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my dad has a friend at work who was a mtf transgender. she is a full woman now and sometimes my dad feels a little akward around her since he remembers when she was a man and sometimes still thinks of her as a man. cant really blame him, she is the first tansperson/genderqueer he has ever met that he is aware of. i would be nervous too in his situation

well now she will be working for my dad and he is paranoid he is going to say something offensive. lol my dad has little experience with glbt people. i think im the only non straight person he talks to on a regular basis. its fun to watch him be so nervous about something. i keep telling him that he can ask me questions and im sure his new employee wont mind answering questions either if he is unsure about something.

That can be tricky- if she gets triggered, he could find himself in HR trying to keep his job.

His best bet is to just be respectful and if he slips to explain they've known each other a long time and he made a mistake and he would like her guidance on what will make her most comfortable.

Basically a polite "I'm very sorry, it's a bad habit. What would you prefer?"

And my point is that depending on how the questions are asked a person in the work place can feel intimidated or discriminated against and that can be it's own problem.