Dazeandconfused
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- Posted: Fri, 28 Aug 2015 16:55:41 +0000
I've been trying to figure out if I should even post this, or talk to others about this, or even if I feel right feeling this way, but anyway let me contune to this problem.
My Boyfriend room mate (I should really say ours, since I live with him too, but this guy was living with him before I came around) Has been unemployed for months now, and I really don't think he has any desire to find a new job, all he does is sleep, eat and play computer games/ have chats online, he doesn't pay for the house, the only thing he is paying for is food since he has food stamps. Anyway, I'm tired of having him live with us when he is not doing anything, I want him out, but my Boyfriend doesn't want to left him go, since he helped him from what he was (Before my boyfriend helped him, he was homeless and had no job, since my boyfriend took him in as room mate, he was able to get a job, which he was fired from, like I said Months ago) My boyfriend believes that his Room Mate will get back on his feet soon....Yet like I said it has been Months since he had his last job....I guess the main reason why I'm writeing this, is something quite resonantly push me over the edge...I might sound crazy or rude because of it, but still...
I love going to cons, Anime and furry (yes I'm a furry) In Dec there is a con in Chicago and I've been to it before, 2 years ago with my now ex boyfriend at the time, I wasn't able to back there because of money issues, but things have change this year, I have a chance to go! And I really really want to, and I wanted to bring my Boyfriend along because he never been there, a chance for some romantic moments,stuff like that...I had it all planned out until he brought up the thing that pushed me over the edge with the Room Mate
"If we go, we have to bring him with us, if not he will get super depressed and we won't hear the last of it."
Once again, the Room Mate who dosen't have a job, has no money, that my boyfriend is expecting me to help pay that Room Mates way to the con. Mind you last year the Room Mate went to the same con, by himself not even offering me or my Boyfriend to go or said he would help pay if we go, and my Boyfriend is once again expecting me to help pay his way to a con....It broke me, and I told my Boyfriend yesterday that "Well the money I was saving for the con, we can spend it, we can go next year because I do not want to pay for the Room Mate" With that my Boyfriend said "Sorry" and the convo ended there
Funny thing is I don't feel bad, I feel upset that I really wanted to go and had it all planned, just to cancel because of the Room Mate.
And the funny thing is the Room Mate I have a feeling will somehow get other people pay his way there, or when the con comes, he's going to mope around and try to make us feel bad...
Anyway, sorry if this is all typed out crazly, but it's been in my head for a while...I would love to see others point of views on this issue, or any advice on how to handle the Room Mate, or even to say if what I said was right or wrong...Or should I still go somehow? X_X Any and all advice or comments are loved...
Short Of IT
Boy Friend's Room Mate has no job, I want him out, Boyfriend wants him to stay
Con is coming up, wanted to go, just me and my Boyfriend
BoyFriend Said we would have to bring Room Mate because he will get depressed, Yet he went last year and didn't invite us nor say he would help pay for us
I DO NOT WANT TO PAY FOR HIM! So I told Boyfriend NVM and Boyfriend look Sad
Am I crazy or not? X_X
My Boyfriend room mate (I should really say ours, since I live with him too, but this guy was living with him before I came around) Has been unemployed for months now, and I really don't think he has any desire to find a new job, all he does is sleep, eat and play computer games/ have chats online, he doesn't pay for the house, the only thing he is paying for is food since he has food stamps. Anyway, I'm tired of having him live with us when he is not doing anything, I want him out, but my Boyfriend doesn't want to left him go, since he helped him from what he was (Before my boyfriend helped him, he was homeless and had no job, since my boyfriend took him in as room mate, he was able to get a job, which he was fired from, like I said Months ago) My boyfriend believes that his Room Mate will get back on his feet soon....Yet like I said it has been Months since he had his last job....I guess the main reason why I'm writeing this, is something quite resonantly push me over the edge...I might sound crazy or rude because of it, but still...
I love going to cons, Anime and furry (yes I'm a furry) In Dec there is a con in Chicago and I've been to it before, 2 years ago with my now ex boyfriend at the time, I wasn't able to back there because of money issues, but things have change this year, I have a chance to go! And I really really want to, and I wanted to bring my Boyfriend along because he never been there, a chance for some romantic moments,stuff like that...I had it all planned out until he brought up the thing that pushed me over the edge with the Room Mate
"If we go, we have to bring him with us, if not he will get super depressed and we won't hear the last of it."
Once again, the Room Mate who dosen't have a job, has no money, that my boyfriend is expecting me to help pay that Room Mates way to the con. Mind you last year the Room Mate went to the same con, by himself not even offering me or my Boyfriend to go or said he would help pay if we go, and my Boyfriend is once again expecting me to help pay his way to a con....It broke me, and I told my Boyfriend yesterday that "Well the money I was saving for the con, we can spend it, we can go next year because I do not want to pay for the Room Mate" With that my Boyfriend said "Sorry" and the convo ended there
Funny thing is I don't feel bad, I feel upset that I really wanted to go and had it all planned, just to cancel because of the Room Mate.
And the funny thing is the Room Mate I have a feeling will somehow get other people pay his way there, or when the con comes, he's going to mope around and try to make us feel bad...
Anyway, sorry if this is all typed out crazly, but it's been in my head for a while...I would love to see others point of views on this issue, or any advice on how to handle the Room Mate, or even to say if what I said was right or wrong...Or should I still go somehow? X_X Any and all advice or comments are loved...
Short Of IT
Boy Friend's Room Mate has no job, I want him out, Boyfriend wants him to stay
Con is coming up, wanted to go, just me and my Boyfriend
BoyFriend Said we would have to bring Room Mate because he will get depressed, Yet he went last year and didn't invite us nor say he would help pay for us
I DO NOT WANT TO PAY FOR HIM! So I told Boyfriend NVM and Boyfriend look Sad
Am I crazy or not? X_X