WANT TO FEEL IMPORTANT AND APPRECIATED?IT ALL STARTS WITH TREATING YOURSELF WITH RESPECT!
EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE RESPECTED-INCLUDING YOU!
Ever felt disrespected?
Before you quickly answer "no way,"take a moment to remember if you've ever experienced these:
•Someone laughed at you and you felt bad about it-but you didn't say anything or let anyone know.
•You felt that you weren't as smart/pretty/cool/fun as someone else.
•You kept quiet and went along with someone else's plan rather that speaking up about why you don't agree with or feel comfortable about it.
•You still said yes to something even if you really meant no,just to please other people or avoid being scolded or feeling out of place.
•You felt invisible or like a pushover-like if someone cuts in front of the lunch line or your friends keeps on saying that they could do anything to you and you won't dare to get mad at them.
HOW TO GET SOME SELF-RESPECT:
1.Remind yourself that you are important!
You are just as valuable as the most popular girl in school,the older sis that you always thought was your mom's favorite or the celeb that's got thousands of fans.
2.Listen to yourself.
Whether it's just a thought that you keep to yourself or something you say out loud,what you have to say matters.How old you are isn't a reason for you not to be listened to or to be ignored.
3.Define your lines.
The best way to know when you line's been crossed is to think "is this the way that I want to be treated or talked to?"If the answer is no,your line's been crossed and you've got to defend it!
Express how you feel and stick to what you ay to show that you're serious.
4.Stay true to your word.
That means for everyone,including yourself!Keeping your promises shows you treasure what you say and know that you can push through with what you said you would do.Plus, others will trust you more if they see that you mean what you say.
5.Ask for help.
Sometimes you'll get into situations that makes you feel disrespected and you're bothered about it, but you're not so sure why. If you feel confused or need an explanation,ask a trusted adult or someone you look up to. Asking isn't a sign that you're not strong or smart enough to handle it.It's recognizing that you still have a lot to learn and experience in life and you need someone who's been there to explain things to you.
Resources from Total Girl Magazine Philippines March 2009 issue.
If you are inspired by this message,send this to someone whom you felt was disrespected.