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I've been writing in this since I was thirteen in 2007. I still am writing in it, and it will probably be my legacy till the day I die. (Don't start reading from the beginning as my writing was atrocious then.)
How To Kill off Your Feelings!
------Author's Notes: Its been a while since I created an author's note, whoa. So I wrote this essay because I couldn't sleep and, maybe some of you guys need help in killing off unnecessary attractions you find among other people. I have killed my feelings in multiple occasions. My experience mostly derived from a long distance relationship, where my loyalty was constantly wavering, and that I had kill off these feelings, because no one ever understood as much as she did. She was worth it...

------Ever been stuck in the dreaded friend zone? Have you ever been dumped or rejected? Have you always still wanted to be "friends" without the awkward tension and the embarrassing fact that you just revealed your feelings? I'm pretty sure everyone goes through this s**t in life, so I got the solution for you! Hi, I'm Ani here, and I have had my heart shattered, from being dumped, rejected, and worst of all being stuck in the friend zone. A wise man from a certain YouTube channel, I which I forgot due to my mass amount of philosophical subscriptions imprinted these words in my head: “Drop the middle school s**t … Build more bridges, instead of creating walls.” In this short essay, I will show you a way to keep in touch of those who shattered your heart, without having your stupid feelings get in the way. I know of this because I have killed my feelings multiple times! WARNING: This will hurt like a b***h and wound your personality, proceed with caution!

------One thing we first have to understand is, by killing off our feelings, we create a rift within ourselves and our personalities. Are feelings are a part of who you are, so killing it off, or throwing it away, will leave an empty space inside you. By creating this, we intentionally create a bigger rift, to consume the rift, which was left to you by your heart breaker. The imagery here would be a supermassive black hole consuming a tiny black hole. By killing of our feelings we will feel empty inside for a long time. But as time progresses, things in life will fill up inside you again, and you will find yourself to be whole. However in rare occasions, we will find ourselves still feeling empty for a very long time. The solution of this is to “breathe”, and find hobbies and things to fill that void, and ultimately learning to forgive and forget.

------To kill off our feelings, we must first create distance. I’m not saying to ignore the person, but rather avoid casual contact and conversations with them. You are entitled to say “Hi” or “Hello” but that is all, unless you require something from them because you work or go to school together. So hang out with your other friends, and do whatever is fun to you, distance the person as far as you can. When you find yourself thinking about them when you’re bored or doing your work, focus your attention somewhere else. In addition, this is also great time to create something productive, such as creating songs, poetry, art and even personal essays for them. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but it relates next to my second step.

------The next step to killing off your feelings is to objectify them. This means, by degrading their existence to you, into an object. You can do this by creating a story in which they are the antagonists, and you are the prevailing protagonist which is set to defeat them. You can also transcribe them into songs, calling them out, bringing shame into their actions. There are many multiple ways that you can degrade a person’s existence, such as bullying and even mass genocide as what the nazi’s did to the jews. However, we are only objectifying them within ourselves, personal realities and our imaginations, as we want to keep contact with them. This step is probably the most daunting and hardest step to achieve, as you have to create a balance within your actions. If you created a piece of art objectifying them, then you must make sure that they never find it.

------Our third step into killing off your feelings is acceptance. You must realized that they have hurt you by denying your feelings, and you must be the stronger person and brush it off. Realize, that there are larger things in life and that time keeps moving on. Learn from your mistakes, if you created them, and avoid them in the future. If you were friend zone or rejected, then maybe be more cautious of showing your true feelings. Try out new things in life, and learn to forgive and forget that you have ever liked them in the first place. This step is also hard, but it should be easy with the help of time, and friends.

------By combining these steps of creating distance, objectifying and accepting, you can create a non-awkward bubble around you two. I guarantee that things will not be the same, and this process will hurt a lot, but you can still have that friendship by converting it into a friendship of convenience! The process and time may vary amongst people, but as long as you follow these three simple steps, you can still be friends with them! If you have any questions or comments, post them below. If my method does not work well for you, then perhaps you need to cut them off your life permanently, and you probably don’t need them.

Thanks for reading! This is Anikacy, who can't ******** sleep.






User Comments: [1]
Xhn
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Fri Jul 18, 2014 @ 08:42pm


That no sleeping Ani. : <


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