Dagera
im_haunted
Thank you.
I know I'm very dependent on him. He used to listen to me, fix my problems, be there when I need him..befor he got married and got with this chick he always told me "your my top priority, and then comes everyone else. Your my main concern at the moment...I don't want you hurt and I woun't let u be depressed or kill yourself, I love you like a sister and I'll do everythig I can to help you"
And your right, marriage is time consuming and I'm not used to sharing him. Like I'm happy he's happy but it feels like he's ignoring me...he wants me to tell him everything but when I do he's like "I don't have time for this, this is bs.." Or he just makes fun of what I have to say
..he's never done that
And thank you for taking the time and explaing that to me. I've been crying my eyes out about this for a long time now..like me and him have been friends for 8 years..and then all of a sudden...all that happens..
Things like that rarely happen "all of a sudden" like many people think. If he cared for you that much then its practically impossible for him to just up and push you to the side. Try to think about how hard it may be for him letting go of his friend of so many years and settling down into married life. But he obviously has faith that you are capable of being on your own without him. Maybe his coldness is even his way of trying to get you to let go of him easier. Have you thought of that one? Its easier to dislike someone who is being a jerk than let go of someone who is still holding your hand and being sweet to you.
Also think of what it might be like to be his wife: a grown woman (I am assuming) having to take a back seat to a 19 year old when it comes to your husband is a pretty difficult thing to deal with. (I know she has told you otherwise but you need to remember that some people put on a front when things are hard to deal with. And if your her husband's good friend she wouldn't want to up and be rude to you.)
Would you appreciate the love of your life dropping everything for their friend of the opposite gender? Having a 30-year-old boyfriend I can tell you that would make me a bit jealous even if I tried my hardest for it not to. And not because of anything solid, just the principle. If he's such the good man you describe him as then he most certainly is taking his wife's feelings into consideration and just up and avoiding and kind of situation that might hurt her-- as a man should do for the woman he loves. I think he's being a good husband while still trying hard to be a good friend and not just up and abandon you and those have got to be a load of stress on his mind. I think you need to give him that space or he or the wife may end up resenting you.
It doesn't mean your relationship with your friend will dissolve it just means, like many BFFs find out when they get a lover, that you will not have much time as you once had and the things you talk about will be a little different. Try to be happy that he has someone who obviously cares a great deal for him.
Hey jenifer :]
ya this pretty much sums up why i havn't been on Gaia xD
well to me..it happend all of a sudden. One sec i was close to Harry..now it's just..eh. He told me he loves me like a sister and no one can ever replace me. And he told me even when he acts like he dosn't care..he really dose :
He tells me all the time "i'm better off without him" and "I'll be fine on my own" and "one day he isn't gonna be here like he used to be" idk weather he wants to let go or not. He and his wife both told me they want me around..and Harry told me even tho he dosn't need me..it's nice knowing i'm there for him. He knows, no matter how cold he is towards me..i still love him and i will forgive him each time he hurts me. each time him or me wants to walk away from the friendship (8 years is a long time to be in somones life) We both know we woun't walk away that easy or at all. He may be upset and not happy art me at times..and same goes for my case..but we both don't wanna leave the friendship.
and his wife..she's 17. She wants me around and i'm actauly very good friends with her. It's just me and her only talk when Harrys not around to stop us...keeping in mind i accsedently broke them up one time cuz i thought he was cheating...as it turned out he wasn't but thats beside the story. And Helen even told me "i feel like i'm getting in the way, and if i have to..i will leave him if you 2 don't make up and just be friends" and she told Harry that the same way.
Trust me, Harys a good man, and any girl will be lucky to have her. But hes with Helen. As you can see..it's complicated..me and Harry used to talk everyday..now it's just eh..and I miss him >.<
So dose this explain enough...?