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Last Login: 06/06/2023 3:26 pm

Registered: 11/03/2005

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Location: Seattle

Birthday: 05/28/1988

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angelsweetcoconutcake Report | 12/04/2022 2:09 pm

Thank you so much for commenting on my thread! I really appreciate your insight. It means a lot.

I'm not able to message but I was wondering if its okay to vent to you. It's a bit long if thats ok?

I've actually been hurting over a potential relationship that did not work out. I feel so down.

I'm in a weird phase of my life where I'm still trying to figure out my career. I've struggled a lot academically. I graduated medical school 3 years ago and have been studying for board exams (that are needed to apply for medical residency programs - training programs for doctors). In school, I repeated a year and was at the bottom of my class. I had to re-take exams every single summer. Was not able to get involved in extracurricular activities. Getting residency is ultra competitive, unnecessarily and very expensive. I've only gotten 1 interview so far (and by the way, they only hire once a year). I'm studying to re-take a board exam that I need to add onto my application so it looks better (more of a likely chance a program will choose you because I'm a weaker applicant).

And romantically....I was interested in this guy for 14-15 years of my life. It didn't work out and I have been feeling devastated. It was a stupid, long crush. We had no interaction, I just had seen him and knew of him. He's the son of family friends (well, they are close friends of my dad's elder brother and sister-in-law). His mom always really liked me. I know this sounds super conservative/traditional. We were formally introduced to each other. He actually came over to my house and really hit it off. He wanted my number and we were in the talking stage (it was over text). Things were fine until he started questioning me about money, job prospects, and children/nannies. He's in his early 30s with absolutely no friends and described himself as "robotic". He asked me about how many children I wanted and if I'd work part-time or full-time. When I said part-time to work around the children's schedule, he asked, "What about all that school and all those exams that you did?" He said its important for both people to work. He said he would work from home because he does not subscribe to traditional gender roles. When asking about nannies he didn't want that and said his parents would watch the kids. He asked what my views on our children having medication and psychiatrists are. Also asked me if I had a rainy day fund (which I don't have because I'm not earning yet).

He works at the intersection of IT/Finance and is now the director for the company he works for. I only went along with it because I thought it was normal. It felt like an interview/checklist. He had big issues with me wanting to treat myself off and on, for example, wanting to go out to eat once a week. He said if I'm going out to eat once a week and he's contributing to our children's college fund then there is an imbalance. When I told him I wanted to dress nicely or buy decorative items for our home, he said I was just doing things for appearance's sake. I tried offering a balanced approach (treating ourselves on occasion/being financially responsible and saving and investing). He didn't recognize this as a good idea. I even made my wants smaller and said we could go out to eat twice a month even, which he still wasn't happy with. Bear in mind, this individual owns 3 homes and makes over 300K+ a year. I told him that I felt he had an unhealthy relationship with money, which I felt concerned and unsettled by.

He does give back to charity (supports the education of children in developing countries by sending money, prefers 'bare bones" vacations, and volunteered his time at horse farms. He hikes in remote locations and goes mountain biking.

He wasn't honest about his previous relationship (together for 2 years and had broken up a year prior to me talking to him), when I said we could talk about things later. He told me he had felt so lucky to have met me and liked me and that he still w

Gyre Sage Report | 11/08/2022 5:08 pm

your avi is so cute!! 3nodding

OtakuKat Report | 12/20/2021 9:25 pm

Thanks for buying cat_3nodding

StellaandNilly Report | 12/20/2021 3:59 pm

Hi!

Sidurii Report | 10/26/2021 3:22 pm

Hell yeah!

Sidurii Report | 10/25/2021 8:18 pm

Congratz on coming out! I just saw that you did, and I thought that I should say this, since it's a big deal. c:

i love COCKroaches Report | 10/17/2021 11:58 am

beetlejuice 3x

SR_Cross Report | 10/15/2021 8:48 am

ty for buying whee

stuntmonkey Report | 10/14/2021 8:22 am

I'm digging the spider avi :3

Neziar Report | 10/11/2021 11:53 pm

It's Tuesday on our end now, but Monday also happened to have been Nat'l Coming Out Day, so it seems that you had the perfect day to come out! That's awesome, am so happy for you! Glad that you're bringing a more 'authentic' you from now on, I hope the journey to self discovery had some good memories or funny ones in retrospect. I know I looked back and went "oh, that was quite Ace" XD