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Just saying, or telling the spirit you aren't scared isn't enough. You have to really feel it. Maybe even be ticked off and determined. Mentally prepare yourself, build yourself up and make yourself stronger inside and out. It sounds weird but it helps. If you are being haunted then fear could help fuel it, or give it power over you. I wouldn't threaten it, or dare it or anything but just tell it to leave you alone.

Look at certain criminals, they don't just do the crime to do it, they do it for a certain reaction from people. Some like the power struggle, to fear in other people and trying to dominate them. Not saying all spirits work this way but some could. If you're getting scratches and physically/mentally hurt in any way you have to stand up for yourself. If you wouldn't let a person treat you like this don't let anyone or anything else. Tell it that it doesn't have power over you, you wont tolerate it hurting you, and to leave you alone.

I agree with Dog, if it's a problem and you don't feel safe or comfortable in your own home I'd just try it and deal with the punishment. In a way I do really understand where you're coming from with family. My parents wouldn't listen to anything, were selfish, mentally abusive, and wouldn't let me do anything normal teenagers do so I kind of learned that if I wanted to get anything done I'd just have to do it myself and deal with a little bit of yelling and drama or whatever as long as it was worth it. Not saying your family is that extreme but like I said if it's really bothering you, decide whats more important and what you'd rather deal with. Maybe just do it in your room or something so you at least have a sanctuary room where you feel safe.

Dog, you also made me think of something when you said the act and smell of the sage just makes you feel safe. It would help if you had something, could be anything, that's important to you and makes you feel safe. Could be a pet, or something like jewelry. It could even be a shirt. If it was given to you, passed down, or belonged to someone you loved deceased or not think of it as something safe and that while you have it around you nothing can harm you. This might help you if you can't do the sage thing.


Really try and stay emotionally strong. Write things down, talk to friends or other family about it if you can. Other people might be aware of it even if they never say anything about it. That's the one thing I really regret is not telling someone how bad it was at my house and I was really surprised to find out just how many other people in my family saw through my parent's B.S. Do what you need to in order to feel ok. Seriously, this is the most important thing paranormal or not. I don't know what family issues you have or not, or how bad it may or may not be but if it's bothering you then it doesn't really matter and what I said still applies.

That's good. Glad things are beginning to make some sense at least. I've never had conversations with ghosts before, but I've gotten the feeling they were trying to get my attention for one reason or another. (we used to have some busy ghosts in our house when I was a teen. Lots of knocking and bumping at certain times of the night.) But I never really took the time to figure out where to go from there. A lot of what came through my house was just passing through, I figured.

Maybe when you're feeling a little more comfortable, try talking to it again. Find out what its doing hanging around, what it wants to say? Facing it might be a good way to bring some resolve for both of you.

let us know how it goes!