Wow so many trolls.
Come to our support group here:
http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/lifestyle-discussion/transtastic-support-for-the-proud-trans-population/t.63473529/
Its the trans* support group on Gaia. We'd love to have you. And no, being genderqueer is not "special snowflake" status. I know a ton of genderqueer people. Its legit.
And yes, I am struggling with my gender, trying to begin transition to male. You are definitely not alone. You can talk to me about your gender stuff if you need to talk to somebody who understands.