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 Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2014 10:31 am
But what if she cheated on you with a girl? Or your current gf cheated on you with a girl? Would you have different feelings then? Like I said in my original post, just because you and/or your partner sticks with the same gender doesn't mean cheating can't happen. They could still cheat on you with another girl. I get having a personal preference, especially after a bad experience, but don't go assuming all of us are like that. And the 'being bi for attention' stereotype also annoys me. neutral It's the bad apples that give being bi a bad name, not all of us are like that. I'm a true bisexual and I don't do it for attention and I would never even think of cheating. So at least you know one person.
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2014 12:24 pm
I know cheating happens in all couple types. straight gay bi doesn't matter. I know not all bisexuals cheat but I personally feel that they are more likely to cheat. They aren't just attracted to one gender so there are more temptations. I have not personally met a true bisexual. They all admit it is just to experiment or for attention. I claimed to be bisexual to test the water about being a lesbian with my family. I told them I was bi to see how they would react they were fine so I said that I was a lesbian and my dad flipped out. I'm not against true bisexuals but I would not date them. I want someone that only likes woman. So please don't think that I assume every bisexual cheats cuz not every gay or straight person cheats. And from my 19 years of life experience I personally have not met a true bisexual person. Blue Jems But what if she cheated on you with a girl? Or your current gf cheated on you with a girl? Would you have different feelings then? Like I said in my original post, just because you and/or your partner sticks with the same gender doesn't mean cheating can't happen. They could still cheat on you with another girl. I get having a personal preference, especially after a bad experience, but don't go assuming all of us are like that. And the 'being bi for attention' stereotype also annoys me. neutral It's the bad apples that give being bi a bad name, not all of us are like that. I'm a true bisexual and I don't do it for attention and I would never even think of cheating. So at least you know one person.
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2014 3:27 pm
I don't even want to know what you think of a pansexual person. I'm not more likely to cheat just because I'm bisexual. Why? Because I don't believe in cheating. Cheating is just completely wrong. I believe any couple type has the SAME chances of cheating. I feel like you've decided this based on a few bad experiences, now you're pretty much judging everyone who is bi. Not only that, but you keep saying you've never met a true bisexual. So you never really dated a bisexual, then. You've dated a "curious" person. I get that you said you don't assume all of us cheat, but the way you are coming off sure sounds like it. Especially when you say we are more "likely" to cheat. I also understand that you won't date a bisexual person and I understand that you just want a woman who only likes women, but the way you went about explaining it was pretty rude and hurtful. The reason I have trouble coming out or even asking a girl out is because of people who say things like this.
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Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2014 8:02 pm
If I liked a girl that happened to like guys as well as girls, then of course I would date her. A cheater is going to cheat, whether they are bisexual, homosexual, pansexual, etc. Sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not they are a cheater.
By the way, polyamory is different from cheating. I don't think I'd want to be in a polyamorous relationship, but that doesn't mean I think they are less valid.
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Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2014 4:57 am
Hey. Polyamorous "bisexual" here. Yes, polyamory is very different to cheating. You can still cheat in a polyamorous relationship, in my books.
I'll just emphasise something Blue Jems mentioned earlier: What makes you think that just because the person's in a relationship with you, that they won't end up fancying and falling for other girls, if they're lesbian? Similarly, a bisexual may end up falling for guys while in a relationship with a girl. Your genitals don't make up all the attraction, surely? Both have the same amount of chance for these things to happen.
Also, cheating is acting upon the temptations which you feel. The temptations will still be there regardless of whether the person's a cheater or not. The person's dedication to you will determine whether they will cheat on you or not.
~AmaraStarr
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Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:15 pm
AmaraStarr Hey. Polyamorous "bisexual" here. Yes, polyamory is very different to cheating. You can still cheat in a polyamorous relationship, in my books.
Though I want to bring up a new thing that no one else has brought up in this topic: What makes you think that just because the person's in a relationship with you, that they won't end up fancying and falling for other girls, if they're lesbian? Similarly, a bisexual may end up falling for guys while in a relationship with a girl. Your genitals don't make up all the attraction, surely? Both have the same amount of chance for these things to happen.
