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mary faye bell
Um.. are you trying to say that you don't like it when people with certain opinions don't like being around people with opposing opinions??? because personally as a queer disabled person I don't want to spend my time with transphobic homophobic abelist sexist generally gross people.

I don't have patience for people who are closed minded really, I mean I can respect a person to have any opinion they want but if their opinion interferes with another person being safe and living their life then I can't respect it.


I am saying that. Though I'm more bothered about people who take it to the extent of almost demanding ideological purity of those they associate with-- where it's not enough that people don't actively oppose them, but must fully subscribe to the same set of ideals down to the letter. I can understand not wanting to spend an awful lot of time around people who would have few moral qualms about beating you senseless and leaving you for dead in the street, that is a reluctance that I myself share, but what annoys me is when people will not voluntarily spend time with people who may not agree with them entirely, or hold a weakly opposing view that by no means defines their outlook on life or social interactions. I don't think that it is an appropriate response for, say, a fiscal conservative to, upon discovering that a friend of theirs supports a progressive tax structure and light socialism to provide a level playing field for future generations, stop speaking to that friend. The internet has made it possible for people to seal themselves away in a feedback loop of blogs, forums, "news", and documents that reinforce their viewpoints, and for most people that is a very comfortable thing to do, but it divorces people from reality, creates counterproductive tribal loyalties, "us vs them" mentality, and, and here you are welcome to disagree, is a sign of incredible childishness and personal weakness.

That is in itself not helping your cause. You cannot expect opinions to develop and change unless there is constant, preferably at least cordial if not actively friendly discourse between people who disagree. If you think X and everyone around you thinks X, it is very unlikely that any of you will ever change your views on X. Because, as it turns out, a very good portion of the time, X is wrong, and once people become entrenched in a large group that all share a belief in X, natural human desire to fit in to the group as well as groupthink and a sort of fierce tribal loyalty makes it essentially certain that belief in X will persist, perhaps even grow.
Evidently you don't know what you're saying...Because spending time with someone =/= Having conflicting views, ones a prerequisite for the other. She equivocated, and you agreed with her when your position has nothing to do with what she said.
TLDR;
You don't like people who actively avoid opposition in fear of being wrong.
She doesn't like having to hang out with people who're obstinate, and of the wrong position. (Unless of the options, there's no maximally true answer.)