I get it mostly from a big mix from single friends, married friends but mostly family (as I'm sure is usual with a lot of people). I just want to say "If you pay for it, we'll get married. If not, please stop pushing because we want to do it OUR way."
Unfortunately, my parents are going through some really rough things themselves at the moment and I'd feel horrible about just telling them no. That part of the finances should be remedied within the next 5 months. Just gotta stick it out. Venting helps is all. ^.^
But yeah, watching everyone else is something that drives me crazy. It's ridiculous and I know it. It's just frustrating, especially when you get the "You guys aren't married yet?! Why not?!" from people. It gets pretty old. And then to hear these people talk about kids too? Just makes me want to pull out my hair and smash the biological clock that makes me feel like time has run out. He and I just need to get to the point where we tell the world to screw off, handle yourselves, we're going on our own. Problem is you can't tell the world to go away and still live in it.
S'ok. I'll be over this in a couple days. I have random days where it bugs me more than anything and then the rest of the time I couldn't care less and find the situation hilarious.
It's so beyond frustrating! People that didn't even know each other before we started dating have since gotten into relationships and gotten married. We haven't even gotten engaged. Then I get the "Just have a cheap wedding" lecture. We don't want a cheap wedding. I mean, we don't want one that's like 90k dollars but we don't want to cut too many corners with it. To us, it's not just OUR day either. In our minds, we represent our parents through the wedding as well. It's really hard to explain but we consider it an opportunity to honor them. We aren't doing that without extra thought and consideration.
Overall though, we're just trying to line things up for our lives now and pave the road that needs to be there for our future. Too many things are becoming out of our control though and that is what is just making my brain explode especially when people don't understand what we're giving up to help them out. Odd, I want to honor my parents through my wedding but they're one reason I haven't had it yet. stressed