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 Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 8:43 pm
I was sitting back having a drink with my sist-in-law and we were talking about my nepews and how their play times just wern't like they were when we were little, the trees couldn't be climbed because they may break a leg, basket balls and footballs wern't allowed to be given to them/they wern't allowed to play with them because they may end up getting hurt, using toy guns and the like were now not allowed because kids shouldn't 'play war' or 'play cowboys and indians' because it can teach them all about fighting etc. We went on discussing this for a few hours whilst my mother spent time with her grandchildren and now that my sister-in-law is gone I sit here having another cup of coffee and realise that she is right, I obviously knew this before but when you REALLY think about it you realise how screwed up this world is now, we all know it was anyway but still, these days, you have to keep your kids wrapped up in cotton wool just so you arn't seen as 'a bad parent', Whatever happened to being able to climb trees and swing on tire swings and scrap your knee and break your leg or play football or whatever? Scraps are 'battle wounds' that kids LOVED getting, showed how 'tough' they were etc but now, unless that tree is one foot off the ground, has protective padding 25 inchs thick and made sure the goverment officals confirm its safety then no kid gets to play on the tree.
I am glad I grew up in the 80's, otherwise, if I was born today, I would find this world totally boring.
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 1:14 am
I'm not sure "PC" is the correct term for this subject, but either way I completely agree. For some reason, people these days think that kids need more protection than they actually do. Yes, children are "delicate" to some sense, but that doesn't mean keep them in a protective bubble until they're older and then they don't know how to properly deal with the real world.
In a way, this overbearing amount of "safety nets" can potentially make things worse. For example, instead of taking all sharp objects away from kids because they might hurt themselves or others, why not teach them to properly handle sharp objects so that they don't hurt themselves and others? If you just don't expose them to sharp things at all, then in the off chance they get a hold of a sharp object, they won't know what to do with it... making them more likely to hurt themselves and others. I remember handling knives as a child. My mum taught me to always hold them with the point down if I am walking with one in my hand so that if someone bumps into me or I trip and fall, I don't end up stabbing them or myself.
For a kid to get a bump or a scratch, or even a broken bone isn't the end of the world, so I don't understand why it is treated as such. What's funny is that after all this, there are some that wonder why when their child grows into a teenager, they are recluse... not wanting to go outside or engage in physical activity. Gee... maybe if you hadn't discouraged it when they were younger...
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 11:30 am
sorry, i couldn't do it. i couldn't raise my kids to stay safe and protected. i wanted them to live in the world, not just see it. hell, i couldn't have done it even if i had wanted to. they would've found a way to do it behind my back. lol
i grew up (and i use that term loosely) pre-safety gear and internet. looking at all the kids with re-fried video brains and adolescent spare-tire, i could not in good conscience keep my children locked in the house. they were in whatever physically and mentally active project and club we could find, and we kept them occupied on the weekends and during the summer. most of those things were supervised, but they did have those things where we just had to close our eyes and just let them be. yeah, there were some trips to the e.r., and talks with other parents and school officials, but they survived.
and, we did, too. lol
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:54 am
 OMG!! tell me about it. I don't have kids but I work at AT&T and I have actually sold IPHONES to parents who give the phone to 5 year olds!!!!! CALL ME CRAZY, but, I THINK THAT"S FREAKIN NUTS!!...i tried talking them out of it, although it's a sale, but my gosh....that kid was in the store and was Sooooooooooo educated about the dang phone before I even showed the MOM how to use it!...he was telling her how to set up the email!!! I almost passed out!! hahah I do understand where you are coming from though. When I was growing up all I did was go outside, rollerblade, ride my bike, fight with boys, play football, pretend I was a power ranger..haha..play with barbies, fall down, get cut, YOU NAME IT!...I see kids now and they're not as fun....haha....My sister in-law is actually in middle school and omg, she does NOTHING!!! MYSPACE, FACEBOOK, TWITTER!! if she spent all her time studying or playing sports for the remainder of time that she spends on the computer, she would be pro in either one. I'm not her mom and I can't tell her what to do, but I always try to encourage her to do other things than sitting on the computer for 5 hours straight after she comes home from school. geez...If i were locked up in the house growing up, I think i would be a COMPLETELY different person, BORING!! haha
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Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 9:10 pm
true, children are too overprotected now in days. I remember when I would get broken glass lodged in my knees from falling on concrete or got a huge a** splinter in my arm from an old wooden jungle gym. "sigh" the good old days...
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Posted: Sun Mar 21, 2010 11:22 pm
The truth is most of my life I've had computers, video games, a VCR, and cable TV in my room... I'm not much good at talking about stuff not related to entertainment unless someone else starts the conversation. Most of my quality time with the kids will probably be spent playing games or watching DVDs because I'm not much good at sports. sweatdrop
Though my parents regret letting me have those things in my room for some reason.
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Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 8:13 am
My kid is 3 and she already knows how to give mommy a shot with an Epipen and stab an attacker with a kunai. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 8:20 am
She also Climbs trees and rough houses with Mommy playing right beside her. Eventually she's gonna be able to do a lot of stuff I can't due to me breaking my back and some issues with that but shove off to this new wold that's gonna try to hold my daughter back. Proper training and supervision is all she needs to grow up happy, confident and alive. I say PFFT to some of the rules now a days, they are totally ridiculous. My kid almost died from a stupid thing like a blood clot in her brain! Not a freaking dumb mistake I made like letting her play in the pool by herself. But yeah, some rules are to keep other dumb a** parents in check that wouldn't even think about stuff like that before.
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Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 8:22 am
Just to let you know...the comment about the pool, was meaning I'm not crazy or dumb enough to let my daughter do something dangerous like that.
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Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 3:30 pm
I can't have kids, but I have baby sat.... the kids go to the parks, run out side, ride bikes, anything I can do to get them active and off TV, PC and such. At night time after they have ran an played, then we sit for movies to unwind.
Parents can't figure out how I can wear out their "hyper" kids.... its easy, I let them be kids. This "safety" world is nuts. School cut PE, recess, sports.... I feel for today's kids... if I could have kids, they would be raised to be kids.... I mightbe viewed as a bad parent because I would encourage imagination and play time... my kids might have scraped knees, but they'd be happy
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 9:03 pm
shoot I wasn't allowed to spend all that time indoors.. If I spent to much time inside my mom was all like.. GO OUTSIDE! and wouldn't let me argue about it either.. my grandparents were the same so when I went over there most of the time I was outside.. not really visiting my grandparents xF . .. Especially if it were nice out side.. It surprises me how kids don't go outside anymore and just stay in side and play games and with the pc. even now if I spend to much time at home inside i get antsy..
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Posted: Fri Jun 03, 2011 9:25 am
We are indeed living in a world of helicopter parents and "child-safe" everything. I guess the times just keep on changing, though confused
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