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 Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 3:30 pm
ok when me and my bf text we mostly talk dirty to eachother. u know telling each other what we wanna do to each other and stuff like that. the only issue is i do most of the talking, wich doesnt bother me to much, but im starting to run out of ideas and he dont like it when i repeat myself alot so i wanted to ask you people for ideas about what dirty things i could say i want to do to him. help. please.
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Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 3:44 pm
I would try making up something with a little humor, but not too much, cause then it might ruin the 'mood'. Also try looking up sites that have 'dirty phrases' on them.
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Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 4:26 pm
narutorocks96 I would try making up something with a little humor, but not too much, cause then it might ruin the 'mood'. Also try looking up sites that have 'dirty phrases' on them. dont like the humor that much. we feel rediculus enough as it is. and 'dirty phrases'? i dont like copying things people have said 1001 times before.
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Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 4:34 pm
I'd tell him if he wanted you to dirty talk so bad, it needs to be a two-way street and he should be participating more too. It shouldn't be all on you to do almost all of the talking.
Ask him for suggestions on what he'd like you to say. Maybe there's a body part or action he'd like you to focus on, or certain descriptive words he'd like you to say. It's a little hard for us to speculate because we don't know him like you do, and posting anything directly here could be pushing Gaia's PG-13 rule, which we can't break because I don't want to get in trouble (nor the guild).
If you feel ridiculous doing it, then maybe you shouldn't be doing it? Nothing says you have to dirty talk with each other.
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Posted: Thu Oct 01, 2009 4:40 pm
its not that he dont want to talk its just that we are both shy and im the only girl hes ever been with. so hes kinda scared of saying something stupid i guess. he get more confadent by the day though. its like the more i seem comfortable the more he is. and really its not the ideas i have issues with its just going into deatail. im no good with words. oh and i try asking him what he want and he most of the time says "whatever you wanna do to me baby." (and sorry im trying not to brake the pg-13 rule but idk how to ask thes things and keep it pg. feel free to yell at me if i say something bad. i dont mean to if i do.)
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 6:23 am
Well, if shyness is the case, I can certainly relate to that. When it comes to talking dirty with each other I have two known examples, My girlfriend who is very open and me who blushes at most of the stuff on sight or sound. Well, if you're doing most of the super flirting when it comes to you two, perhaps there is something on his side that is stopping him from matching your sentiments.
I know a few apply to me, first and foremost until my girlfriend asked me to, I could have swore that just saying comments out of the blue, or getting..."Too creative" or something would push her over the limit from that was cute to something negative.
Maybe he is shy about such things, but I can honestly say, being shy my self that hearing somebody who cares for you speak that way is not only something that makes me happy, but it does crack the shell rather effectively, I can't say that he and I are the same but perhaps he really enjoys the idea that somebody cares so much that she confines in him in this most intimate of ways, which is the case for me.
Or perhaps your boyfriend just does not know that you want the dirty talk to be an equal street? maybe trying to talk to him about Dirty talk as opposed to in dirty talk would make things clearer for both of you?
just a few ideas from one person who can semi relate, I hope this post helps though Viera (Don't mind if I call you that I hope sweatdrop )
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Posted: Fri Oct 02, 2009 6:25 am
Ah ok, that makes a little more sense. See, "whatever you want me to do" isn't very helpful feedback (at least to me). xd
As for breaking the PG-13 rule, I just meant I'd really like for members to not start saying things like "I want to suck your _____" or "I'd like to _____ your ______", etc etc, because that would be too graphic. General brainstorms or suggestions are ok, as long as there's not too much graphic detail.
Maybe you guys could try brainstorming, either together or seperately, and then compare notes? Person who comes up with the most gets a special treat/favor/surprise from the other person. wink Or loser gets to take the other person out on a date. Some fun incentive to encourage him (and you) to try to come up with new things to say to your partner basically. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 7:08 pm
Maybe you can roleplay a bit if it doesn't make you uncomfortable.
You can also change it up by saying "I am doing..." instead of "I want to do...". (It might get rid of the anticipation factor but i find that personally it gets my imagination going a bit more and as a result it turns me on more when me and my boyfriend are texting.)
Another suggestion is, (if you're not doing this already) to be more descriptive and detailed. For ex; "I'm kissing you softly/passionately.." instead of just "I'm kissing you".
You can also make it about yourself as well, instead of just directing everything at him you can say things that you want to do to yourself or how much he turns you on, or how sexy you look ( i always find this makes my bf crazy lol). Just get his imagination going. ^^
Well this is all i can think of at the moment. Hope this helped wink
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