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Report | 09/01/2012 4:59 am

webgrl

Thanks for your concern. I will be careful in whatever I choose to do. He hasn't been drinking much these days, so things have improved. He's been acting more normal. He has even even cancelled a trip to see his family to be with me, because he says he's in love with me. He's always talks of having a child, but you and I both know that I don't want any kids. I'm not sure we would make a good match anyway. He is a little on the controlling side. I have both a father and a stepfather. I don't really need another one... But he's probably not all that bad actually. He is likeable. Girls like him. Guys like him. When he gets mad with them, they just laugh at him.

I'm not good at giving love advice (and I'm clearly lacking some life experience), but here goes!

Were you still with your girlfriend while you were waiting patiently for this girl's love? I don't think she felt the same about you at all or she would have responded in a positive way. It has been way too long. True love is mutual, not one-sided.

I had this crush on a guy for over 4 years, hoping he would like me back. He ignored my hints of interest, but we were good friends. Finally I told him and I got the rejection email I was expecting. He didn't give me a reason why I was not the one for him, but he said that I was beautiful and I would meet the right one, etc. Though we are still friends, we lost touch a while ago. I guess we have moved on with our lives.

Ras, I know you are afraid of being hurt again, but I think you deserve to be loved, just like anyone else. Heartbreaks are just another part of life, and so are regrets. If you don't take chances, you will never know. You will learn lessons and gain new experiences by being in any relationship. There is no rush to find someone or a soul mate. If it was meant to be, it will happen. You can meet people anywhere, not just at parties or in crowds. But not everyone needs a partner to be happy. You have to allow your heart to heal and move on somehow, because you don't want to be stuck in the past forever. You need to make a fresh start in your life.
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Report | 08/31/2012 11:35 pm

Nick Almasy

I'm BACK
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Report | 08/31/2012 11:29 pm

Nick Failmasy

Well, I got it back!!! They restored some of my items but alot of them are still missing. But all the big ticket items are here
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Report | 08/31/2012 4:19 am

webgrl

Sorry, typo:

he's probably only hanging out with me because he wants me to be more than his friend*
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Report | 08/31/2012 4:06 am

webgrl

You're right, because my mother also thinks he's unstable. She told me so. I admit I have felt threatened by him, but not all the time. I think I'm getting used to him acting like a mad man, lol. We don't really have a lot of arguments now that I've decided not to argue back. It's pointless.

I know I could simply cut ties and tell him not to call or visit anymore. But while I appreciate your sensible advice, I'm just going to have him as a friend. It's a crazy, unwise decision, I know. Maybe I'm just saying this because there is no other person on the planet who really cares enough to want to hang around a boring person such as myself. Okay, so I know he's probably only hanging out with me because he wants me to be more his friend, but I don't like being alone all the time either. It's not easy finding people to hang out with me, as they all tend to lose interest. I know that eventually this guy will find someone else. He says there are a lot of girls that are after him but none of them are his type. Apparently, I'm the only girl that he loves because I'm not like the rest (quiet, shy, humble, blah blah blah).

I'm sorry for the price you had to pay for your mistake. It sucks to fall for someone who doesn't feel the same way about you. (Ah, the story of my life. No wonder I've been single for all my life, yay.) I know you didn't intend to disrespect her. I guess you should have been patient and waited for her instead of coming on too strong. It's probably too late to change things, so I think it best that you need to try and get over her somehow. Think of all her faults, negative traits, and every single thing you don't like about her. Maybe that would help a little. Also get out of the house. Travel to new places, meet new people, form new friendships and relationships, date and stuff, party hard - all in the name of fun. If you have no interest in doing such things, then you're not really trying to help the situation. By the way, was she your friend or your ex?

Last year, I remember turning down this guy because of something like that. He was kinda cute, though not exactly my type (do I even have a type? lol) but a little on the controlling Desperado "You have no choice but to be with me" side. I now regret not giving him a chance and getting to know him more because he seemed like a fun guy. These days, I'm trying to be more open minded with people. On the surface they may be A, but deeper down they're actually B.
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Report | 08/30/2012 9:31 pm

Nick Failmasy

Yeah and they said they got as much of my stuff back as possible too. I just cant wait!!!
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Report | 08/30/2012 8:20 pm

Nick Failmasy

So, it turns out that they resolved the hacking but I havent gotten the email for the account password reset. It has been a day so far that i waited...
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Report | 08/28/2012 11:58 am

webgrl

Thank you. Now I know where to turn whenever I need some advice or somewhere to vent. Venting is good for the soul, especially when someone's listening. Too bad you don't come online as much as before.

Anyway...

When we met, he said he wanted only a friendship. But apparently he wanted more than that from the very start. Our first "date" went well, and I thought things were cool at first but then I got to know him better.

