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 Posted: Sun Feb 01, 2015 12:57 pm
Hey, everyone. I know I haven't exactly been active here, but I'd really like some advice.
So, I'm a senior in high school. I've identified as bisexual for a little bit over a year, but have yet to come out to anyone aside from my twin sister.
I'd really like to come out, but here's my problem;
I'm on my school's dance team, which I'm the captain of and greatly enjoy. During performances, we often change in front of each other. And I obviously don't watch other people change, because I respect these people, but I feel like if they knew they'd not only be really uncomfortable during this, but be really uncomfortable with me being on the team overall.
I'd like to come out, I really would. But I don't know if I should. I only have a few more months on this team, and I don't really want to be ostracized during it.
I just really don't know what to do. What do you guys think?
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Posted: Tue Feb 10, 2015 6:32 pm
Coming out is a very difficult thing to do and I can't really say whether you should or not. You know the situation the best so you're probably the best judge. If you think it's safe to come out and if most people will react positively then it might be okay to come out. However, if you think the majority of people will react badly and possibly even become hostile then you might want to hold off on coming out. You can probably assess the situation better than any of us. There's no harm in waiting to come out but holding in a big secret like this doesn't always feel that great. Coming out can often feel like a heavy burden has been lifted.
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Posted: Wed Feb 11, 2015 11:15 am
If you're worried about their reaction I'd say don't bother. From my experience, nobody cares if you are Bi. That sounds really harsh, but seriously. When I came out I only came out to the people I felt would need to be aware. (i.e: my immediate family, my close friends, a couple of my cousins, my dog[jk] ) my teammates, on the forensics team, I only told my co-president. Because she was my super close friend
so ask yourself. How close are you with these girls? because if they mean the world to you and you value their friendship, by all means tell them. But if they're just your teammates at the end of the day and you aren't particularly close with any of them outside of this, I'd say don't bother with it.
Then again, it's up to you so. Do what you feel makes the most sense
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