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Mrs Joe Trohman

PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:01 pm


I'm having SERIOUS problems with clinging to things.
PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 6:24 am


You might check this out.
Detaching from things isn't easy. And it may take years, and even longer, to detach yourself completely from anything. Remind yourself of the nature of the things you find yourself attached to. Impermanent. If you cling to them, inevitably, you will feel suffering, because inevitably, those things will pass. Remind yourself of the impermanent nature of all things. wink Don't stress about it, and don't try to let go, do let go.

Peace Love And Skate


Swordmaster Dragon

PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 6:57 am


"There is no try, only do." Sorry, I couldn't resist.

PL&S is right. Keep in mind, also, that completely detaching from any *one* thing will take years of effort. However, slowly detaching yourself from *all* things I've found to be somewhat easier. Instead of focusing on just one thing, devote a little bit of effort to everything. All that matters is that you make progress, and since both routes will take YEARS before you notice any change...
PostPosted: Wed Jun 27, 2007 10:24 am


Swordmaster Dragon
However, slowly detaching yourself from *all* things I've found to be somewhat easier. Instead of focusing on just one thing, devote a little bit of effort to everything.

I agree completely. I think that studying and meditation upon death, impermanence, and the interconnection of all composite phenomena is very helpful toward that goal.

When you begin to contemplate these subjects, read others' thoughts and commentaries on the prajnaparamita sutras (such as the Heart Sutra or the Diamond Sutra), it slowly begins to change the way you view things in general.

As you meditate and begin to see the impermanence and interconnectedness of all things, it becomes easier and easier to have relationships with people, places and objects without being attached to them. You come to know that they will not last forever, and neither will your relationships with them, and you tend to feel at ease with that even if it's scary in the beginning.

But, also as Swordmaster wrote, the only real way to let go of attachment is just to do it. That doesn't mean you give up your affection or interest in someone or something, though it may end up that you realize that what you're attached to is something you're really interested in at all, but rather it means that you become liberated from being bound to that person or thing.

You can still enjoy it, but since you're not bound to it, and because you know that it's impermanent, it's much easier to fully enjoy it. Your mind isn't always worried about losing it, or about getting as much of it as possible before it runs out. You become much less neurotic about it. 3nodding

But, it takes time and patience with yourself. biggrin

Tenzin Chodron
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