Could you date a pro-lifer?

[Sensorium139]

No, absolutely not. If I needed an abortion for any reason ever again, they'd likely oppose it.

My fiance is more pro-situational but he's not pro-life or anti-abortion by any standard.  

[PhaedraMcSpiffy]

MipsyKitten

That's like asking me if I'd date a white supremacist. I wouldn't be with someone who views me as a second class citizen.

Exactly. That's what bothers me. Sex is such an intimate thing and so are serious romantic relationships (even without sex). I couldn't do that with someone who didn't really respect me. Trying to force someone to bring a life into this world, to spend so much engergy and to risk so much, is just disgusting. It's bad enough to say that they should be able to force a stranger to do it, but saying men should be able to force that on their lovers is just... I don't even think I have a word for it. It's like they think they own her.

CatLuvr83

In fact, I think there's a list of fundamental/ideological "dealbreakers" that each person should make available pre-dating. It'd so much useless time.

Indeed. I think I'm generally pretty accepting of people, but there are some core beliefs that I just cannot accept as valid. I can't bond with anyone on a deep level who holds them. We can probably be civil, but I can't befriend someone who holds hateful, willfully ignorant, cruel views.  

[_Morgane Fay_]

Absolutely not. Thankfully they're scarce these parts, but their next of kin, rape apologists and assorted misogynists, are a-plenty. I avoid those like theplague as well.  

[ottery]

Just like when I dated that Catholic, I don't date those who disagree with me on matters that I think are important. He also called me an idiot for not going with Pascal's Wager, so that was also a key factor. >.>  

[Roslin]

My boyfriend of almost 7 years classifies himself as pro-life if you question him about it but he isn't adamant about it, nor does he have very strong feelings about it. Honestly, if it came down to it and we were facing the decision of whether to abort or not I think he would support whichever choice I decided on. He might be sad if I had an abortion but it wouldn't ruin me in his eyes or anything.

If he were the type to condemn women who choose to abort, or was very opinionated on this issue I don't think we would have lasted as long as we have.  

[pidgezero_one]

I'm in a new relationship now with a guy who I know is pro-choice, does not want to be a parent for at least 10 years, and has said (before he even met me) that he might be up for adoption rather than having biological children.

I don't know how this will pan out for me in the future, but knowing all of this about him just makes me feel very comfortable.  

[Jaaten Syric]

A personally pro-life person? Probably, at least if she was supportive of my decision to undergo a sterilization procedure at the earliest possible convenience. Politically? Absolutely not. That's far too wide an ideological gap for me to be comfortable with and having been a fairly adamant lifer for the majority of my life I don't think I could stomach a daily reminder of how stupid, naive, and woefully misinformed I was...  

[moonlight_peach12]

I dont know if I would feel comfortable dating a guy who was pro-life. I have nothing against someone who is pro-life but I dont think I could date someone who didnt understand how I felt since I'm pro-choice. I wouldnt mind being friends with someone who is pro-life though.  

[Lotus_Lakshmi]

No way! I would not be able to respect someone in a relationship if they did not respect the fact that woman have the right to choose. It would be and has been a dealbreaker.  

[Miss. Me]

I don't think so. It would make me feel uncomfortable... Chances are if they're pro-life there's something else major we'd clash on, like, gay rights and health care.
But I won't say I never would because you don't know what'll come up  

[Calixti]

I once broke up with a woman when I found out she was pro-life. So no.

Even in a relationship with another woman, where one of us getting pregnant isn't even a possibility, that sort of thing's a total dealbreaker.  

[Purrly]

Absolutely not, not ever, and under no circumstances. I barely tolerate pro-life members of my family. Other than that, I don't associate with people who are pro-life. They make me sick.

I find that the pro-life stance is incredibly demeaning and disrespectful to women. It values me and other women at little more than a walking uterus, and someone who can't even respect my rights doesn't belong in my social circle, let alone in my bedroom.

I'm romantically repulsed by anyone who would seek to take away the rights to my own body. And frankly, on a personal level, pro-lifers and rapists have just a little too much in common for my tastes.