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Would you ever be in a relationship if you knew for a fact that the other person had no interest in being sexually intimate with you (or anyone else)?
  Yes. (I'm a female.)
  Yes. (I'm a male.)
  Yes. (I identify as another/no gender.)
  No. (I'm a female.)
  No. (I'm a male.)
  No. (I identify as another/no gender.)
  It depends on a number of things. (explain?)
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Amour Revoque

PostPosted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 1:11 pm
Some say that when we die we come back..like with greener eyes...

It does depend on a few factors for the most part. I don't just go out a seek out random girls to have sex with.
I have to establish a relationship with them but I think that a long term relationship with out sex would be complicated.
I was born and raised in a devote catholic family and I'm a lesbian and I believe it's okay for sex before marriage

AS LONG AS THERE IS PROTECTION
I don't like kids and I don't want kids, they're messy... and i have a nephew born out of wedlock and a few cousins on my mom's side
anyhoo!
I would have to say...I could do it but only if I truly felt a strong connection with her and I loved her. but if we liked lived together forever and junk I think we would have to ya know relationships have to build to something but I wouldn't push it.
and if I didn't really have that strong of a connection with her I would leave it truly depends on the power of the connection...

also what about masturbation in this relationship?



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PostPosted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:53 am
Honestly, I'm a bit afraid of sex myself. I'm 22, and still a virgin. When I was in high school, my gf then and I would play a little, but it was mostly petting. I did the same when I was visiting my then-bf last summer, just petting. I guess I don't really like the idea of having all-the-way sex with someone unless I plan on having a long future with them.

So I guess my answer is: Unless it is the partner I want for life, I could have a relationship without sex.  

Artemis-X


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 8:41 pm
The answer is no.

I don't mind wating for a while till they are ready. But I also think that if I am not going to get sex with them ever or get it so infrequently that I am more sexually frustrated in a the relationship than I would be single, forget it. I have as much right to satisfaction as they have to saying no. So if its not gonna work there is nothing eather of us can do.  
PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 8:52 pm
No, intimacy is a big part of me expressing love. - w- Seriously..guh, im sorry but doing myself just doesn't cut it and I love being affectionate on that level with someone I care about.  

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Devil of your mind

PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 8:54 pm
Probably not.
 
PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 9:34 pm
I'm a virgin, and trying to discover what my romantic feelings are towards my own sex. So yeah.  

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 10:36 pm
Artemis-X
Honestly, I'm a bit afraid of sex myself. I'm 22, and still a virgin. When I was in high school, my gf then and I would play a little, but it was mostly petting. I did the same when I was visiting my then-bf last summer, just petting. I guess I don't really like the idea of having all-the-way sex with someone unless I plan on having a long future with them.

So I guess my answer is: Unless it is the partner I want for life, I could have a relationship without sex.

Hm.... I feel the same way. ^^;  
PostPosted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 12:26 am
It depends on what style of relationship you mean. If you mean just a friendship than sure it could be ruined my sex and it could not. Every person deals with such things in their own way.

If you mean a romantic relationship then sex in always bound to arise. Personally for me if I'm in a romantic relationship and there isn't and sex then I do not plan on being in that relationship for very long. I'm a sexual creature by my own nature and I enjoy it very much. If my partner is not willing to compromise or or accommodate then I would probably end the relationship. Being patient until the person is comfortable being with you is one thing, but to expect being put off for an definite, long period of time and being expected to stay monogamous, I find, to be rather idiotic.

It can also be quite stressful. But, then again this is all just my opinion.
 

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 8:49 am
well kinda you see I am the one who says no sex not because I dont want it but because babies sometimes come with sex and i am not ready for that  
PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:03 am
jax is in love
because babies sometimes come with sex and i am not ready for that


There are plenty of resources out there to keep that from happening, y'know (patch, pill, ring, condom, female condom, etc)  

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:14 am
KaitouKunoichi
jax is in love
because babies sometimes come with sex and i am not ready for that


There are plenty of resources out there to keep that from happening, y'know (patch, pill, ring, condom, female condom, etc)

we are still living at home so she cant get pill and such and she has a latex allergy  
PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:56 am
Eh, Im not gonna lie, sex and intimacy is kind of important to me. I have friends with benefits, but we only do anything when Im single. If I were in a serious relationship, and I seriously loved them, I think I could go without it.  

Don Caballero


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 11:26 am
If I was single & just dating around. Yeah I could live without sex. I'm one of those mushy people that I do have to have like some feelings or love someone to really feel the need to sleep with them.

An actual like long term relationship no & lol I'm always pretty upfront about that. I mean yeah I love to cuddle & have a nice deep spiritual connection or whatever..but if we aren't going to make the sexy time then I'm going somewhere else. I wouldn't say I would ever cheat on anyone though considering I would just leave.
I heart sex
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 11:29 am
jax is in love
KaitouKunoichi
jax is in love
because babies sometimes come with sex and i am not ready for that


There are plenty of resources out there to keep that from happening, y'know (patch, pill, ring, condom, female condom, etc)

we are still living at home so she cant get pill and such and she has a latex allergy

http://sexuality.about.com/od/contraception/tp/non_latex_condoms.htm
I've had a girlfriend allergic to latex before
 

freaxy


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 16, 2010 6:50 am
KaitouKunoichi
Yeah. In fact, that's kinda what I'm looking for. I have a low libido, and when I am in the mood I just prefer to take care of myself. I'm just not interested. Can't really explain it any better than that.
(But I still identify as lesbian for simplicity's sake, since I'm only attracted to their personality/appearance in general)


This applies to me, exactly. @w@ Couldn't have phrased it better!
I don't know if I qualify as an asexual, but it's difficult to explain to people.
I'm a virgin because I have no interest in having sex, not because the opportunity has never arisen. rolleyes  
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