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I was talking to a friend who was going thought some issues and I just have some thoughts that I need a place to say.
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Whenever people, mostly teens and young adults, have issues with cutting or burning or that sort of thing, SO many people have the same immediate thought.. Something along the lines of, "Oh, they're just doing it for attention. Never Mind them."
Now, There Are TWO MAJOR THINGS Wrong Here.
First of all, Since when did a need for attention become something with such a negative connotation? The need for attention is a legitimate need. It is a need to be recognized as a person, a need to be accepted, a need for love, a need for belonging. Maslow recognized the need for love and belonging: It's in his Hierarchy of Needs that is used cited so often and taught in all high school psychology classes. Without these feelings fully grasped in their minds, they can feel incredibly lonely, like they are less of a person, and even undeserving of anything that is given to them. And each of those thoughts, every time they happen, takes them down another level. Repeating them subconsciously like mantras. What they NEED at that point in time isn't yet another person writing them off. They want to be recognized as an individual with a purpose, and to be proven wrong; to be proven that they're not alone and that someone DOES care. THIS is the attention that these people need.
NOW, having in mind that these kids and young adults are doing this because they have a legitimately desperate need that is unfulfilled, How Extremely HORRIBLY DESPICABLE is it that people respond that way!?! Those kind of statements and thoughts are EXACTLY the reason these people were brought to this point! They feel like no one notices if they are happy or hurting, bleeding or laughing, bruised or smiling. To them, it seems like no one cares. What they are doing is Looking for someone who cares. And Frankly, It is Disgusting and Shameful that they've managed to make it THAT far without people realizing it and taking a stand against their actions. And if you'd keep thinking in this direction, you'd realize that the more blatent these people are, the deeper their thoughts are! The one 'not afraid to show their scars' are the ones that need the MOST help! And those are the ones that are sadly scanned over, because, "Oh, they're just doing it for attention" ..........
And I'm not speaking as a person who's ever purposefully harmed my skin in any way. No. I'm speaking as a friend who feels disappointed in herself for letting so many of her own friends fall into this state and being too selfish at the time to see ALL of the SIGNS that EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM WERE THROWING IN MY FACE!
*Sigh*
So. To my friends who have been in such situations. I apologize. I apologize with everything that I am. I could have been a better friend, and I Should have been a better friend. But no one can change the past. All i can do now is ask for your forgiveness, and keep walking toward a future in which I WILL notice when my friends and family and acquaintances are crying out to be proven wrong, crying out for the attention that every person on earth desires, and deserves.
I hereby challenge anyone reading to think on this. I challenge you to care for your friends. They might not be at any extreme, but you should care enough to notice when someone isn't being themselves or is an worse mood then normal. When they're a bit more cynical than usual. A bit darker, or more depressed.
THAT is your cue: Your cue to step up and to be the person that uplifts and encourages the people you're close to.
So Be that person. Be a Friend. And Be a Darn Good One.
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 Squusey-Pie · Sat Nov 05, 2011 @ 07:26am · 0 Comments |
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