum it up for you if the following paragraph or so is too long. I've been having issues with multiple girls at school about my religion. One has threatened me and made fun of my friends. Another has bruised my leg by kicking me, and we used to be friends before she found out my religion. Now she wants me to go to her church youth group (Baptist, I think) with her so she can save my eternal soul. Her father is my grandparent's insurance man, who I've known since I was a tiny child, but I managed not to meet his daughter until high school.
Long version:
Recently I've been having trouble with a lot of girls at school. Two in particular are getting on my nerves. They mock my religion, and it really gets to me. I'm Wiccan, which is a "bad" religion to some, so it's bound to happen, whether I like it or not.
One girl is in two of my classes and began to kick my shins in the second class we're in together. I calmly asked her to stop, and she wouldn't. I asked her again, not quite as nicely, and she still wouldn't stop. Eventually she seemed to get bored and stopped. I've had problems with her before. We used to hang out a bit at lunch, until she found out that I'm Wiccan. She has told me that my 'magical powers' come from Satan and that my religion isn't real or valid. Today I asked her to apologize to me, and I showed her the bruises on my shins where she had been kicking me. She claimed not to know what I was talking about and said that she never remembered kicking me, but eventually apologized, saying that she was sorry for whatever she did. Now she is acting as if I am her best friend, and has invited me to her church youth group meeting in order to save my eternal soul. I don't want to hurt her feelings--she can be really nice and we do have quite a few interests in common--but I really don't know if I should go. I've tried the whole Christianity thing, since I was a child, and it's not for me. Her father is someone I have known for a long time, and I don't want to offend him either. What should I do?
The other girl is in only one of my classes, Health/PE. She's a very tall and 'large' sophomore with an attitude problem. A few weeks ago, she asked me if I was a witch. I told her I was Wiccan, and she asked me to levitate her bracelet--which I can't do. So I told her no, and now she seems to hold a grudge against me making her look bad in front of her friends. She's been bugging me about every other day, gathering around me with her friends and asking me to cast a spell on her. I got very tired of it very fast. Today she came into the weight room during PE while I was on the exercise bike, in the weight room alone, and she asked me if I was ever going to cast a spell for her. I simply rolled my eyes and ignored her. She got upset and said "Excuse me, did you just roll your eyes at me?". I told her that yes, I had rolled my eyes at her. She muttered something about "damn white girl" and got on one of the machines. She asked me again after being on the machine a while and chatting with her friends, to cast a spell for her. I rolled my eyes again. She asked me if I was going to reply to her. I asked her to stop mocking my religion. "Spells? That's your religion?" She laughed. I proceeded to remind her that I'm Wiccan and that she was offending me. She muttered something about "damn white girl" again and started saying things about one of my friends. I asked her what the ******** her problem was and she asked me if I knew who I was talking to. She said that she would "make me so I wouldn't wanna come to school" and "mess me up real bad" and "******** me up". I kept a cool head and said "Alright, whatever." When she left the weight room she gave me a nasty threatening look. How do I deal with her? I can keep my own in a fight, but that girl could sit on me and kill me.
All and any advice is appreciated!
Long version:
Recently I've been having trouble with a lot of girls at school. Two in particular are getting on my nerves. They mock my religion, and it really gets to me. I'm Wiccan, which is a "bad" religion to some, so it's bound to happen, whether I like it or not.
One girl is in two of my classes and began to kick my shins in the second class we're in together. I calmly asked her to stop, and she wouldn't. I asked her again, not quite as nicely, and she still wouldn't stop. Eventually she seemed to get bored and stopped. I've had problems with her before. We used to hang out a bit at lunch, until she found out that I'm Wiccan. She has told me that my 'magical powers' come from Satan and that my religion isn't real or valid. Today I asked her to apologize to me, and I showed her the bruises on my shins where she had been kicking me. She claimed not to know what I was talking about and said that she never remembered kicking me, but eventually apologized, saying that she was sorry for whatever she did. Now she is acting as if I am her best friend, and has invited me to her church youth group meeting in order to save my eternal soul. I don't want to hurt her feelings--she can be really nice and we do have quite a few interests in common--but I really don't know if I should go. I've tried the whole Christianity thing, since I was a child, and it's not for me. Her father is someone I have known for a long time, and I don't want to offend him either. What should I do?
The other girl is in only one of my classes, Health/PE. She's a very tall and 'large' sophomore with an attitude problem. A few weeks ago, she asked me if I was a witch. I told her I was Wiccan, and she asked me to levitate her bracelet--which I can't do. So I told her no, and now she seems to hold a grudge against me making her look bad in front of her friends. She's been bugging me about every other day, gathering around me with her friends and asking me to cast a spell on her. I got very tired of it very fast. Today she came into the weight room during PE while I was on the exercise bike, in the weight room alone, and she asked me if I was ever going to cast a spell for her. I simply rolled my eyes and ignored her. She got upset and said "Excuse me, did you just roll your eyes at me?". I told her that yes, I had rolled my eyes at her. She muttered something about "damn white girl" and got on one of the machines. She asked me again after being on the machine a while and chatting with her friends, to cast a spell for her. I rolled my eyes again. She asked me if I was going to reply to her. I asked her to stop mocking my religion. "Spells? That's your religion?" She laughed. I proceeded to remind her that I'm Wiccan and that she was offending me. She muttered something about "damn white girl" again and started saying things about one of my friends. I asked her what the ******** her problem was and she asked me if I knew who I was talking to. She said that she would "make me so I wouldn't wanna come to school" and "mess me up real bad" and "******** me up". I kept a cool head and said "Alright, whatever." When she left the weight room she gave me a nasty threatening look. How do I deal with her? I can keep my own in a fight, but that girl could sit on me and kill me.
All and any advice is appreciated!
© Robin Wood 1997