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This is frustrating me enough.....i feel like a guidance counselor. But i was told i had good points and i want to save it for future reference in case i need it so i will put it on here so it stays organized and somewhere that i can access it easily enough.

put yourself in his shoes for the past year....what's happened to him? he's cheated on you a significant number of times which made him feel worthless and his relationship has been on the decline
loren tends to withdraw and hurt himself when he feels depressed, knowing both of these we can assume that he has shut down at the moment, totally drawn up into his own little shell
he most likely feels like he can't trust anyone, not his friends because they dont approve already, and not you because he feels like hurting you has made you lose faith in him completely
as much as you tell him this he's still confused since you periodically blow up at him about things, which you have the right to do, but it's sending mixed signals
so right now he most likely feels like his relationship is over or almost over so he's trying to find other people, other girls, he can trust and who will love him the way you did when things were going fine
however, they keep turning him down which makes him hide and hurt himself even more, and when he talks to you he ends up telling you this stuff which hurts you more which ultimately hurts him more since hes hurting you
now he feels like he has no one to turn to, you're hurting and he feels like you're mad at him *which you should be* so he can't turn to you, his friends dont approve of his relationship so they were never a good option to turn to, and all the other people he's trying to find are turning him down and completely destroying any confidence he has for himself
without this confidence he ends up feeling even more worthless on top of every other bad feeling he's having so when he tries to talk to you he ends up becoming confused and hurt and can't think of the right things to say to you *sorry, yes i'm repeating myself but it's a circle effect thing*


so yes, this is my good job for the day. This issue depresses me majorly but something needs to be done about it, however, the two members that are the center of this are a little disoriented and confused. It's been a long slippery slope to this point with more downs then ups so of course it's going to be depressing and stressful *tons of stress, no wonder i'm breaking out like crazy xd * I just hope everything works out because it was a good relationship, but as of right now the best i can do is give my advice, hope i dont get my head bitten off for it, and sit back and watch from the sidelines. This will take forever to sort out, I hope they can hold out that long because i refuse to feed a dead flame, I will not approve of this relationship if it can't flow naturally and become healthy again.