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 Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:06 pm
so my fiance is wanting us to live in celibacy until we get married... I have a very high sex drive and need a release like every day just about... she dont want sex anymore so this is really hard for me I told her no because I still wanted to masturbate. how do you guys feel on this?
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:09 pm
It doesn't and shouldn't matter what we feel, honestly. smile Although if you two have been sexually active already, I'm curious if you know why she suddenly wants to be celibate until marriage? Maybe there's a reason behind her request.
If that's what she wants or feels comfortable with, then you can masturbate (since masturbation isn't technically sex). If you feel you're unable to go without sex, then you two need to sit down and talk. Maybe you can compromise, or if she won't budge, I guess you'll have to learn to do only masturbation. While I'm on it, it's not fair of her to ask you to stop masturbating since if she's refusing to have sex with you, she has no right to control your body like that.
Have you two set a wedding date yet?
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 6:05 pm
I agree with Niko.
Is she ok with sexual activities other than intercourse? If so, you can get your release that way.
If not, there's still masturbation. If you want to masturbate and she is telling you not to, that could be a sign of an unhealthy situation. Because masturbation is perfectly fine and healthy, and she should probably not be trying to control your body to that extent.
So talk to her if you haven't already. Find out exactly where she is drawing the line and why.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 6:35 pm
Yeah we want to have it August 3rd dont know when just on that date, and she wants to do it because her girl friend is doing it for her marriage (well engaged right now) shes very religious and wants to do things right, but her 2 friends are nymphos like me. So this is like hard for them to. I think one of the reasons why she wants to stop having sex is because shes in alot of pain all the time. Down there, and shes like discharging black and brown stuff sometimes red to. I dont know whats going on with her.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 6:53 pm
Well, she definitely shouldn't be doing anything just because her friend is.
As for the pain and discharge, that's something she should make an ob-gyn appointment for.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 7:13 pm
LorienLlewellyn Well, she definitely shouldn't be doing anything just because her friend is. As for the pain and discharge, that's something she should make an ob-gyn appointment for. yeah but shes not working so I cant afford to take her to the female doctor right now. She needs alot of work on her body to make her healthy :/
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 8:31 pm
Not to be harsh but maybe you should focus more on doing something to get your fiance help with the fact that she's shooting black pus out of her v****a before you worry about being able to put your p***s in it.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 8:44 pm
Kevin Holmes yeah but shes not working so I cant afford to take her to the female doctor right now. She needs alot of work on her body to make her healthy :/ Has she tried a clinic? Can she get Medicaid?
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 11:59 pm
Kevin Holmes Yeah we want to have it August 3rd dont know when just on that date, and she wants to do it because her girl friend is doing it for her marriage (well engaged right now) shes very religious and wants to do things right, but her 2 friends are nymphos like me. So this is like hard for them to. I think one of the reasons why she wants to stop having sex is because shes in alot of pain all the time. Down there, and shes like discharging black and brown stuff sometimes red to. I dont know whats going on with her. As Lorien said, just because her friends are doing it doesn't mean she has or should be doing it too. Being celibate is a personal choice, not something does "because everyone else is doing it." And if she does want to do it, then it's something the two of you should discuss together, so that you don't end up in a situation like you're in now. If it's pain related, then maybe the two of you can do some research and see if there's any programs she qualifies for. I live in Canada so I don't know the details about US healthcare, but Lorien's already suggested Medicaid, and maybe there's something else. Could she go on her parents' insurance, if they have any? If she's a student, can she get some coverage through her school? [Assuming she's old enough to be in post-secondary school.]
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 4:37 pm
she is 19 and I dont think she can get any kind of help because shes not working. We havent had sex in 3 weeks I think so I dont know what is going on with her all I know is that she doesnt want me having sex with her, and it kinda hurts...
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 4:41 pm
Kevin Holmes she is 19 and I dont think she can get any kind of help because shes not working. Clinics and Medicaid help people of any age, whether they work or not. So have her make an appointment at a clinic and see what her options are.
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 8:20 pm
what kind of clinic would take her in Arlington tx? I have no Idea where to start looking on these types of things. @.@
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Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 8:39 pm
Kevin Holmes what kind of clinic would take her in Arlington tx? I have no Idea where to start looking on these types of things. @.@ Go to www.plannedparenthood.org and see if there is one near you.
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 12:49 am
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Posted: Thu Apr 22, 2010 2:21 pm
oh cool thanks you guys. now how about a fertility center? lol
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