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This can be used for those of you who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, lefty,righty, or anything in between. This is not a foolproof guide, as everyone will react differently, and is merely here because i seem to be the furthest along in my transition to becoming physically female.

I take no responsibility for any misuse or misrepresentation of the information used in this guide, so don't come suing me because your parents disowned you.

On to the guide!


This here is meant to be directed towards transgendered males and females looking to undergo gender reassignment surgery, and is more a recount of how i have handled my situation thus far.

Step one: Get yourself properly diagnosed, and get to the point of starting Hormone replacement therapy. Basically, when you are ready to start the transition, to the point of no return(sorta), then you will be ready to talk to your parents, friends,and the rest of your family.

Step two: Evaluate those closest to you. You have to really step back and look at your friends and family. Choose the person that you think will be most understanding. A lot of you gender-benders(a joke!) out there have a tendency to over react and think that everyone will hate you and no one is safe to know. I am here to tell you that this thought pattern just isn't true. At least one of the people you know, whether it be online or in person, will be very accepting of who and what you are.

Step three: Don't surprise them with the information. When you talk to that first person, let them know before hand that you have decided to make a large, life altering choice, and that you would like to talk to them about it when they have time to sit down. This will prepare them for some shocking news, and give them a chance to assume the worst or best from your first.

Step four: Tell them how you feel, and let them know what you are. Tell them that you have felt trapped for years, and have been suffering through all that depression and anxiety, because you couldn't understand why you were, the way you were. Talk to them and let them know how you have looked into this very carefully and have gone to a psychologist, who gave their professional, certified diagnosis. Then finally tell them that you are looking to have gender reassignment surgery, so that you can finally be free of the cage that life has put you in. I know it sounds cheesy, but those words that let them know how trapped and uncomfortable you have been feeling will tell them that you need this to be happy.

Step five: Prepare for the negative emotions, backlash, and overall bad reactions. I can't tell you how bad it will be, but what I can tell you is that a lot of the friends you think you know will decide to leave you, not because they hate you, but because they don't understand how to handle this. The only thing I can suggest is that you learn all the information you can, and tell them that you can answer their questions as best as possible.


After all is said and down, it is likely that you will lose communication for a while with those you love most, but you need to stay vigilant, and give them time to accept that you have made this decision for yourself.

In my personal opinion, it is harder to tell your parents,than your best friend, but your parents are much more likely to accept you for who you are, and eventually support you. at least 75% of the time, this has held true from what I have seen personally.

A small cliff note: If they try to coax you out of this, put your foot down. Tell them you are not just doing another childish thing, and that you have sat here listening, and studying this for a long time now, and you just have not had the courage till now to let them know your secret. It may sound mean,but is completely needed so they understand your resolve.



Any comments, questions, suggestions,or concerns can be pmed or posted below. If you want to call me an idiot for this, then you can expect a swift kick in the butt for your unimaginative comment razz

I'm still in the works of telling my mom x3. That busy bee never has enough time to talk! hehe

Just do it the easy way i did. Grab notebook write mom a letter randomly throw in there "Mom i want you to know i am a lesbian sorry but no grandkids from me" continue with letter. sign it mark the page toss it on your mom's lap and walk out the house and say "i am going on a walk be back later oh and read the marked page. love you bye"