Can a person with low self esteem fake being this arrogantt?

[nothign]

I know some people are good actors but I know of a girl who has realy low self esteem and social phobia but she acts really arrogant around people and they buy it, is she insecure really or is she becoming a conceited person?

[!d!ot Amer!ca]

I can't answer that for her.
Only she knows.
But yes, a person with low self esteem can imitate and fake being arrogant.

[vdszbz]

Could be either one. Often, people who are bullies and/or super arrogant and stuck up really have low self-esteem and are using that to cover it up. Think about it... if you were confident in yourself, would you feel the need to constantly brag and bring other people down?

[Misty_Mystix]

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I know some people are good actors but I know of a girl who has realy low self esteem and social phobia but she acts really arrogant around people and they buy it, is she insecure really or is she becoming a conceited person?

People who are outwardly arrogant can be the most insecure people on the inside, I've met a lot of these. It's to compensate for how they feel inside, how they want themselves to actually be, and seek approval from others. It can also be a "fake it until you make it" thing.

[Trainer Aurora Rain]

Not a diagnosis, just a terminology to think about:
Inferiority Complex

[Reiko Iwamaru]

I'm not really a psychologist so I can't really say...but yes, it is very possible.

With society today and how the fact is that bullies are developing more hurtful and harmful ways to get under your skin, I think it is not only a way for her to say that she probably needs help with a problem she's facing with herself + school or herself + home life, but also a shell of protection for herself since she knows. However, this isn't healthy.

Pretending to be someone your not only worsens on how they feel because it is just a reminder that they have to put on a mask every single time to put up an impression (and I know because I do the same).

I say try talking to her, getting to know her. She's probably just really, really, REALLY lonely and is in dire need for a friend who will listen to her woes, and give a shoulder to lean on.

But to answer your question: yes she is really insecure, no she isn't becoming a conceited person (probably, like I said I'm not a psychologist).

But yes: seeing as how you are awesome, I can see you two probably being really great friends! Just try and talk to her. Try not to let her arrogant shell get to you. Yes arrogancy can be VERY annoying, but we have to move past it to see the cotton fluff on the inside. We must remove the pelt, and stare at the cotton so we may insert a heart and develop love~

(okay I know that sounds REALLY REALLY bad AND extremely over the top cheesy, but its true)

[Inspirational ANON]

It is possible. I've seen it happen with a friend of mine.

[oh hey cole]

Not a direct answer but I think it may help:

A lot of self help books tell you that you should convince yourself to be happy by acting happy. Acting happy can make you feel happy. When I was promoted at work to a lead with about ten to thirty people under me at any one time I was still a little timid and socially awkward, but my supervisor told me to try and tell myself I'm a good leader and pretend to be a good leader and I'll become a good leader. In my case it totally worked.

tl:dr
This person may have had low self esteem but by acting cocky and proud of themselves have become conceited. She may just need to tone it back some to a healthier level.

[SchizoSpazz]

it could be. sounds like MAJOR compensation, and you'd really have to be able to see through it.

[AngelBiscuits]

You can hate yourself, and still think you're better than everyone else. However, it's probably just legitimately bad self-esteem and trying to compensate for it, or just trying to get by. When you have low self-esteem and social phobia it's difficult to function as normal so if you put on a front of being confident and happy with yourself, it becomes easier to cope and people don't treat you like such a pushover.

I have terrible social anxiety and severe depression, which ultimately means I have negative self-esteem, but if I walk with an air of confidence and talk myself up, no one knows the difference and I don't get pushed around and walked all over.

However some people go overboard.