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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 2:47 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 10:41 pm
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ow to enjoy pain-free sex every time, especially the first time!
It is a myth that, during first-time sex, girls must bleed and feel pain. Yet many women experience unnecessary pain during sex, and consider it normal. For the vast majority, sex does not have to be, and should not be painful. There are many, many things you can do to ensure pain-free sex, and if they do not work, you need to see a doctor.
A note on hymens: Hymens have nothing to do with whether you've had sex or not, from a biological perspective. No one, not even a doctor, can tell whether you've had sex from looking at you. The hymen (renamed by the modern medical community as the 'corona') is a thin, flexible membrane at the entrance of the v****a that naturally degenerates over time (more rapidly from the beginning of puberty). Some hymens are particularly thick or inflexible, and can cause pain during sexual activity—if you believe this may be the case for you, it's important that you see a doctor to discuss ways that this can be solved. I really recommend reading the ground-breaking myth-busting info in this article:
My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It
Keep in mind that the v****a naturally expands several inches and lubricates during arousal. After sex / masturbation / arousal ends, the v****a returns to its original size. Sex doesn't permanently stretch the v****a; only childbirth can do that--and even then, pelvic floor exercises (kegels) can resolve this.
- Lubrication - makes penetrative sex of any kind a lot easier. Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant with latex condoms.
- Physical health - if you are feeling under the weather or have a compromised immune system, it might be harder for you to become completely aroused. A nutritious diet and regular exercise really are essential for a good sex life. Some drugs—including prescription drugs such as anti-depressants, and recreational drugs and alcohol—may also affect your libido.
- Mental health and relaxation - are you comfortable with your partner? To have penetrative sex, you must be completely at ease. Is your partner gentle? Mental health is also important—if you are feeling anxious, depressed, pressured, or have body-image issues, arousal may be more difficult.
- Foreplay - Pleasurable penetrative sex does not exist without other sexual activity / arousal (whatever floats your boat!) to precede it. You need enough time to relax and become well lubricated.
- Masturbation - if you are comfortable with your body, understand your own anatomy, and are able to communicate what you enjoy with your partner, sex will be all the more enjoyable. Try www.scarleteen.com and www.clitical.com.
- Expectations - be positive. If you expect sex to be painful, you'll tense up so much that it will hurt. See article below on the related condition, vaginismus.
From ow to wow! Demystifying painful intercourse at Scarleteen.com.
Vaginismus - This is a condition in which the pelvic floor muscles contract involuntarily in response to penetration or the idea of penetration. Depending on the cause, therapy (such as psychotherapy) and / or physiotherapy is used to treat it.
When Sex Hurts - A Redbook article on some of the illnesses and conditions than can cause or contribute to painful sex.
Sex still painful? See a doctor.
- The Official "Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit" Thread -
The link above is the entire sex kit, with active links!
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 10:43 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 9:35 am
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Blackrose_Knight Moneygirl14 In Has a girl ever taken your v card, if so did it hurt? Cuz mine did and i want to know why does it hurt like hell. Now with my info dump out of the way. Sex should really never hurt, if it is hurting you should stop and figure out what is going wrong. I have been fisted, and it didn't hurt during, before, or after. |
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 10:13 am
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Moneygirl14 In Blackrose_Knight Moneygirl14 In Has a girl ever taken your v card, if so did it hurt? Cuz mine did and i want to know why does it hurt like hell. Now with my info dump out of the way. Sex should really never hurt, if it is hurting you should stop and figure out what is going wrong. I have been fisted, and it didn't hurt during, before, or after. I finally figured out why it hurt, she had popped my cherry |
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 10:39 am
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Blackrose_Knight Moneygirl14 In Blackrose_Knight Moneygirl14 In Has a girl ever taken your v card, if so did it hurt? Cuz mine did and i want to know why does it hurt like hell. Now with my info dump out of the way. Sex should really never hurt, if it is hurting you should stop and figure out what is going wrong. I have been fisted, and it didn't hurt during, before, or after. I finally figured out why it hurt, she had popped my cherry again, sex. Should. Not. Hurt. Even if it was your first time. |
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Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2014 12:53 am
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Posted: Tue May 06, 2014 12:00 am
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