Also, cheating is acting upon the temptations which you feel. The temptations will still be there regardless of whether the person's a cheater or not. The person's dedication to you will determine whether they will cheat on you or not.
~AmaraStarr I actually kind of did bring that up. wink
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Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:20 pm
Oh, oops! I didn't see that. I'll correct my post.
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Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:23 pm
AmaraStarr Oh, oops! I didn't see that. I'll correct my post. It's quite alright. ^-^
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Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2014 5:49 pm
Blue Jems I don't even want to know what you think of a pansexual person. I'm not more likely to cheat just because I'm bisexual. Why? Because I don't believe in cheating. Cheating is just completely wrong. I believe any couple type has the SAME chances of cheating. I feel like you've decided this based on a few bad experiences, now you're pretty much judging everyone who is bi. Not only that, but you keep saying you've never met a true bisexual. So you never really dated a bisexual, then. You've dated a "curious" person. I get that you said you don't assume all of us cheat, but the way you are coming off sure sounds like it. Especially when you say we are more "likely" to cheat. I also understand that you won't date a bisexual person and I understand that you just want a woman who only likes women, but the way you went about explaining it was pretty rude and hurtful. The reason I have trouble coming out or even asking a girl out is because of people who say things like this. I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings. I am sorry for anyone that got hurt in what i said. I do not have any problem with bisexuals as people just as i have no problem with starights gays or pansexuals. I have pansexual traits myself so i have no room to judge. If anyone got offended please forgive me I am truely sorry and the last thing i wanted to do was hurt anyone or be the cause that people don't want to come out. Trust me i know how hard it is to come out to some people for the fear of what they might think. I really am sorry
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Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2014 8:40 am
The Dearest Dead Well, for me, it would seriously depend on the person we're talking about. Then again, I wouldn't date anyone I don't trust... so, probably yes, as long as I knew they'd be loyal to me, and honest. MS_rainbow_PRIDE this is my honest opinion. No i will never date another bisexual again. Maybe its just our luck but we want to be with another lesbian so we won't have to have the feeling of being left for a guy. We want a gf that wants to be with woman that's it. Most bisexuals i know they just say they are bi for attention. So no never again. Sorry to sound like an a*****e. And please do not get offended just my personal feelings.
The others either wanted male attention or replacement of male companionship
MS_rainbow_PRIDE I know cheating happens in all couple types. straight gay bi doesn't matter. I have not personally met a true bisexual. They all admit it is just to experiment or for attention.. I want someone that only likes woman. So please don't think that I assume every bisexual cheats cuz not every gay or straight person cheats. And from my 19 years of life experience I personally have not met a true bisexual person. Blue Jems But what if she cheated on you with a girl? Or your current gf cheated on you with a girl? Would you have different feelings then? Like I said in my original post, just because you and/or your partner sticks with the same gender doesn't mean cheating can't happen. They could still cheat on you with another girl. I get having a personal preference, especially after a bad experience, but don't go assuming all of us are like that. And the 'being bi for attention' stereotype also annoys me. neutral It's the bad apples that give being bi a bad name, not all of us are like that. I'm a true bisexual and I don't do it for attention and I would never even think of cheating. So at least you know one person.
I think we all have to remember this is opinion and preference, and we are all entitled to them 4laugh
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Posted: Tue Jul 08, 2014 10:17 am
I'm so done with this.
I'm a real bisexual woman.
I am not doing it for the attention of either gender and I would never even think of cheating on someone.
Those who are "bisexual" for attention aren't really bisexual. So, no, it's not true. You shouldn't be basing your opinions on those who are "faking" their sexuality. If you haven't met a real bisexual then you're just basing your opinions falsely and continuing the trend of giving bisexuals a bad name.
I'm really tired of this. This thread is done. I can see that coming out to the rest of the world would be a stupid idea. I don't feel like arguing my sexuality anymore.
Please do not post anymore.
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