bcuzno
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- Posted: Wed, 23 Apr 2014 06:36:03 +0000
My friend and I have just started talking again after 2 years due to his ex deleting every female that came into contact with him. Their break up was pretty nasty--from both sides. I went and hung out with him last week and yeah, we fooled around a bit, but we mainly talked and whatnot. Lately, I've been realizing that I still like him from when we met when we were 17 years old, and I have become kind of standoffish with him. He has picked up real quick and has been assisting I tell him what's wrong and that we are best friends now (ouch...). Of course, I won't tell him. He doesn't need to deal with that on top of his breakup.
A few days ago, his ex started talking to him again. They aren't getting back together. They have realized that they just aren't happy and right for each other. She's moved on to dating women (long story short she's lesbian but her and my friend got pretty close and she willingly gave it a chance). He's caught with his emotions and while he HAS hinted that he's very interested in me, he's made it clear that he is not wanting a relationship anytime soon. Which I completely understand and I would never push him to make decisions likes that.
He has told me that I remind him a whole lot like his ex, which stings but what can you do? I mean, 2 years. You're gonna compare no matter how you think of the situation.
I guess what I am asking is if I should distance my from him. I want to be there for him and be his best friend, but at the same time, while his heart is breaking of every memory of his ex, mine is too... I am not in love with him, I will make that clear, but I like him.
I just don't know how long I can be his friend while continuing to like him.
A few days ago, his ex started talking to him again. They aren't getting back together. They have realized that they just aren't happy and right for each other. She's moved on to dating women (long story short she's lesbian but her and my friend got pretty close and she willingly gave it a chance). He's caught with his emotions and while he HAS hinted that he's very interested in me, he's made it clear that he is not wanting a relationship anytime soon. Which I completely understand and I would never push him to make decisions likes that.
He has told me that I remind him a whole lot like his ex, which stings but what can you do? I mean, 2 years. You're gonna compare no matter how you think of the situation.
I guess what I am asking is if I should distance my from him. I want to be there for him and be his best friend, but at the same time, while his heart is breaking of every memory of his ex, mine is too... I am not in love with him, I will make that clear, but I like him.
I just don't know how long I can be his friend while continuing to like him.