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 Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 2:45 am
Hello everyone,
I want to become a buddhist but I have a few things I have to overcome first.
I am a nice and accepting person but sometimes I have these anger outbursts and I swear a lot, it's really hard to control and I want to stop it.
I also would like to know how to meditate and calm myself from these outbursts or refrain myself from saying something I'll regret later.
Can someone with heaps of experiance help me?
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:47 pm
Don't sweat it. We all have those outbursts sometimes. When you get like that, take a step back. Mentally notice that anger is more harmful to you in the end.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 4:33 pm
Try hard to catch yourself in the midst of one and think about what caused it, if its something you don't need just ignore or avoid that situation, person, or problem.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 7:34 pm
I Kaboom Kaboom Try hard to catch yourself in the midst of one and think about what caused it, if its something you don't need just ignore or avoid that situation, person, or problem. More good advice, but be mindful of the fact that your anger is useless, and ultimately will harm you, and lead to your distancing from real lasting happiness. Open yourself to the things that bother you, recognize them as manifestations of Brahma, or as "just another thing" Don't let your anger get in the way of your happiness.
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Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 4:23 pm
Buddhism is about having feeling, emotions...but not being attached. So when you are mad, then be mad...don't get angry over it, that just makes it worse. Once you take this to heart, you find that you become a happier person.
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Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 8:44 am
Sometimes you need to take a momment and think about what's making you angry, and start breaking it down in steps. Then redirect your thinking.
Example:
Sometimes I get yelled at because I didn't do something, like the dishes, but I don't like being yelled at so I'm always tempted to yell back about stuff They don't do...but then I realize that's not the point, the dishes need to get done. You waste time standing there, yelling at eachother, and it's not worth it. Just solve the problem. So I go to do dishes, and I might get angry at the pile of dishes..... But then when you think about it... why would someone be angry at dishes? The only reason they're there is because you didn't clean them in the first place. And once you get them cleaned, you feel much better.
So, Im not saying that everything is your fault. What I'm saying is that Anger really doesn't help. If you want to be more positive, you need to remove the aspects that make you angry. Solve the problem. Thats the key. Remove the things that make you angry. And if its something being forced upon you, like if your friend won't stop yelling at you for things you can't work out, then perhaps you two need some time away from eachother until the issue is no longer important.
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Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 9:28 am
Another thing->
A good way to remove anger from your life is to increase....Love! heart
or at least Positive situations!
Give yourself credit for little things you do! Whether it's accomplishing your homework or eating something healthy, or helping someone with their day. If you are an animal person, and have pets, spend time with them and let them shower you with love, or better yet, shower them with love. Or you can show your love and appreciation to other people, or best of all, do both!
The more positive your life is, the less likely it is that you'll let something try to ruin your day. You're more likely to find the situation being less stressful than if you had a bad day. It may not bother you at all!
So add lots of love and give yourself some self-credit. And help others when you see an oppurtunity. razz
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