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 Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 6:35 pm
I didn't see it in the stickies and I'm sorry if I just didn't see it. Here it goes.
I have tried to have sex before, but I never got through it because I'm exceptionally tight down there. I have considered using lubrication which wasn't available at the time and I plan to use it the next time I try.
Is there a way to stretch out your "hole" to make things more comfortable? I was told there were ways but I wasn't sure how. Well... I know some methods but I didn't know if they were safe to try out.
I have heard that fingering helps loosen and after so often you stick another finger in w/ the original and so on until you get to like three...four fingers. Now for me, I've never found real pleasure in fingering so it be strictly for preparation.
I've also wondered whether or not the v****a may tighten back up....like if I try out the method above, will it tighten by the time I go to try sex again?
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 7:24 pm
Yes I am a guy, but from experience with my fiance I think I can answer this pretty well. First of all, when your stretching yourself it will most likely be painful no matter what. However you do it, may it be masturbating with more fingers like you said, or with a toy (my fiance has told me about different things she's used if you don't have access to a d***o, you can find things that will work), or with a guy if your having sex.
These methods will not for the most part cause any damage, however it's important not to go too far, some pain is expected, however try to avoid bleeding. The best thing from what I've heard is to take it slow. And over time, it'll get more loose...its kind of like building muscles, a little bit at a time and you'll notice results after a little while. As for tightening back up, Sarah and I discovered that to be true too, but generally you have to go for a decent amount of time without sex for that to happen...we're often without it for about a month or two. It won't go back to how tight it originally was, but it will tighten a little.
Finally I'm going to refer you to one of the best lubrication products in the world...Astro Glide. You can fit things too big for holes than you ever thought possible, I'm not joking lol. You may actually find using that, he'll fit just fine...and you'll deal with the soreness afterwards, but it'll get easier next time around. Hope this helped, as I say I may be a guy, but I know my stuff on this topic.
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Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 12:54 pm
Your hole is going to "stretch" more if you're relaxed and lubricated. If you're dry or tense or anxious or whatever, your body is going to tense up and sex is going to hurt more.
I'm confused about what you mean by your v****a "tightening back up". If you have sex or if you masturbate, your v****a will stretch to accomdate whatever it is that is going in your v****a. It's what happens when your body is aroused and turned on and lubricated and the like. After you're done, it should go back to its "standard size", ie whatever size it is when you're not normally turned on or having sex.
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Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 5:42 pm
Nikolita Your hole is going to "stretch" more if you're relaxed and lubricated. If you're dry or tense or anxious or whatever, your body is going to tense up and sex is going to hurt more. I'm confused about what you mean by your v****a "tightening back up". If you have sex or if you masturbate, your v****a will stretch to accomdate whatever it is that is going in your v****a. It's what happens when your body is aroused and turned on and lubricated and the like. After you're done, it should go back to its "standard size", ie whatever size it is when you're not normally turned on or having sex. What I meant was that, while vaginas are naturally elastic, some girls have a bigger hole to begin with whether it's from tampons (i think that's one way eek ) or if it's natural. My close friend and I have talked about it and she said she was really loose down there, though she hardly ever masterbates and has only had sex once. She had mentioned not even feeling him inside. I had asked one of the sex ed councelors (about the hole size varying in the female) about it and they said that it was normal. What I meant by my comment was that, if I do get it to a state where it's bigger and more comfortable now, is there a chance the hole will go down back to its original size. I'm sorry if that's confusing or misleading. I'm trying to word this the best way I know how. sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2006 3:49 pm
I stand by my original answer based on my experience with my fiance which is simply this...
A year or two ago she was too tight for sex to be comfortable for the most part, and now it is much more comfortable. However after not having sex for a while, it's often slightly uncomfortable again the first time, and then it quickly goes back to being comfortable.
From this, I can logically conclude that a girl does stretch based whats going in there and how often it is. However it is true that all girls are created differently as far as that goes.