This guy has a few more undesirable traits, like getting impatient/irritated easily and arguing with me for, like, almost everything. It's been 4 big arguments already and I've known him for a month. I once told him "You're not my dad" and he swore at me and slammed the door. That was really scary, but I had managed to laugh it off. Despite this, he touches me in certain places when I've asked him not to. The magic words "sexual harassment" works like a charm though. But he doesn't seem to respect my wishes. He knows where I live and disrespects my mother by visiting after 9pm. This is probably the third or fourth time he has slept over. The last time was last night. I tried to make him leave but he doesn't listen to me. She is planning to have a serious talk with him about this soon.
Good traits. He calls often. He's affectionate. He's generous - he brings us groceries sometimes, (but demands food whenever he comes, treating me like his wife). He gets on with most people. He seems to have many friends everywhere and talks to everyone. He can be friendly, but can be extremely rude to people he dislikes. He invited me out on the weekend, but I declined. Birds of a feather flock together and I don't want people to think I am like him.

So overall, the bad traits overshadow the good traits. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but at the same time I am certain I will never be his wife. (He's mentioned saving up for my wedding dress and impregnating me with his baby, geez!). He is desperate and does not take "No" for an answer, but I'm guessing once he realises that I am wasting his valuable time, he might stop visiting and calling so often. He is so convinced that we'll be married someday that I almost feel sorry for him.

You said something similar happened to you. What mistakes did you make?
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Report | 08/27/2012 11:59 pm

Nick Failmasy

Well, i already sent in a hack report. All i can do is hope they give some stuff back to me
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Report | 08/27/2012 10:48 pm

Nick Failmasy

Yeah. It really sucks start from scratch again.
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Report | 08/27/2012 10:20 pm

Nick Failmasy

Random a*****e.
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Report | 08/24/2012 5:44 pm

webgrl

Uh, I meant disregard the last comment. We're still friends after that argument.
Need advice, lol.
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Report | 08/21/2012 7:32 pm

Nick Failmasy

Yes, it is the guy who is using my old account and is being quite rude to me. Go to my profile to see his comments.
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Report | 08/21/2012 4:44 pm

webgrl

Oh, please disregard everything I've said about the guy. We had an argument tonight and he said our friendship is over. Well, that didn't last...
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Report | 08/20/2012 12:51 pm

webgrl

Yes, it only undos the last step, not the whole thing.

Don't worry, my depression didn't last forever (even though I thought it would at the time) and I don't think yours will either. It could be that you're just heartbroken. I don't know much about love, but I know that time will heal a broken heart.

Right now there's this guy that I've only known for 3 weeks. We're friends, but he thinks I'm his best friend and is determined to make me his wife (which by the way, is *never* going to happen because we're like 2 completely different people). He acts thuggish, is usually smoking and drinking (even got disqualified for drunk driving), embarrasses me when we went out (he was very rude to some people), and I can't really understand him when he talks on the phone. My mother thinks I deserve better and that we should remain friends. I keep telling him that but he doesn't get it. Any advice? Should I find a decent boyfriend as soon as possible so that he can leave me alone and stop calling me "wifey"? Aargh.

I will top-up my account at the end of the month, then I will talk to at least one psychic online. I will let you know how it turns out.
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Report | 08/19/2012 1:26 pm

Nick Failmasy

It sucks starting from scratch. I got some items thanks to my sister.
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Report | 08/12/2012 5:45 pm

webgrl

It's about time we had an Undo button, Ras. It is indeed very useful.

I guess the web will have dream meanings relating to trains and public transport. I haven't researched the meaning, as it isn't relevant to me anymore, but more than one source have mentioned that missing the train would mean missing opportunities. I guess it makes a lot of sense. During that time in my life I was depressed because of my panic attacks and social anxiety, therefore missing opportunities because of my mental state. I felt trapped in that situation. I dropped out of university, I was sleeping a lot and I didn't have the energy to do anything else. I was tired most of the time, and it felt as if something heavy was holding me down. I tried to avoid crowds - and especially trains - as much as possible, as it would have triggered a panic attack or something. I guess the train is significant after all.

Thanks. I will be careful, though this guy seems genuine and approachable. I have a feeling things will turn out OK. The website is http://www.oranum.com, and there are many psychics I can have a reading with.
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Report | 08/12/2012 1:27 pm

Nick Failmasy

Its me, Nick Almasy. My account got hacked. Can you re added me please?
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Report | 08/11/2012 1:31 pm

Nick Almasy

I have been playing alot of left 4 dead 2. So, that weapon is my favorite melee weapon.
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Report | 08/11/2012 1:18 pm

Nick Almasy

rainblower? Man, thats gonna take me FOREVER to make!!! and what makes me laugh alot is the freaken frying pan!
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