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 Posted: Wed Mar 31, 2010 6:17 pm
All I did was question the importance of physically conceiving and giving birth to a child. I mean, think about it. You're passing on your strengths AND FLAWS (some people might have conditions better off not passed on to the next generation), and pregnancy can be rough on both parents, not just the mother (her troubles are also my concern). Besides, love is what matters, not genetic relations.
And for expressing that idea, I got called "******** retarded". Apparently, raising your own flesh and blood child is apparently EXTREMELY different from raising one you adopted or got in a marriage with someone.
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Posted: Wed Mar 31, 2010 7:34 pm
A lot of a person's reaction depends on how they were raised. Religion is a big part of it, I'm sure. Also, people who have grown up in or around mixed families will be more accepting of your ideas.
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Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2010 3:13 pm
you are no retarded whoever said that is ******** retarded. I completely understand what you are saying. my husband and i have been talking about adoption. He has bi-polar and i carry bi polar genes, because my father is bi-polar. there are also a lot of cancers on my side of the family and diabetes on his. Not only that, but pregnancy would be very hard on my body I already have problems with my thyroid.
so adoption is our best option. not only that, but giving a child a home is one of the most noble and kindest things a person could do.
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Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 7:53 am
some people + internet = stare
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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 1:19 pm
I hate ignorance...
Similar to RubyDarkStar, lots of unhealthy genes run in my family... Bi-Polar, Schizophrenia, Diabetes, this cancer, that cancer...
Though I would love to have my own child, I would hate for them to end up with any of the above. I also think adoption is great! There are so many beautiful kids out there that need a good home. I think both choices are equally great 3nodding
I think I will probably end up doing both. Depending on how the tides are going once I am prepared for a child (finances are totally not there yet!)
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Posted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 12:42 am
I think what makes a person what they are is more dependent on how they are raised, as compared to their DNA. So bringing someone up as your child even though they genetically aren't can be the same as if they were from your (or your spouse's) body. I don't have any personal experience with mixed families, but i think the common conception is that the younger you adopt the child, the more they are influenced by you (and thus more your own child). I can't say if this is true or not.
i think it's really all about acceptance. on the part of both the parents and the child. if for some reason either party continually thinks, "this isn't really my family" then those feelings could have a big impact in all kinds of small everyday ways and create a big difference than how it would be raising a child you gave birth to.
as a side note, i think a lot of people that have diseases they don't want to pass on see doctors and get genetic counseling or something like that to see the chances of their children being born healthy.
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Posted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:06 am
Just leaving a note here to say I read this topic, but have nothing new to add. People suck sometimes. rofl
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Posted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 11:36 am
Whoever said that definitely hasn't done their research properly, either that, or they are rather close minded on the situation. Personally, I believe, like many people here have already stated, that it is the raising of a child what makes them part of your family. I was raised by a stepfather, whom I love and cherish as my own father, and he sees me as nothing more than his own daughter, sometimes joking how I couldn't be more like him even if we shared DNA. Then on the other hand I have my brother, whom my mother neglected to care for, so I had to take up on that aspect. The boy sees me as the role model and sometimes let it slip and calls me mom, making it obvious that while my mother is his rightful mother by genetics, it did not make her take care of him or raise him any better than an adoptive mother would have.
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Posted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 12:50 pm
Sounds like you hit a nerve. They probably didn't like being reminded of all their flaws. People like to think, "My kid will be perfect. I'll do everything right." Plus, they just want an excuse to hump like rabbits.
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Posted: Tue Oct 05, 2010 9:32 pm
Okay...I swear by this, having children nowadays is pointless. This world is so populated! We don't need anymore. In fact we don't need to reproduce for the next 10 years...maybe 15.
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Posted: Tue Oct 05, 2010 9:56 pm
We are hard wired to pass on our genes, but that does not change the logic of the situation; aside from some culturally embedded sentimentality and knowledge of one's medical history there is no difference if the ones you raise are yours or someone else genetically.
I think the bonds one makes with their family is worth far more than mere blood ties (something I have seen IRL, blood bonds that seem to strangle and non blood bonds that are just as strong if not stronger than if they shared DNA).
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Posted: Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:11 am
iwillkillthee Okay...I swear by this, having children nowadays is pointless. This world is so populated! We don't need anymore. In fact we don't need to reproduce for the next 10 years...maybe 15. yeah this world is alittle over populated
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Posted: Thu Apr 14, 2011 11:13 am
Kitsune Thistletree Whoever said that definitely hasn't done their research properly, either that, or they are rather close minded on the situation. Personally, I believe, like many people here have already stated, that it is the raising of a child what makes them part of your family. I was raised by a stepfather, whom I love and cherish as my own father, and he sees me as nothing more than his own daughter, sometimes joking how I couldn't be more like him even if we shared DNA. Then on the other hand I have my brother, whom my mother neglected to care for, so I had to take up on that aspect. The boy sees me as the role model and sometimes let it slip and calls me mom, making it obvious that while my mother is his rightful mother by genetics, it did not make her take care of him or raise him any better than an adoptive mother would have. thats wonderful 3nodding (nice winry cosplay)
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