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legnanellaf5
You dont need closure, and telling him is inherently selfish. However, the solution to this isnt fun, because if 3 years isnt enough to get over him while being hsi friend, you probably cant be his friend. It sucks, but you need to seperate yourself from the bond you have with this guy and that means not being around him as much.
Why don't I need closure and why is it selfish? I don't want to tell him but im just wondering. Thank you for the advice.
It is selfish because it is an act that you do just for yourself, and it isnt closure mostly because it doesnt really do what people say it does. Closure is when there is a loose end there, that would be something that the act of talkign would fix. Here you could try to say that it is closure because you dont 'know' that he is into you, but you also seem to 'know' without asking anyways with how you are approaching it. If you arent sure about the dude's feeling towards you then sure you can go and try it out, but dont expect that to give you a resolution. Confessing when you know the answer is a no is a selfish act because all you are doing is putting the issue onto this person who cant help that they dont like you back, and it isnt their issue to deal with.