This is a RECENT PICTURE OF MYSELF...
I hate fake people!
I am and have been in a relationship with my fiance Dmitri for 15 years so I am not looking for love... biggrin
I already found it....
I am Cuban, Irish, German, Native American.
I am a difficult individual not really to get along with but to please! Friendship in my opinion should not be taken lightly or ever put on the back burner! One would say I aml passionate with my friendship relations. You f*** with the best you die like the rest.
I am definitely a person you either hate or love there is no in between really! Cause I will take you out of my life just as fast as you got back in it!
I am normally a sarcastic brutally honest to those who meet me on. I have no patience for inconsiderate or purposely ignorant people. Determination is the key to all your goals in life.The magic of a positive thought has endless possibilities.
I do not have what the average person would call religion. I do not go to church. Church goers USUALLY....Are fake people. That go to church on sunday. And feel that the rest of the week it is ok to sin.
I like cherry image products as well as skulls. Or skeleton things.
This is the reason that I put Gothic Sol as my screen name....
This is probably the hardest question any goth could try and answer, one may as well ask 'what is society?' as it has so many facets it defies any definitive explanation.
Goth in its simplest form, is a subculture. A group of people who feel comfortable within each others company. There is no specific thing that defines what you need to do or be to fit into the goth scene (except of course the implied black clothing). People in the goth scene all have different musical tastes, follow different religions, have different occupations, hobbies, and fashion sense.
Why do people become goth's?
Most goth's become goth's because they have been spurned by 'normal' society because the way they want to live their lives does not fit in with how most people are told to live theirs. Goths are free thinkers, people who do not accept the moral rules of society because they're told 'This is just how it is' or 'This is what God says!'. Rather goth's tend to listen to what you have to say, and make up their own mind. This kind of free thinking and rejection of dogma earns only rejection in todays society.
However because of this rejection from 'normal' society, goth's have banded together to associate with other free thinkers. This has a beneficial effect on both the individual and society as a whole. For the individual they have a sense of belonging, and friends they can associate with. For society it removes one more misfit filled with rage from society's streets.
This of course is not the case for all goth's. Many goth's today are goth's for a variety of other reasons. They like the music, or the clubs are better, they have goth friends and joined in with them, or they just like staying up late nights and goths are the only ones awake to talk to.
The gothic stereotype
Many stereotypes of goths exist these days. It seems everyone has their own way to define 'what is goth'. From the stereotypes based on clothing to music right up to the stereotypes of all goths being satanists or part of some kind of cult. Categorically, all of these are false.
The goth scene is just as widely varied as society in general. There are many different professions represented in the scene, from highly skilled professionals like doctors and lawyers, to tradesman, to technically minded people to clerical workers. Many different musical tastes exist (and not all of them goth, there is a HUGE 80's following in the goth scene for some reason). The fashion varies vastly from goth to goth from the traditional flowing victorian style garments to the buckled and studded style regalia (also called industrial style, which is often closely related with goths, and have come to an understanding of co-existance, it was uneasily at times).
How do I get into goth?
Goths tend to be accepting and open minded. Just turn up to a club or event wearing all black and your already in the goth scene. You'll pick it up as you go along (just a hint though, lay off the vampire comments!).
The gothic sense of humour is highly developed, and often leans toward the satirical. Quietly laughing at the more idiotic and less tolerant factions of society that seem to think yelling out of cars at us makes them cooler. Goths have learned to laugh at themselves and see society in a much different light. They have had to, and it is a trait most would not give up.
Goths have for the most part (not unanimously of course, but mostly) dropped all forms of prejudice. No one is afraid within the goth scene to come out as being gay, and no one has to hide their religion for fear of scorn from their peers or zealots wanting to convert them from the arms of Satan. In fact because of these facts (and the general lack of prejudice) the goth scene has a large proportion of gays/bisexuals, and followers of non-mainstream religions and views. This of course is the most important aspect of gothdom, and why most goths became goths in the first place, tolerance.
But they think weird!
Ah, but this is the beauty of goth's. Most subjects that are taboo in 'normal' society are freely discussed and debated about. Death, religion, magic, mysticism, and many other topics that are only roached carefully outside of the gothic community. Most goth's have realized that fear is only a reaction instilled in us by dogmatic propaganda, and once you realize there is nothing to fear from the topic, whats to stop you discussing it?
Goths often rebel in the fear given to them by society as a whole. Often the behavior exhibited by society to them based on society's perception of them from stereotypes, rumor, etc are a constant source of entertainment. Of course, most of the rumors are totally unfounded, and dumb founding. goths are people just like everyone else, however when you already have a reputation, going for the shock factor is often far too tempting to see how much society at large is willing to believe (or deduce) with only a little encouragement.
This does not totally fall away once you get inside the scene unfortunately, and goths are all too often tempted to try for the shock factor within the scene (which turns out more tacky than shocking). Goths when you get down to it can be a rather pretentious bunch, trying for those extra 'goth points' on the gothier than thou scale, but it adds to the enjoyment.