You can either be in or out. Yes or no. Positive or negative. What I mean is, you really do have ONLY ONE PURE CHANCE to not ******** up and be in despair.
Let's say you started going out, everything is good and you're getting to know the person. 5 months later one of you did the other wrong or annoy them. Could be not being on the same terms, cheating, excuses after excuses, Etc.
Well you get to learn from what they did to you and wish it doesn't happen again. But the fact that your thinking is he/she may change, but in all reality they did not change.
So the second time around, the third, and forth you keep your guard up because that pure chance for toxic. Now he or she is putting their guard up to.
Yes I know, why don't you just move on? Or that's stupid why don't you just leave?
Im not letting that pokemon go!
Haha!! Well if you're like me, I live for real life challenges. Sometimes I don't know if I'm being manipulated or swooned. Who knows? Because I decided to make things work. It took some time going through bullshit and hell on back, but the reward was great. I got someone who understood me in my own way. The time will come where I'll learn on my own and the hard way.
What I'm saying is if you stick to a something, make a good honest impression. Don't hide your flaws, that make you, you. Don't be the entertainer of someone that doesn't want you for you, or your relationship will be lies after lies. Rather have that person up and leave instead of hurting you in the long run.
Don't screw it up or you'll either want to go through years of pain by fixing it. Make it great the first time around.
That's just my advice. Questions, answers?
6 years and going.