Think with your heart not your mind.? Is that the saying? Well that's my saying now! Kidding. I hate arguments that escalate to an hour long speech of hate. I mean I know that it's a small arguement, and I tell them hey it's not going to be a big deal, is it? If we talk about a subject?.......Person agrees, we start talking, and BOOM goes the arguement. Tables get turned.
Now my heart and mind is playing 'who wants to be a millionaire' with the question being "What will you do/say next?"
My four answers in my head are: A. Be honest/serious proceed B. Argue and play their game C. Make fun of yourself before it gets worse D. Switch the subject
My brain says be feisty and let your mouth flow of vulgarity. And my heart is too scared to take control. I know it's a bad habit. To believe I'm in no wrong at times, but it's also a good thing because they can't advantage. But what would be perfect is if it can balance out instead of being a yes gal to everything. Having an opinion is nice
But back to the heart and mind, I flipped and will continue to flip in the meantime till my heart gives out or takes control and does the right thing. I'm sorry ,guys/gals who read this. It's me and it's just hard for some odd reason.
I continue to take the manipulation, the pain, fear, trauma, from family, friends, customers, etc.. and I do also take in a handful of love from them too. But I'm in limbo, and that's the balance I really don't want to be in. Because in reality the cons outweigh the pros