“A sarcastic person has a superiority complex that can be cured only by the honesty of humility.”
- Lawrence G. Lovasik
Friends and I recently had a conversation regarding sarcasm. You know that person we all have in our lives who’s main form of humor is sarcastic? They often have a snarky comment that highlights an error, misspoken word, quirky characteristic, imperfect body part, level of intellect, creative fashion, etc. Many even BOAST of their high level of sarcasm, creating an air of superiority.
Well, to my surprise, we unanimously decided it becomes annoying. Granted, we all have used sarcastic humor in moments and even laughed when used by others. It’s best in measured doses however, and best when not used to bring focus to a flaw, mistake or character trait. Some studies show this type of humor requires a high level of intelligence, while others show the opposite, due to it’s a lack of emotional acuity. Sarcasm and wit are not comparable.
It’s been said by some it is hostility disguised as humor, a revelation of insecurity, or a subtle form of bullying. We agreed with these thought processes. There are often times when sarcastic barbs sting. We tend to accept and brush them off, because who wants to be THAT person. You know, the one who cannot take a joke. Right? Still, it’s unpleasant.
Psychologists recommend calling people out when they persist with this “humor”, by telling them it makes you feel uncomfortable. It’s essentially the same advice given about bullying; stand up to them. I’m not sure I could bring myself do do that, though. It could create awkwardness in a social situation and in the end, make others feel embarrassed.
I found it an interesting conversation. All these years, I thought I was in a minority of people who felt that way, thinking myself as being too sensitive. It’s nice to know I’m not.
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