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 Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 6:49 pm
This has been going on for about a month, maybe more.
I called him and asked if we can go to the movies, then he called me back and started yelling at me. He hung up on me. But later that day I found out that he had something happen in his family. I was still upset since he called me out of the blue...Just to yell at me...? He never apoligized.
Last week he's said:
monday- I hate you
Tuesday- I dont care about you anymore
Wed.- I dont love you either
Thursday- You just don't make me smile anymore, you're the reason I'm sad.
Friday- We were at the talent show and talking. It was like nothing happend. We were happy. We were holding hands too. But as soon as it started, he dropped my hand, and listerally pushed me aside. After that I tried asking what was wrong and all he said was "Give me space." I didn't understand what that episode was about.
Then late, late, late, the other night, finally when he called me, he said that he wishes he can take them back, but he THINKS that I wont accept it.
Today he said that (this is really cliche) "My love for you is just...fading away"
I asked "What did I do?"
He said "Well...you've changed.
Well here's what I think.
Of course I've changed! You've been taking your stress out on ME. No one else.
You've been treating me bad, for no reason at all. You can't expect someone to go to war and come back completely recovered, happy, and just fine with it.
I mean...I'VE Changed? Since then, he can't even take a joke.
He's not the one I loved. Now, he's nothing but emo and sad all the time. Because of a FAMILY PROBLEM, now all of the sudden I'M the problem?
I don't know if I'm wrong, but I see this as ALL of his fault.
I told him: "Dude, You're the one that did THIS to me, now all I'm asking is 'hey, fix the problem, everything is good' " But he says "Well, let someone else do it, it's not my problem to fix."
well....hmmm, YEAH DUDE IT SORTA IS! You know?
I don't know HOW I can do this.
He told me that if we ever broke up, he'd still want to see me in his life, because I'm 'so special' to him.
Me- "Well, why would you want to be around someone who doesn't make you happy? Why would you want to be around someone you hate? I mean, who would want THAT?"
He said if I told him to leave me alone, and I don't want to see him anymore, he'd hate it, and he'd try to get me to talk.
Well, I'm usually the one who crawls back to HIM. Why not mess with HIS emotions a bit?
After all that has happend, he HASN'T said sorry.
All he says when I ask for an apoligy is: "Well...if stressing out..soo..........."
He needs to take a stand for his actions and stop blaming stress.
I'm not sure, I'm the one who feels like the bad guy.
Friday, I seen him in the morning, and I told him "Look, if YOU want to talk to me, then okay, but otherwise, Later." And I left.
How can walking away from someone who's treating you bad be a good thing,
but walking away, it hurt me so bad?
But then staying hurts anyway.
All I'm asking right now is:
How can I regain his love back?
I'm interested in trying to make it through.
Though I really kind of feel like getting revenge. How do I do This?
What are my options?
What are your guys Opinions?
P.S. He said already that if we broke up, later on he'd probably regret it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 8:22 pm
Stay with him? Are you crazy? It sounds like he is.
But...you love him, apparently, so no matter what we say, there'll be a small part of your brain arguing against us.....
It sounds like he's going through some freaky emotional rollercoaster right now. Give him some space for a little bit, like a week, then ask him what's wrong. If he tries to avoid you, MAKE him tell you. Don't take no for an answer. It might be hard, but it sounds like he's really unstable right now, so...Just be firm with him.
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Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 4:22 am
Okay, it sounds like this guy is on the STORMRUNNER* of EMONESS! Like Jack said, you need to give him space. I know you like him, but just leave him alone for a little while. If he asks you if you're ignoring him, or something like that, then say something like, "I'm giving you space, seeing as your yelling at me has bothered me a lot. I've tried to help, but you've pushed me away (literally). So, I'm going to give you time to figure it out on your own."
*Stormrunner is a 30-second, 2-mile track of rollercoaster! It's so fast! And UNEXPECTED. *Hint, hint*
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Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:54 am
As for the revenge part, it's never the answer and you can only bring more problems on yourself for it.
He seems really unstable and you should probably consider cutting off romantic ties with him. Give him some space like the others said and see how his situation goes. If you think it's "safe" to continue to be with him, do so.
If not you might consider yourselves friends. Try not to let bad blood get between you.
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Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 4:30 pm
Give him some space for a little bit and make him tell you whats up with him after that.
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Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 8:03 pm
It sounds like this guy has some serious emotional issues. That kind of person is the one who easily turns into the abusive boyfriend. It's not your fault that he is like this, so don't ever blame yourself for the way he acts. If he is having family troubles and doesn't fell the way he used to about you, then you have to give him some space. You can't force a person to care about you, you just have to let it go. Try to think about it calmly and move on. Find another crush, hang out with friends, and try to be happy without him.
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