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Posted: Fri Mar 17, 2006 2:52 pm
Make sure you have a lot of foreplay that is pleasurable on your part. You'll loosen up a bit when you're stimulated and you'll be more relaxed. If you're body isn't providing enough natural lubricants, you'll need to buy something.
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Posted: Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:39 am
I know there are ways the deepen it, but thats not what you're looking for I think.
About widening, i think thee is a way to 'stretch' it out, or how else would you be able to do stuff like fisting...
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Posted: Mon Mar 27, 2006 1:49 pm
Fatal_Rei Nikolita Your hole is going to "stretch" more if you're relaxed and lubricated. If you're dry or tense or anxious or whatever, your body is going to tense up and sex is going to hurt more. I'm confused about what you mean by your v****a "tightening back up". If you have sex or if you masturbate, your v****a will stretch to accomdate whatever it is that is going in your v****a. It's what happens when your body is aroused and turned on and lubricated and the like. After you're done, it should go back to its "standard size", ie whatever size it is when you're not normally turned on or having sex. What I meant was that, while vaginas are naturally elastic, some girls have a bigger hole to begin with whether it's from tampons (i think that's one way eek ) or if it's natural. My close friend and I have talked about it and she said she was really loose down there, though she hardly ever masterbates and has only had sex once. She had mentioned not even feeling him inside. I had asked one of the sex ed councelors (about the hole size varying in the female) about it and they said that it was normal. What I meant by my comment was that, if I do get it to a state where it's bigger and more comfortable now, is there a chance the hole will go down back to its original size. I'm sorry if that's confusing or misleading. I'm trying to word this the best way I know how. sweatdrop It's ok. smile I still think that even if you have a bigger-than-average v****a "hole", it's not going to "stretch" unless you do something like birth a baby or something like that. And even then, to my knowledge it usually goes back to normal. Your v****a "hole" won't stretch from sex. As you said, it's naturally elastic. I mean, I've been having sex for almost 3 years of my life, and from what I've seen/felt, it's no bigger now than it was when I started having sex. Yes I may have a smaller vaginal "hole" than other girls, but the size hasn't changed just because I've had sex. As Kaori said, it sounds like you need to have lubricant on hand when having sex. This will help the p***s enter your v****a, and it will probably make it hurt less. On the other hand, being relaxed and not tensed up will also help a lot too. Once you're stimulated enough and lubricated, you should be a little less tense and a little more relaxed.
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Posted: Tue Mar 28, 2006 9:39 am
Egads, according to some of you people, I shouldn't be having enjoyable sex because my hole would be HUGE by your logic, lol. Nikolita is right, the v****a is a VERY elastic and quite amazing thing. While you might seem "small" to one guy, you might not be with another guy. If it does stretch, it's not permenantly. I've given birth and lemme tell you I've had zero complaints from my husband and while yes it took a few months to heal and fully enjoy sex again, we're back at where we were before I had children. Even after being together for almost 5 years, we STILL run into problems where it can hurt and be uncomfortable if not properly lubricated, foreplay, etc. For the guy talking about "fisting," that is NOT the norm. Does that actually LOOK comfortable to you? Technically, with the right amount of lube, anyone can do that, but the thing about porn stars is that they also have a higher pain tolerance. There is virtually no way around pain regarding stretching a hole that big when a baby is not involved. Also, if you've just been with one girl, you can't logically assume that a girl does stretch on ONE girl. Probability and logic tells me it's probably because you are more comfortable with each other, you know how to get her properly lubricated, and know how to taking it easy again. I'm sorry to call out these posts, but being they're both by men and seem to be limited on experience and actual truth, I don't think it's fair to tell someone that's the truth. Now, there IS a stretching technique but it is for childbirth. It is not painful and is really for childbirth and everything went back to normal. Doing Kegels to udnerstand what muscles you are tensing up during sex is probably a good idea and good for your pelvic floor muscles anyways. http://www.birthingnaturally.net/cn/technique/perineal.html
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Posted: Thu Mar 30, 2006 6:20 pm
for me, im tight too, but i masturbate liek once a day
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