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sad Wow I read this whole article and Im in awe. It makes me wonder why I have sex. Men make it hard for women, my bf said to me a woman only needs one man in her life and be content yet men want all women kinda like pokemon gotta catch em all. I laughed but scoffed at that comment it pissed me off but was kinda true. Not about women but from men they walk with their woman and yet as another more attractive woman walks by he looks, not only does he 'check her out' but he thinks i wonder what it would be like to have sex with her. Women don't think about the man that walks by or rather I don't. Its crazy how women are left to think they have to wear make up high heels and skimpy clothes to be attractive or wear close to nothing when they go out. yet if the woman has a partner the man doesn't want her wearing close to nothing cause it may attract other men...which usually it does. my bf told me when i wanted to go to a lingerie party at a club that i couldn't wear lingerie that its for single women due to the fact on the things that go on in the club. I still went it wasn't as crazy as he said cause men want to look if they touched theyd get thrown out like in a stripper club lol it was 25 bucks a person to get in. anyways however its crazy how in other countries women wear a cloak that covers all their features that may attract a man yet men still act possessive and retarted over women as if we are just an object. Usually these days women have sex for acceptance. Its like the guy wont even drop a glance at her unless she has some sort of skin showing or willing to do sexual favors. yet shes looked down on and called names when she strips or enjoys her sex life like the comment about 'not to enjoy it too much' then why have sex if a woman isn't able to fulfill her sexual needs just as much as a man?. Funny when a man sees a classy woman dressed in a business suit they think omg shes stuck up but I'm still gonna try to come onto her ie a challenge. yet their only goal is to get them into bed. My bf told me men don't want to marry a woman that is or rather acts as a man they want a woman that is better than them. How in the hell do you expect to get a woman that is better as a person?, i don't see it. men don't marry the sexy woman he marrys the cute one the one to bring home to mother. like most men wouldn't bring home a bdsm queen/stripper to their mom but theyd sure bring home a chick that can cook clean and goes to church.

And you wonder why some women are lesbian.

It's really not that simple or that sexist. Everyone is different.

There are many men who want multiple women. There are many women who want multiple men. There are many men who want only one woman. And there are many women who want only one man.

I love men. I wish I could have them all. I love casual sex.

My partner is the complete opposite. I am the only person he has ever slept with. He has no interest in other women, threesomes, open relationships, casual sex, or anything of the sort.



When a man catches my eye, I sure as heck think dirty things about him.



Yes, it is a shame that society places so many beauty standards on women. However, we cannot complain until we are willing to change it. If all women stood up and said, "I will not wear makeup. I will not wear a miniskirt. I will not get breast implants," then it wouldn't take long for society to either change or get rid of those silly beauty standards.

And women certainly can be attractive even without those things. I do not dress sexy. I do not wear makeup. I do not do anything special with my hair. I don't even shave my body hair. I doubt all men would like that stuff. But I never have problems finding a partner either. In fact, the very fact that I don't do those things attracts a lot of men. A lot of them say it makes me seem so much more real than a lot of other women.

So you do have a choice in whether you go along with arbitrary beauty standards or not. And you'll still be able to attract guys either way.

Men have it even harder in some ways. A woman is "expected" to be pretty. She can use surgery, makeup, and clothes to help her. Men are "expected" to be successful and rich. Well, makeup isn't going to help with that. So even though men don't have the beauty standards that we do, they do still suffer from stereotypes and silly social expectations.



Definitely depends on the person. Some guys want their girl to cover up. Other men like it when their girl dresses sexy and flaunts it. That can boost the ego of some guys because when everyone is looking at their girl they can think, "Yup, she is sexy, she is mine, and you can't have her!"



Whoa. I sure hope not. Acceptance is a pretty horrendous reason to have sex. I have sex for intimacy, physical pleasure, or both.



Again, depends on the person. I am a lot more sexual than my partner. And I love a challenge.

All in all, it sounds like your boyfriend might be a bit of an uneducated sexist pig. But it sounds like you have a lot to learn about stereotypes yourself.

Men and women are a lot more alike than you're making it sound. Yes, our stereotypes, double standards, social expectations, etc. might vary a bit. But we both have them. And they're becoming less and less forced and important. Gone are the days when women had to wear dresses and stay in the kitchen. Gone are the days when men didn't have the option to stay home with their kids while their wife went to work. Gone are the days when women were considered property in America. Gone are the days when people thought only men wanted or enjoyed sex. Gone are the days when people thought only men enjoyed casual sex. And gone are the days when people thought women only had sex for love or to please their man.

Recent evolutionary research suggests that both men and women are actually programmed to enjoy casual sex to some degree. Women are programmed to be a bit more picky because carrying a baby is hard work. But we're still programmed to constantly want to "upgrade" or to find a stable man who is a good provider then get pregnant by a handsome man!

Obviously we have a choice now whether we give in to our temptations or not. But the point is that both men and women have a sex drive. We both enjoy sex. We can both be emotional or unemotional about sex. We can both think dirty thoughts. We can both be tempted. We can both choose to cheat or remain faithful. Being faithful is effortless for my partner but a huge challenge for me.

And recent research also suggests that people are born with their sexual preference. So lesbians are not dating women just because they're angry at men or anything of that sort.

But if you're interested in stereotypes, double standards, women's lib, etc., do some research. Educate your boyfriend. Stand up and stop wearing the makeup if you don't think it's right. You also might like the Fluid guild here on Gaia. It has a lot of information about stereotypes, different sexual preferences, double standards, etc.

The one you posted its under the sad face in my post here.

Not every man wants them all, but I liked the way you said it, hehe. I sure don't want all the women in the world. Your views are like mine, but backwards. I see women in my area too picky and they get into relationships they usually get other abused, beaten, harassed, etc. When I see a woman dressed in a suit, I usually think, Intelligent&Organized, not a stuck up manly woman, lol.

So not all guys are bad, just the area you live in. Just like what I said for my area, that most women here are picky and end up being miserable. And women do also think, "I wonder what it'd be like to have sex with that guy"

Usual fantasizing about celebrities they love, or movie actors, etc.