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 Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 8:45 pm
okay i've had this friend since we were in 6th grade..... we were so alike...... freshman year, we had a squabble over an x..... he cheated on her, then hit on me, she hated my guts...... so last year(implying that i'm a current junior), i stumbled upon her myspace and we started talking..... so we get eachother into stuff (she got me into heroes, i got her hooked on stick figures on crack, you know.....) we both apparently were more similar than ever..... hell i didn't think she'd be into dir en grey too...... so lately i've had these weird dreams..... for instance, i had a dream we were going to the same school..... we were both in karaoke/DDR/guitar hero club (there's one at my school...... however the "leader" is very close minded to GH&DDR.....) masi oka was our teacher, we go all crazy and do girly squeals..... however for some reason she was hugging me in a really affectionate manner...... so i ask her and apparently we both had somewhat feeling for eachother...... well something happens later in the dream about some shark or something and i wake up......
i'm starting to think that i like my best friend......
my complications:
i'm engaged.....
my decision:
i won't dump my fiancee for her...... he's just amazing.... *blush*...... but this is bothering me and i wonder if this would affect my life..... like if i'm married and i'm thinking about her and how i should've told her....... i need to tell her before it festers into more than what it is now......
now i'm sure that EVERYONE has 1 person they're bi for, and for the record, she's the only girl i've ever had these thoughts about..... she does think women are beautiful (seriously i doubt she'd ever have feeling for me), and she had declaired herself bi on and off...... that doesn't mean that if i told her things wouldn't be akward..... i'm afraid of that...... but i still think she has a right to know.....
i'm confused about this...... help, onigai?????.......
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Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 2:33 pm
You don't have to tell her, hell, if it's just some passive crush on her, you don't have to tell anyone. Like you said, everyone has at least one person, whether it's secretly or not, that they'd go gay for, it's normal.
If you have to tell her, just make it a passing comment, just don't make it sound like it's more then it really is, otherwise, if she really IS bisexual, and develops feelings for you, then things would get really complicated, really fast.
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 1:04 am
Jack2634 You don't have to tell her, hell, if it's just some passive crush on her, you don't have to tell anyone. Like you said, everyone has at least one person, whether it's secretly or not, that they'd go gay for, it's normal.
If you have to tell her, just make it a passing comment, just don't make it sound like it's more then it really is, otherwise, if she really IS bisexual, and develops feelings for you, then things would get really complicated, really fast. i wanna avoid that, however i also wanna avoid thinking of her like this in akward times.... for example having sex and accidentaly saying her name..... if i don't get this momkey off my back it's just gonna tear my hair out.....
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Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:51 pm
I do kind of know the situation you are in, and it's tough. Most of the times this kind of feeling just come from being really close to someone and caring about them a lot. And maybe they are an attractive person so that influences you into liking them in a more than friendly way. Deep down, everyone is a little gay (or bi) and I think everyone has that urge to experiment. But it is most likely just a crush and will pass.
If you're engage then I would think that means you are really serious about this man and you want to spend the rest or your life with him. If you are that serious, then don't let this bother you. It's probably just a phase. It it really bothers you then distance yourself from her for a while and take the time to think about it rationally. There's nothing wrong with being close and affectionate with a friend. So feel free to still be close with her physically and emotionally just as friends.
Hope some of this helps!
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